Myz_Heavenly Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 Thanks in advance for reading this...and for any input. I have known this guy for 10 years, and after I got divorced, we felt like we would have a chance to finally have a relationship, since we were out of our shy, teenage stage. We tried it over a distance for a while, with the intention of being together after he got through with his term in the Navy. However, before getting to that point, he cut off contact with me with no explanation---I posted that drama in past posts---and after finally getting back in touch with him in July...5 months later, he acts as if it is no big deal. So, he calls me this weekend, and I tell him I don't think we should communicate anymore. ( I am in an LDR with a guy and I want to see where it goes with a clear conscious.) I tell him I don't have a guarantee he won't leave abruptly again anyway, and he agreed. Now that I have done that, I feel like I have lost some part of myself. I was in love with this guy for sooooo long, and it feels like I took out a part of myself by cutting him out of my life. My question is, is this normal? Is it okay to doubt the decision that i made? I really like this new guy and want to be with him, but how long will it take to move on from the old guy?
Author Myz_Heavenly Posted December 24, 2007 Author Posted December 24, 2007 Anything guys?.....Please?
D-Lish Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 It's so normal to feel that way. You should however feel proud of yourself for making a very hard, but right decision. You did the best thing for you. Not many people are capable of doing that. It doesn't matter where things might head with this new guy- what matters is your old flame isn't giving you what you need and you chose not to put up with it. Good for you. I know it's hard. Try and immerse yourself in the possibilities this new relationship may bring. It will help to dull the sting of your other loss. Hope you feel at least a bit proud of yourself- because you should.
Author Myz_Heavenly Posted December 25, 2007 Author Posted December 25, 2007 Thanks so much D-Lish.... That is all that I needed. Some confirmation that my feelings are normal, b/c it is harder than I thought it would be. And yes I am proud of myself, b/c for YEARS I told myself I could never see myself as walking away from this guy, b/c he was so...I dunno,someone I wanted in my life, and also b/c he's always been put up on a pedestal by his family as being the perfect relationship guy, and maybe he is...just not for me. Me and the new guy have so much more in common anyway, I do believe we are more compatible anyway. Thanks again...and happy holidays!
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