OWoman Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 I'm with KC on this one. If she's decided, you should respect her and her decision and back of and leave her be. Else you'll drive her to push for divorce on grounds of "unreasonable behaviour" rather than separation / "no fault", and then all your dirty laundry will get aired in court. Living your whole life predicated on her MAYBE changing her mind is just pointless and sad. I certainly wouldn't want dome saddo like that, and I can't imagine many women would.
Author smileysmile Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 Hey guys thanks for the input. I like it..REALLY. But I agree with because we are separated she can do what she likes etc Yes, but it was because it was so soon. But I am not holding it against her. Initially I blew up because I am still in love with her. Otherwise I wouldn't care less. I don't know the true facts if he M or separated. I have layed off asking questions etc I am taking advice from others on here. They know who they are She is dating this guy. I am realizing 'cos the hurt I gave her this guy was has now left her company was a "comfort" to her. A total opposite guy to what she goes for and he is black. Same black as Eddie Murphy. So what? you're asking. Well this isn't going to work..just trust me. And I don't feel threatened because I have met him My ex was hurting so bad (now I am realizing it) she would have seeked comfort in almost any guy that was offering. That was how vulnerable she was/is. And she knew this ex colleague for 3 yrs and knew he was a good guy although I think he took advantage. She says she has moved on as she doesn't think I can change as she hasn't seen it during our M. So yes I will work on myself and hopefully in time we can work out things. We have a daughter to. Thats not a reason to stay together but it is sure a reason to work on our M and resolve issues. Nobody here has fallen out of love don't fancy each other anymore. Or I sure didn't bore her in the bedroom or any other area. It was my damn gawd behaviour that did it. So guys.. i am for now working on ME so please come back soon but go to my other thread to reply. The link is here somewhere.
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