shockandawed Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 I wanted to drop a note and wish everyone on here a very Merry Christmas. To the all the posters who helped a heartbroken man get through last year and get himself back together, my sincerest gratitude and thanks. I don't want to mention names because I will forget someone, but you all were unbelievable. This place is truly the biggest reason I got myself back together. To the new friends, whose Christmas is mirroring mine of last year, my sincerest wishes for you. My ex fiance and I broke up the week before Christmas of last year. I know full well the heartache, the sleeplessness and general feeling of detachment from the world that you are feeling. Hang in there, I am proof that time does heal and you WILL find yourself in a better place. Allow yourselves the time to heal and change yourself and not use anyone else to do it. I am so glad I had the last year basically alone to grow and learn who I am. I really am now starting to see the benefits. My self confidence is now at an all time high. I have had experiences and friendships I would never have had with my ex fiance. Go back to some of my old posts and you will see I didn't always see that. Doom and gloom, I will do anything to get her back, yada yada yada.... Merry Christmas to the greatest collection of people on the internet!!!!
frd150 Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 Thanks Shock. You were there for me when I was at my lowest. I echo what you said and I am not that far behind you. I sure do miss her though esp. now at christmas. Merry Christmas to you and all the best. Keep doin what your doin.
sedgwick Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 I'm so happy for you! What are the most important changes you've made since you broke up that have helped to increase your confidence? Do you feel that you're truly over your ex?
Author shockandawed Posted December 25, 2007 Author Posted December 25, 2007 In essence, I guess I would say forcing myself out of my comfort zone and getting out there. I have spent pretty much my entire adult life functioning as a couple. I married my college girlfriend and stayed married for 18 years. I met the ex fiance shortly after my divorce and was with her for 3 years. I used to be uncomfortable going to any social function alone. I began forcing myself to hang out at buddys bar, go to church, out to eat etc.. alone. I found that eventually I got used to it and realized there are indeed alot of us out there doing the same thing. It seemed the more I did it, the easier it got to open up to strangers and converse. I have truly met some interesting people. People I would have never met if I had been in there with my ex. Yes, I am finally over her. I remember Cali telling me early on I will know when I am over her when I can think of her having sex with her new man and not feel anything. I have felt that way for awhile now. The only contact I have had with her in the last 6 months has been the random emails, ALL initiated by her. They are usually sent around an anniversary date of something we used to do together, such as an annual trip to my friends in Atlanta or something similar. It was a horribly long road, and honestly, I don't think I ever realized how much progress I was indeed making until this week came up. Looking back at last Christmas has made me realize how totally different this one truly is. It is amazing and realizing how far I have came has kept a smile on my face all week.
indignant Posted December 25, 2007 Posted December 25, 2007 Shock. It was really good ready your post. I'm glad you have pulled yourself back up. Knowing that it is possible feels like a breeze of fresh air after being in a stuff room for days..
oasis Posted December 25, 2007 Posted December 25, 2007 (edited) Great and inspiring post. Edited December 25, 2007 by oasis
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