I don't think he got me a gift :(

[shadowplay]

Yet another gift thread, but I think this is a case of legitimate concern.

 

Some of you will remember I bought my boyfriend a $150.00 ipod for a combined Christmas/birthday present. I'll be giving it to him on New Year's Eve which is his birthday. I've told him that I'll be surprising him with a combined present that he'll really like. I knew he'd probably get me a much cheaper gift (which I didn't mind), but now I'm starting to get the sense that he hasn't gotten me anything at all. He hasn't dropped any hints, and he obviously didn't give me anything before he left on the 22nd to visit his family in another state. I assumed he would give me something when he returned after Christmas, but now I'm starting to seriously wonder.

 

He just called me a few minutes ago to wish me a Merry Christmas. He was telling me how he opened all his gifts tonight and felt guilty since he didn't go Christmas shopping for other people this year. I wasn't sure if he was including me in this statement, but it makes me wonder given that he's never hinted at a gift for me even when I mentioned getting one for him.

 

The worst part is recently I was using his computer and saw an email he wrote to his ex girlfriend a year ago when they were together and he told her he was working on some aspect of her "combined Channakah gift." WTH. Why would he go through all that trouble for her and not for me? He tells me that I'm the first girl he's loved, and he wasn't even in love with her. He said they broke up because his feelings for her never grew past a certain level. So what gives?

 

To make matters worse I had this whole birthday thing planned for him. I was going to get him a cake, take him out to the city and surprise him with the gift. I've hinted that I'm planning something cool for his birthday. I can't believe I would go through all this trouble for him and he wouldn't even give me something small in return as a token of his affection. I'm doing that stuff because I love him and love seeing his face light up, not because I want something in return. This isn't about the gift itself; it's about what it or the lack of it symbolizes in terms of his feelings for me.

 

Am I just being paranoid and freaking out for no reason? Should I just wait it out?

 

I'm really scared. I'm scared that when I see him the day after Christmas he'll get me no gift, I'll lose it and break up with him. I mean don't you think that would be a breakup-able offence? It's one thing if he was really impoverished or had some other good excuse, but I know in his case it would simply be negligence. He's known for awhile I'm getting a gift for him and has had ample opportunity to pick up something small for me. I really don't want to break up with him, but that's the sort of thing that would hurt me so much that it would almost be more painful to stay with him.

 

I wish I could assuage my anxiety by asking him now if he got me a gift, but obviously I can't do that. I'll just have to wait it out.

[Legend]

It's odd that he hasn't hinted at something. I definitely feel for you. But wait it out, see what happens, then let us know. We'll be here for you.

 

Try to have a good Christmas :)

[EYECANDY000]

You will have your answer next year when he return

[shadowplay]

You will have your answer next year when he return

 

He's actually returning on the 26th, but either way I'll have to wait it out I guess.

 

I'm also kind of bummed because he had promised me about a month ago that he would spend Christmas with me and suddenly decided a couple weeks ago that he would spend it with his family instead. I had Thanksgiving with him and his family. It was hard not being with him today.

[Legend]

We're alone on Christmas too.. it sucks I'm sorry...

[D-Lish]

I wouldn't get too ahead of yourself with the gift situation.

 

Perhaps he has a surprise in store for you.

I never talk about what I am getting a bf for b-day or x-mas- I like to surprise.

 

you guys have been together for a while right?

he got you something... why wouldn't he?

 

I had picked up a gift for my now ex a week ago and I knew he was leaving for x-mas and wouldn't be back until Jan 3rd. His b-day is also New year's eve... and I had planned on celebrating his b-day/x-mas gift opening when he returned.

 

Good thing my brother is also an XL so the gift didn't go to waste!

 

I wouldn't worry. See what happens when he returns.

 

I was really beginning to get into the xmas spirit because I was dating someone this year- and it has been a while since I had a bf over the holidays. Now I am just bummed and lonley and grinchy.

[Legend]

I was really beginning to get into the xmas spirit because I was dating someone this year- and it has been a while since I had a bf over the holidays. Now I am just bummed and lonley and grinchy.

 

Amen sista...........

[shadowplay]

I wouldn't get too ahead of yourself with the gift situation.

 

Perhaps he has a surprise in store for you.

I never talk about what I am getting a bf for b-day or x-mas- I like to surprise.

 

you guys have been together for a while right?

he got you something... why wouldn't he?

 

I had picked up a gift for my now ex a week ago and I knew he was leaving for x-mas and wouldn't be back until Jan 3rd. His b-day is also New year's eve... and I had planned on celebrating his b-day/x-mas gift opening when he returned.

 

Good thing my brother is also an XL so the gift didn't go to waste!

 

I wouldn't worry. See what happens when he returns.

 

I was really beginning to get into the xmas spirit because I was dating someone this year- and it has been a while since I had a bf over the holidays. Now I am just bummed and lonley and grinchy.

 

I hope you're right. We've been together about 6 months, but official for less than five. Not sure if that counts as "awhile."

 

Aw, I'm sorry to hear that about your ex. I followed your earlier thread about him. Funny that they have the same birthday! Believe me, I know how much it sucks to be alone over Christmas. I'm feeling pretty alone right now even though I'm in a relationship, and I've been alone in past years.

[shadowplay]

We're alone on Christmas too.. it sucks I'm sorry...

 

Well, I'm glad you guys are here to cheer me up. Thanks for the support.

 

I was watching "A Wonderful Life" earlier with my parents, but it was just depressing me for some reason, so I got on the computer.

[D-Lish]

I hope you're right. We've been together about 6 months, but official for less than five. Not sure if that counts as "awhile."

 

Aw, I'm sorry to hear that about your ex. I followed your earlier thread about him. Funny that they have the same birthday! Believe me, I know how much it sucks to be alone over Christmas. I'm feeling pretty alone right now even though I'm in a relationship, and I've been alone in past years.

 

Well, I think almost 6 months qualifies as a good while.

I am sure he got you something.

I am in fact pretty positive.

Even if he hasn't done so yet- I bet he'll be in the mall next week before he returns.

 

Just remember that guys don't put as much emphasis into the gift giving as girls. It's very hard for them to shop- they don't like it.

 

I own a retail store and I had so many guys rushing in at closing time scrambling for gifts. They are just like that.

 

Yeah, being alone at x-mas sucks ass.

Oh well.

;-)

 

I am on a dating site- and I usually average 10-15 mail messages a day.

I noticed today that the mail has tripled. I think it's a lonley season for many people who are just sitting at home on their computer searching for love. lol.

 

Don't stress out over something you don't know the answer to yet.

Thought about asking "so... what did you get me?" just to put the bug in his head? lol.

[spookie]

I really think this time of year brings out the worst in a lot of relationships. There's expectations of all kinds coming at us from all sides and even if you're acutely aware of the fact that it's all just marketing, it's hard not to feel hurt when something isn't up to your perception of "par" - which is likely much higher in your head than in reality.

 

I dunno. I think presents are a waste of money and time. I never know what to buy for people and I don't much like getting crap I won't know what to do with, either. But I know it'd still hurt me if my bf neglected to get me a gift. I know that because that's happened to me - and what's worse is, my ex actually shopped for his family, cause they'd be "hurt" if he forgot, wheras I, presumably, would not have been.

 

In hindsight I realize it didn't matter. It really said nothing about how he felt about me. Gifts weren't important to him. He didn't care about his and didn't expect me to care about mine. He actually LIKED that about me: how anti-consumeristic I was in theroy. Which I am... but how could I NOT be hurt when all my female friends talked about their cozy xmases involving engagement rings while my bf got me nothing?

 

I dunno what to tell you. I understand, but at the same time, it's in your own benefit to pick your battles wisely. It's important to evaluate how important you are to someone, but typicalconsumerist avenues don't necessarily spell the truth. Your bf spends hours each weekend to come out to visit you, and he wants to have sex with you 8 times a day.

 

I think that's nice.

[oppath]

Shadowplay, wait this out.

 

This is a tough time for me too. Last year I was in a loving relationship. It unraveled so quickly. I don't want to hijack your thread, but xmas can suck for relationships. Being apart and the extra stress from families is tough. I'd wait it out. Give him a chance. And if for some reason he doesn't come through, explain to him why it hurts...because it makes you feel like you aren't a priority and that you aren't in his thoughts.

 

There is no reason to suggest he won't come through at this point.

 

Damn though, I miss my ex and am so angry at how things went down just after christmas last year. I have no idea why she broke up -- I can only assume her feeling changes or I did something to mildly upset her (well, that and her ex proposed to her and she didn't tell me about it, so I would have dumped her had I known) -- and it does hurt to be alone on the holidays. Trust your love. You have no reason not to until he acts funny or does not give you a gift. Don't freak on him. Give him the chance to follow through.

[D-Lish]

Well, I'm glad you guys are here to cheer me up. Thanks for the support.

 

I was watching "A Wonderful Life" earlier with my parents, but it was just depressing me for some reason, so I got on the computer.

 

It is a depressing movie.

I am still shocked by the antiquated material relating to the treatment of women.... the main character is a wife beater! lol....

[Florida]

Shadow you may be reading it all wrong, and all this worrying for nothing!

But I completely understand, because that would be pretty miserable if that was the case.

 

When you talk next, say something like "sooo...am I allowed to guess what my gift is or will you be a meanie and keep it a secret?"

 

or maybe "OMG-I can't wait to give you your gift, it'll be so cute our 1st xmas exchanging our gifts."

 

I know, don't puke from the saccharine cutesiness of it, but you get my drift.

[shadowplay]

Shadowplay, wait this out.

 

This is a tough time for me too. Last year I was in a loving relationship. It unraveled so quickly. I don't want to hijack your thread, but xmas can suck for relationships. Being apart and the extra stress from families is tough. I'd wait it out. Give him a chance. And if for some reason he doesn't come through, explain to him why it hurts...because it makes you feel like you aren't a priority and that you aren't in his thoughts.

 

There is no reason to suggest he won't come through at this point.

 

Damn though, I miss my ex and am so angry at how things went down just after christmas last year. I have no idea why she broke up -- I can only assume her feeling changes or I did something to mildly upset her (well, that and her ex proposed to her and she didn't tell me about it, so I would have dumped her had I known) -- and it does hurt to be alone on the holidays. Trust your love. You have no reason not to until he acts funny or does not give you a gift. Don't freak on him. Give him the chance to follow through.

 

Thanks for the advice. I can't imagine what you must be going through. It sounds like a double whammy between being alone over the holidays and reminded of your ex because your relationship ended at this time of the year. Coincidentally this is exactly when his ex girlfriend broke up with my bf a year ago -- the day before his birthday on Dec 30th.

 

I will give him a chance and wait it out. I'm just not sure on some of the logistics, and how I should handle the worst case scenario if it comes to pass. First, when should I assume he hasn't gotten me a gift and bring it up? I'll be seeing him in NY on the 26th. I'm guessing if he has a gift to give me it will be then, so should I wait until that night or give him a few more days after? We'll be together for all of that time, so I don't see when he would be able to get me something.

 

Another possibility that occurred to me is he may assume my gift to him doesn't really count as a Christmas gift since I told him it's a "combined" birthday/Christmas gift, so he doesn't owe me a gift. This would be screwed up logic, but it's the only explanation I can come up with for a hypothetical giftless outcome.

 

Now, once I have good reason to believe he won't be giving me a gift, what do I say and how do I broach the subject? What if his response is something "I'm just really sorry, I'll get you something soon. I was just negligent." Should I give him a second chance in such a case? I don't know -- that would seriously damage my feelings for him. I wouldn't want a gift at that point anyway.

 

I'm trying to play out different alternatives now since Loveshack may not be available to me when this all goes down.

 

I really hope things work out. *Gulp*

Edited December 25, 2007 by shadowplay

[D-Lish]

You're worrying too much over something that hasn't happened yet.

Just relax sweets.

 

Don't sweat it or broach it until you guys meet and you find out what's going on.

 

Why wouldn't he get you a gift?

He did. Relax about it and enjoy your holiday.

 

You can bring up the next time you talk that you are excited to give him his x-mas gift. That's a sneaky way to plant the seed- without asking outright.

 

Play it that way.

Don't worry though.

He'd have to be retarded to be with a girl for 6 months and then not buy you a gift.

[Star Gazer]

Shadow - I agree with the others. At this point, ya just gotta wait it out.

 

At first, my gut instinct was that it didn't sound good - him not even hinting about a present and saying that he didn't buy presents for anyone is concerning, and while I've poo-poo'ed everyone else for being greedy brats, I can totally understand why NO GIFT at all would be quite upsetting.

 

But then I realized that you told him that you were giving him his Christmas present on NYE to also celebrate his birthday. Perhaps that's when he plans on exchanging gifts because you've already set the date for the exchange? Just an idea...

 

And yes, this is definitely a sad, lonely time of year...even for those of us who have someone to adore.

[shadowplay]

Jesus Christ. I think my relationship may be over...I don't know. I just had a terrible im conversation with him and I don't even understand what went down. I can't stop crying. I'm so so confused.

[shadowplay]

I did a really, really stupid thing and asked him if he got me a gift. I thought it would be okay the way I explained why I was asking but it didnt' go down well. I'm still confused on what exactly happened or what he was trying to say. Here's the convo, but don't be too hard on me guys. I was really trying.

me: thanks [COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]merry christmas

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]not much

[COLOR=#888888]1:06 AM [/COLOR]i'm kind of upset about something but maybe i should just bring it up to you when we see each other

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]Him: well I'm all ears... or eyes... if you want to talk about it now

[COLOR=#888888]1:07 AM [/COLOR]was it the ----- yesterday?

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: no

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]nevermind, it doesn't make sense to talk about now. i just felt like i should tell you since it was on my mind.

[COLOR=#888888]1:08 AM [/COLOR]i guess it's a few things

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]not just one

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]Him: okay, well if you want to talk about it on the 26th I'm game

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: ok

[COLOR=#888888]1:09 AM [/COLOR]Him: can you give me a hint of what it might be?

[COLOR=#888888]1:10 AM [/COLOR]I'm sorry about waking up late and asking if you could take public transportation home... in retrospect it was rude.

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: no, that's not it

[COLOR=#888888]1:11 AM [/COLOR]i guess it's more just a few things that seemed kind of inconsiderate

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]i don't know if i want to talk about it now

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]i don't tend to get upset about isolated things, but when i see a pattern of behavior i start to get worried

[COLOR=#888888]1:12 AM [/COLOR]Him: okay, well I am curious to know what the pattern in question is

[COLOR=#888888]1:13 AM [/COLOR]was it about inviting ---- to that movie?

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: no, although i did feel kind of weird that you were hanging out with him since it seems like he had insulted me

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]but that wasn't what i was thinking of

[COLOR=#888888]1:14 AM [/COLOR]the damon thing isn't a big deal

[COLOR=#888888]1:16 AM [/COLOR]Him: well I qualified ---'s statement as a slip of the tongue... maybe I am being too easy on him

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]well I'll remain in the dark on what I'm doing wrong if that is your will.

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: no, i'll tell you

[COLOR=#888888]1:17 AM [/COLOR]ok, well one thing. at the time i let it go but then it began to bother me more as i thought about it. the fact that you promised me you'd be with me on christmas, and then just decided suddenly to go with your family instead without really talking it over with me. like i can understand why you'd want to be with your family and that would have been fine if you hadn't made that commitment to me or you had least talked it over with me. but you were just like 'it looks like i'm going to have to break my deal with you, sorry.' that hurt me. especially since i went to thanksgiving with your family. i guess i was thinking about that a lot today

[COLOR=#888888]1:22 AM [/COLOR]Him: Well, I'm sorry. It was sort of rash, my parents had a "family meeting" to decide what was going to happen for the holidays and they said that there was going to be a big family gathering before xmas because my grandfather is frail so they wanted to have a special christmas with everybody there. My parents asked if I could drive them down to --- and I agreed (although I think I should have consulted with you more)

[COLOR=#888888]1:23 AM [/COLOR]me: ok, well, i can understand then why yu'd want to go but i would have appreciated more of an explanation

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]the way you did it made it seem like you were kind of blowing me off

[COLOR=#888888]1:28 AM [/COLOR]Him: I'm sorry, Shadowplay; I didn't mean to blow you off. I was sort of just going with the flow. I didn't know what the plan was and I went along with my 'rents proposing a short journey to ----.

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]why don't we have a pseudo x-mas to make up for it...

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]let's reschedule christmas.

[COLOR=#888888]1:29 AM [/COLOR]me: maybe, i guess it depends on when we're in ----

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]we don't have to do that though

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]but it's sweet of you to suggest

[COLOR=#888888]1:30 AM [/COLOR]i missed you a lot today

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]Him: I missed you too, I'm sorry things got so muddled.

[COLOR=#888888]1:31 AM [/COLOR]me: theres something else too, but i can't really bring it up until we see each other. you'll understand why when (and if) i do. sorry to leave you in a state of confusion.

[COLOR=#888888]1:32 AM [/COLOR]Him: I accept those terms.

[COLOR=#888888]1:33 AM [/COLOR]me: but i guess the general feeling is a lack of consideration or something from you. like you tell me you care abut me but sometimes your actions don't suggest it, and actions speak louder than words

[COLOR=#888888]1:35 AM [/COLOR]honestly, i've sort of had this feeling all along in our relationship but i didn't want to ruin things by bringing it up

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]Him: well I think it all comes down to communication... and I will take full responsibility for not opening a discussion of what the xmas plans were.

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: as i said, it's not an isolated incident but a pattern of behavior. i don't hold grudges for individual things

[COLOR=#888888]1:36 AM [/COLOR]i guess we can discuss this more on wednesday

[COLOR=#888888]1:39 AM [/COLOR]this whole thing is just really unfortunate

[COLOR=#888888]1:41 AM [/COLOR]Him: I am open to a discussion about it. I think I frequently am eager to please everybody, but there are often conflicts of interests when it comes to pleasing everybody.

[COLOR=#888888]1:42 AM [/COLOR]if you'd like we could shift the plan so I could come up to [where you live] tomorrow and catch the tail end of xmas with you

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: ok. i guess it feels sometimes like you don't try very hard to please me.

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]Him: but I wouldn't feel like going back to NY the next day

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]well if it would please you to see me on christmas I will make the voyage.

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: the other boyfriends i had treated me differently, even though i liked them less

[COLOR=#888888]1:44 AM [/COLOR]i don't want to guilt trip you into coming though

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]that' doesn't feel rgight

[COLOR=#888888]1:45 AM [/COLOR]Him: well my coming all the way to [where you live] was proposed earlier... I would drive my parents to NY, then empty my room into my car and drive the rest of the way alone

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]which has some benefits

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: where will your parents stay?

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]Him: they are taking the bus to [where you live] tomorrow

[shadowplay]

[COLOR=#888888]1:46 AM [/COLOR]and they will stay at home

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]I was thinking about driving all the way back to [where you live] tomorrow; it's either that or wait in NY and meet you on the 26th

[COLOR=#888888]1:47 AM [/COLOR]me: i guess meeting me [where i live] would make mor sense. maybe i'll go to ny on my own and stay with mmy grandparents if they'll have me

[COLOR=#888888]1:49 AM [/COLOR]Him: okay, well I look forward to seeing you tomorrow then

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR](I was worried about spending xmas alone in NY anyhow)

[COLOR=#888888]1:50 AM [/COLOR]or the day after, however you desire it.

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: tomorrow is fine

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]Him:

 

[COLOR=#888888]1:51 AM [/COLOR]I do love you, and I'm sorry if [going away to christmas with my family] was guilding the holiday lilly.

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: ok

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]that wasn't the main thing though

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]i'm wondering if i should just tell you the other thing now. it's sort of weird though to ask

[COLOR=#888888]1:52 AM [/COLOR]Him: I'll leave it up to you.

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]but I warn you, my eyelids are getting a little droopy

[COLOR=#888888]1:53 AM [/COLOR]so my responses may become less and less coherent

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: i'll just ask you...i was just wondering if you got me a christmas present? if you did i don't want to know what it is (that's not important to me)...i just had this sinking feeling that you didnt get me anything

[COLOR=#888888]1:55 AM [/COLOR]Him: there will be a christmas present for you tomorrow, don't you worry.

[COLOR=#888888]1:56 AM [/COLOR]me: were you not planning on getting me one before i asked though? just curious

[COLOR=#888888]1:58 AM [/COLOR]Him: yes, but honestly I was thinking about a funky gift from [a neighborhood in the city where you and I live] but it's slim pickins here [in the town where I'm visiting my family].

 

[COLOR=#888888]1:59 AM [/COLOR]me: it's not the gift that's important to me at all...it's more the thought...like if you didn't get me a gift that would have really hurt me

[COLOR=#888888]2:01 AM [/COLOR]especially because i felt like i put a lot of thought into what i got you. i did it not because i wanted something in return. i did it because i love you and love seeing you happy. so i just got the sense that you had sort of neglected to get me something and then i felt like why am i putting all this effort into a guy who hasn't put any thought into giving me a gift after we've been together for six months?

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]Him: that's understandible

[COLOR=#888888]2:02 AM [/COLOR]me: didn't you get your ex girlfriend a gift for the holidays?

[COLOR=#888888]2:03 AM [/COLOR]Miles: yes, but because she was Jewish a slightly different procedure

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: yeah but at least you planned something out and got her something

[COLOR=#888888]2:05 AM [/COLOR]are you there?

[COLOR=#888888]2:07 AM [/COLOR]Him: the gears are turning...

[COLOR=#888888]2:08 AM [/COLOR]me: so i take it as a yes that you didn't plan out a gift for me and did for your ex...

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]that really hurts

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]Miles: what part of "I hate christmas" don't you understand

[COLOR=#888888]2:09 AM [/COLOR]just leave the judging for after you tear apart the pretty paper

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: ?

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]i'm so confused

[COLOR=#888888]2:11 AM [/COLOR]if you did get me a gift then this whole thing is moot....it's just i'm getting the impression from what you're saying that you hadn't really planned anything. i still think you don't understand that it's not the gift at all that's important to me. it could be a few bucks and i wouldn't care. it's the fact that you put some thought into giving me something

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]i'm so confused

[COLOR=#888888]2:12 AM [/COLOR]Him: your gift is a trader joe's selection of chocolate from every continent... except alaska

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]I mean anartica

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: you didn't have to tell me

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]that's really sweet though, but i feel like we're not understanding each other

[COLOR=#888888]2:13 AM [/COLOR]i didn't want you to tell me what it was, [shadowplay's bf]d.

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]that's not what was important to me.

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]i think i'm just confused

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]Him: well, honestly, I am pretty tired

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: ok, whatever

[COLOR=#888888]2:14 AM [/COLOR]the way you didn't respond when i said the thing about your ex girlfriend made it sound like you did plan her gift and not mine, so obviously i would jump to that

 

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]conclusion

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]i'm still totally confused, but whatever

[COLOR=#888888]2:15 AM [/COLOR]i also don't understand why you snapped at me

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]whatever

[COLOR=#888888]2:16 AM [/COLOR]obvioiusly you don't want to talk, so goodnight

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]

[COLOR=#888888]2:17 AM [/COLOR]Him: goodnight. (he signs off, but I'mm pretty sure he was still getting my messages)

 

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]me: why are you angry at me?

[COLOR=#888888]2:18 AM [/COLOR] [his name], please

[COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]you're really hurting me

[shadowplay]

the whole conversation confuses me. is he basically admitting to the fact that he didn't planout a gift for me and is just picking up something at thelast minute because i asked? when i say 'it sounds like you planned out your ex's gift but not mmine' and he says 'what part of i hate christmas don't you understand'...it seems like basically an admission of that? Or am I misnterpreting thing and he's saying he had already gotten me a gift and planned something out? if it's the former, then i had a right be annoyed and he shouldn't have snapped at me logged off. if it's the latter, i still could have been easily confused since he wasn't responding to what i said directly, leading me to jump to conclusions. i'm so confused guys. and i know what i did was really impulsive. i just don't get this whole thing.

 

He's never done anything like this to me, ever. Just sign out like that and not respond. We've never had an argument like this. I'm seriously scared that it's over and I don't even understand what went down.

[shadowplay]

I sent him this email a little while ago and he didn't respond:

 

[His name],

 

I don't understand what I did or what just happened. I can't stop crying. I think you misunderstood the whole gift thing, or I misunderstood. I don't even know. You weren't saying anything and I was just jumping to conclusions. I'm so confused. I really love you, and I hate conflict. Please le tme know what's going on.

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[shadowplay]

I feel terrible guys. Almost numb.

[shadowplay]

Just so we're clear his parents' house is in the same city as mine, so when he talks about going to see me tomorrow it's not a big deal since it was one of his possible plans in the first place (he was going to either do that or go down to new york).

[Krytie TV]

Shame on you

Shame on you

Shame on you

Shame on you

 

I can't say any more because I'll only come off as incredibly offensive. How far away are you trying to push him? Nice job starting an argument where there wasn't one too... that was a world class job.