blobmonster Posted June 10, 2003 Posted June 10, 2003 There's a girl I know. i can't get her off my mind. I have a dream about her every night. But I have a problem. I am too shy to ask her out. I've seen hot girls before, but this has never happened before. Now it's summer vacation and it's too late to ask her face to face. I was so obsessed with her that I looked up her address and phone number over the internet. I could call her, but she'd wonder where I got the number and when I would tell her she'd think I am an obsessed freak (as it turns out I am) and then she'd never go out with me. I don't know what to do... I need all the advice I can get. Any ideas? Any advice that'll help me summon the courage to call her? Anytrhing helpful will work.
ThisGirlNameKD Posted June 10, 2003 Posted June 10, 2003 Have you met this girl before? Have you atleast talked to her before? Does she know who you are? Because if someone called me up that I've never spoken to, even if I'd seen him around and he told me how he got my phone number and address, I would definitely be very leery of him. Some people may not have a problem with it and some people may feel that's cyber stalking activity. Since you're already obsessed with her, which category do you think you'll fit in? I don't know what to tell you. Maybe someone else can offer better advice. But my advice to you maybe to see if the both of you run into each other over the summer, if you have a friend that knows her or her friend and you try to connect to her through that way, or wait until you go back to school and build up your courage over the summer to speak with her.
Author blobmonster Posted June 10, 2003 Author Posted June 10, 2003 We've met before. But we don't talk much. We're not friends, but not enemies either. But yes, she does know who I am.
NEONINK Posted June 10, 2003 Posted June 10, 2003 NIKE ON THIS ONE. JUST DO IT. Next time you see her, SPEAK TO HER! she might be delighted. then ask her out. if she says yes, you will never forget it! if she says no, she won't forget that you are interested. and remember, she might say no for many reasons, like just started to date someone else, but if it doesn't work out, she'll remember you and something might happen later.
baby phat Posted June 11, 2003 Posted June 11, 2003 how did u know her in the first place?! get ur guts out already...cuz next thing u know..she might be with another guy...!! and u never even given urself a chance and the benefits of the doubt.
queenpamrules Posted June 11, 2003 Posted June 11, 2003 CALL THIS GIRL UP AND ASK HER OUT!!!!!! IF SHE WANTS TO KNOW HOW YOU GOT HER NUMBER? THEN TELL HER SHE JUST MIGHT THINK IT WAS PRETTY COOL THAT YOU WENT TO SO MUCH TROUBLE TO TALK TO HER!!!!! TAKE A CHANCE!!!! IF SHE SAYS NO! THEN BUCK UP AND MOVE ON. ATLEAST YOU GAVE IT A SHOT!
km82794 Posted June 12, 2003 Posted June 12, 2003 Well I think my life long motto will work here...... You can't begin to live, until you dare to die. (whether it be from embarassment or whatever). DO IT, DO IT, DO IT!!!! Ok, here's your excuse. Chances are if this girls phone number is on the internet, it is also in the phone book. Find out if it is and if it is, use this as your cover. That way you don't come off as an internet stalker to her (although I understand what you did). If it's not in the phone book, perhaps you go it from and friend of a friend (Wink) ?!?!?! What's the worst that can happen, she says "no, I'm dating somebody"? (Looking over my response makes me wonder why I am so good at this sort of thing, maybe I missed my calling and should have been a lawyer, lol) GOODLUCK!
sisterwhocares Posted June 14, 2003 Posted June 14, 2003 well you can start sending secret admirer letters to her. and see if she responds. and if she does continue until you are ready to reveal who you are. just don't come off as to obsessed that will turn her off you quicker then you just calling out of the blue. make her yearn for something that's true not false.
sibsmaster13 Posted July 10, 2003 Posted July 10, 2003 Man i know what you mean. i like these to chicks at my school but my freind is going out with one of them and the other had a fight cause she liked one of my other freinds.
zman Posted July 11, 2003 Posted July 11, 2003 It's better to regret something you have done, than to regret not having had the guts to do something.
longlegzs80 Posted July 11, 2003 Posted July 11, 2003 I totally agree with Zman. What you need to do is ask her if she would like to hang out with you sometime. That is a very good way of putting it then just comming out and saying will you go out with me. Now, does she show interest in you? Maybe it is something in her eye that says she is totally digging you and are hoping that you would ask her out. With being a women who is also shy, if a guy asked me to hang out with him or go out, I would be incredibly flattered by the offer and would definitly do it. I understand where your comming from and it is hard to do when your attracted to someone. But you don't want to just sit back and keep wondering if she would go out with you or not. Your best bet is to ask her if she would be interested in hanging out with you sometime. Then take it from there. See where it leads. But you know if you don't ask her, this will be hanging over your head for a long time. Let us know what happens. Good luck.
sibsmaster13 Posted July 12, 2003 Posted July 12, 2003 Still they like my friends and one of them are going out with her and i don't hav enough freinds as it is. i don't want to loose any of my freinds.
? Posted July 19, 2003 Posted July 19, 2003 well, the first step isnt asking her out..... chances are if she accepts, it'll be one of those "oh-dating's-a-game" thingys where you'll break up and then be heartbroken (maybe) be friends first, wait til school starts, maybe have some classes with her, and maybe you'll be in her group! if not, talk about her interests, and she'll be interested to talk back to you. keep it up, and let time take over.... BUT, dont let TOO much time take over, cuz she might find another guy.... so be friends with her, but also drop in some hints while talking that you're interested, or some actions (ask her to go to an event... skating, school football game, whatever) good luck
sibsmaster13 Posted July 23, 2003 Posted July 23, 2003 My Best freind likes the one i have liked since the start of high school and the other one i like, likes one of my best freinds enough to fight over her. i still talk to them both. i found out one girl's number cause she lives next door to my cousin and the others cause she lives near my freind. I need halp and i am so F**King shy. i have likes the one i like the most since year 5 and i am in year 9 now.
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