nicole114 Posted December 25, 2007 Posted December 25, 2007 I'm a freshman in college and in the beginning of November I met this really amazing guy. We met kind of randomly through his roommate whom I have class with and we really hit it off right away. He started calling me all the time and flirting and initiated everything; hand holding, cuddling, kissing, all the cute stuff. I could tell he really liked me and I wasn't sure about him at first but then I started to fall for him hard. We were acting a lot like a couple but there was always this uncertainty bugging me and I knew something was up. Sure enough, after maybe a week and a half of this he started acting a little weird and distant all of a sudden. Then the day after he went on Thanksgiving break he told me that had been thinking about it a lot and he felt really bad but he didn't feel that he could get into a relationship with me right now. He explained that he had only been out of a 2 year relationship for a few months and was enjoying being single. He said it wasn't because he wanted to be a "free agent" or do hook ups or anything; he said he probably put too much of himself into his last relationship.... It's been a month since we've been just friends and it's been really hard because I still really like him. And he told me that he still likes me too. I've never been in a long term relationship and would like nothing more than to have one, so it's hard for me to understand his feelings, and I've told him that. The chemistry between us is still there and things aren't awkward at all. I can't stop thinking about him and remembering how much I enjoyed being with him. I know I just need to give him time.... but it's just been so hard. I really like him and now we're on Christmas break and I haven't heard much from him. I can't help but feel rejected even though he thinks I'm an "amazing person." And I can't be mad at him because he's too much of a sweetheart.... I want to keep hoping that he'll be ready for another relationship in the near future and will seek me out again. He really came on strong the first time, that's why I was so hurt when he told me he wasn't ready. Then why did he initiate the whole thing??? Any advice for this pathetic dreamer?
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