Mike24NY Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 hey i'm new to the board and have a question for the ladies. i am a male in my 20's with hpv, which causes genital warts. i have not had any warts for a few years now. you might not know alot about hpv but some strains causes warts, which usually go away if treated and the virus can be dormant and warts can never return or they can return. my question is for the girls on this board. would you ever date a guy with hpv if he has not had warts for a long time? i only told one girl about this and she accepted it and we dated for almost 2 years, but it did not work out. i fear having to tell someone again. ladies please give me your input on this. thanks. merry christmas.
spookie Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 (edited) First off, though it may be scary to have to tell someone new of your condition, it would be really immoral not to. I hope you know that. Second... yah, I'd date them. Almost everyone has one strain or another of HPV. Sad but true. If I ruled out every guy who was a carrier, there'd be very few people left for me to date. That said, I'd wait till I was sure HPV was worth sleeping with you... but I assume everyone has HPV, so I'd do that anyway. Edited December 26, 2007 by spookie
Jilly Bean Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 Mike - do you always tell women before you have sex with them? If not, D-Lish is going to lash you! lol It's a tough call. I would date someone with an STD, but I also would delay sex for a VERY long time, and then I would probably lose interest in dating him all together because of the lack of sex, so I guess we would break up anyhow. Regardless of how a woman responds, because there are MANY women who will date you AND have sex with you, I truly hope you show them the ultimate respect by allowing them to make their choice and telling them the truth in advance.
Author Mike24NY Posted December 26, 2007 Author Posted December 26, 2007 thanks 4 the replies. yes i tell before hand, just only told one person. i'm just curious how a female would react if they heard this from someone that they were dating. my last gf, i made her wait to have sex. i was honest with her and she wanted to have sex b4 i did. one of her good friends has hpv, so she understood it, so i dunno if that made it easier to accept it.
Jilly Bean Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 Im sure it did. Honestly, posting here, you will get some gals saying they would, others will say no. But its all really irrelevant to whom YOU personally know. I think you are approaching it like an adult. I think if a woman is engaged in dating you, then she will weigh the risk to her health appropriately. But again, good for you for being so honest.
D-Lish Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 Mike - do you always tell women before you have sex with them? If not, D-Lish is going to lash you! lol Yeah, it's important to tell someone. I agree that HPV is super duper common- My close friend has it (a few of my friends do) and she had one bad break out when she was 16 and it never came back. She is 32 now.... Her method had been NOT to tell people. She is with the same guy, has been for 7 years and he has never contracted anything. Do I agree? No- I thought she should have told him. I am in a different situation. An ex has called to inform me he has had herpes since he was 16. I dated him for 4 months and we broke up a couple months ago. Had I known- I would not have dated him. Now i am in the position of waiting- going for bloodwork- monitoring things- freaking out. Here is what is worst- I had been dating someone for about a month, and we had just slept together for the first time a week before I found out. Yes, we used protection... but the worst case scenario is that I unknowingly did something horrible to someone else. I am freaking out right now. Warts wouldn't freak me out. Herpes is a whole different story. If I liked someone- I would overlook the warts. I think you need to date and get to know someone well first- then broach the subject. Do you klnow how many people carry that virus??? It's rampant. What's nuts is that after doing reasearch I have found that 25% of the population carries the herpes virus- 80% of which do not even know because symptoms have been so mild or it's dormant. Dating and sex is scary. I'd appreciate your honesty. I hope it helps you to know my gf has been with her guy for 8 years and he has not contracted the HPV....
Author Mike24NY Posted December 26, 2007 Author Posted December 26, 2007 thanks 4 the reply d-lish. i hope your results come back negative.
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