dunstable Posted December 25, 2007 Posted December 25, 2007 My long-term relationship broke up in April 2005 but we reunited in November 2007. Towards the time of our break up, back in 2005, my girlfriend had a female friend who she kept citing as supporting her. I particularly remember my girlfriend saying on several occasions that her friend had told her that I treated her (my gf) very badly and she (my gf) should not tolerate my "nonsense". I felt my girlfriend was in denial about her part in our downwards spiral and the last thing she needed was her friend urging her to be intransigent. I feel her friend caused her to be less compromising and more quarrelsome and that without the influence of that friiend we might have worked things out. As I mentioned, we have now reconciled, but this woman is still her best friend. I am concerned that she will continue to be a malign influence on our relationship. I have told my girlfriend of my concern but she just laughs and says this woman is a good friend to her. Should I confront this woman with my feelings as to the harm I think she did and ask her to stay out of our relationship in the future?
Yellowboy Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 Sounds like her friendship with this girl is deeper than your relationship obviously. If it happened once, I would think it can happen twice unless you notice any sort of personal maturity/development she has gained since you last parted. A girl who listens to others' opinion sounds like she is insecure, easily influenced, and can't really make her own judgments. Sorry I don't have an answer as to how you should confront her further, but all I can say is be very careful.
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