Tony6 Posted December 25, 2007 Posted December 25, 2007 I posted a thread in which I said that I wanted to leave my wife after MANY years of marriage but couldn't bear the thought of living on half our income. The advice I received essentially boils down to two themes: (1) Happiness trumps money, (2) I am totally self-centered. I agree with both themes. I'm going to try merge the two by making a sincere, whole-hearted effort to take the focus off my needs, my wants, my desires by focusing instead on HER wants, needs, and desires. My hope is that, by doing this, I'll find the happiness, contentment and fulfillment I am looking for by losing the all-about-me perspective. (It's amazing how self-centered one can become over time without even realizing it. It makes me wonder how many marriages have been destroyed solely because one of the partners had become, perhaps unwittingly, totally self-centered)! Thank you so much for giving a total stranger some excellent advice. It really did help. In fact, it may literally have changed me and saved a marriage that most men would die for.
brothermartin Posted December 25, 2007 Posted December 25, 2007 Congratulations hommie!!! Give yourself a hi-five for not just giving up! Your right, I would kill to have that kind of partner!
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