stepheine Posted December 25, 2007 Posted December 25, 2007 I am having a lot of mixed feelings tonight and just needed someone to talk to. I am sad about the way things have to be this year and I have not been in my usual christmas mood. I actually just can't wait until christmas is over. I usually love christmas but not this year. My ex-I miss him... I don't understand what he is thinking or why he is doing this!! It is difficult for me to understand that he wants nothing to do with me or at least this is how I feel because he has asked me not to call that he will call or contact him that he will call me. I am not that bad of a person, I have never had a guy treat me this way before ever!! The way he is treating me bothers me more than the break up because it makes me feel like I was just a good time for him and he can just toss me to the side. But I am a person with feelings. I thought he at least cared for me enough to at least acknowledge my existence. Him asking me to just leave him alone and let him sort out his problems has been very difficult for me. I guess I am wrong for not respecting his request to leave him alone. At any rate there is a part of me strangely enough that is hoping that he is having a better xmas than I am. I truly do hope he is happy. Thanks for listening guys
johan Posted December 25, 2007 Posted December 25, 2007 I am having a lot of mixed feelings tonight and just needed someone to talk to. I am sad about the way things have to be this year and I have not been in my usual christmas mood. I actually just can't wait until christmas is over. I usually love christmas but not this year. My ex-I miss him... I don't understand what he is thinking or why he is doing this!! It is difficult for me to understand that he wants nothing to do with me or at least this is how I feel because he has asked me not to call that he will call or contact him that he will call me. I am not that bad of a person, I have never had a guy treat me this way before ever!! The way he is treating me bothers me more than the break up because it makes me feel like I was just a good time for him and he can just toss me to the side. But I am a person with feelings. I thought he at least cared for me enough to at least acknowledge my existence. Him asking me to just leave him alone and let him sort out his problems has been very difficult for me. I guess I am wrong for not respecting his request to leave him alone. At any rate there is a part of me strangely enough that is hoping that he is having a better xmas than I am. I truly do hope he is happy. Thanks for listening guys Steph, you're obviously in pain. And I can tell you're a very sweet and caring person. Your ex is doing what a lot of people do. You aren't alone. Not that that helps, but I have noticed a lot of breaking up and coping posts the last few days. Just let the holidays go this year, and hope for better next year. And I'll hope for better for you as well.
LakesideDream Posted December 25, 2007 Posted December 25, 2007 The first few years I tried to pretend everything was OK, normal. From holidays full of family, children, reletives (ex's side) to nothing... just me the TV and my friend Mr. Kitty (R.I.P.) I tried to be normal cooked a turkey, or or a prime rib, made the potatoes, yams, veggies. Set the table and had dinner, me and Mr. Kitty. It was all pretty much a waste, of effort, of time, mostly of emotion. I learned that it's silly to try to change what can't be changed. Now I've setted down to a "Normal" for todays holidays. I try to find something good to do for people, I do a whole bunch of Toys for Tots, which is good for me too, I enjoy buying toys for kids. The last two years I've been able to spend with a distant reletive, husband and children for Christmas dinner, cooking the Main course at home, taking it to their house to combine with their fixins. That's been a piece of luck. I was also able to treat some friends to a nice concert and dinner a few nights ago. That was real great too. Try and make the best of it. If things are meant to change, they will. If not? Life will go on. Oh... it's Christmas Eve.. actually 7 minutes into Christmas, I'm watching 'Ghost Rider" on the Dish... not bad for hokey B entertainment. Wish Mr. Kitty was here....
ThinkAboutIt Posted December 25, 2007 Posted December 25, 2007 I have to agree with you. This time of the year is very tough when you break up. I am sitting here watching Tivo having wine, don't feel like doing much. We are social creatures and need it during holidays like this.
spike7165 Posted December 25, 2007 Posted December 25, 2007 I am feeling it too, finally broke up a couple of weeks ago after a rollercoaster and after friendly contact I have been dropped the last couple of days cos she is obviously enjoying herself with the other guy. I am 7000 miles from home and sitting on my own....it really stinks... I think someone should set up a website to meet and chat with people in a similar situation not just forums! I for one would love to talk to ladies in a similar situation maybe we could both help with the opposite sex point of view! Not to find a new person but just to chat with someone in the same boat! If anyone wants to chat on yahoo, let me know! Take care all, to all the good people out there who have been let down at this time of year, our ex's all suck big time! Thanks to all who have helped me and again anyone want to chat let me know!
Author stepheine Posted December 25, 2007 Author Posted December 25, 2007 Thanks for all of the replies guys. Everyone have a marry Christmas!!
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