Author phoensam Posted December 25, 2007 Author Posted December 25, 2007 Just play it cool.. dont stress it.. if he email you fine if not, forget it.. hes definately aware of what hes doing.. I agree...thank you.
Legend Posted December 25, 2007 Posted December 25, 2007 Just play it cool.. dont stress it.. if he email you fine if not, forget it.. hes definately aware of what hes doing.. Eyecandy's right on this one. Don't stress, play it aloof.
Mistaken Identity Posted December 25, 2007 Posted December 25, 2007 I agree with the OP. She just asked for advice as to whether or not to meet with this guy and you antagonized her. She wasn't claiming to be having an affair with the guy. For what it's worth, I wouldn't meet with him if it required spending money to do so. Let him come to you, otherwise he may think you are too eager. Does that help? Merry Christmas!
Author phoensam Posted December 25, 2007 Author Posted December 25, 2007 I agree with the OP. She just asked for advice as to whether or not to meet with this guy and you antagonized her. She wasn't claiming to be having an affair with the guy. For what it's worth, I wouldn't meet with him if it required spending money to do so. Let him come to you, otherwise he may think you are too eager. Does that help? Merry Christmas! Thanks so much for your advice and support. It helps a lot and I completely agree! It would be a nightmare for me if he did visit me here though, as I hate the city I'm living in at the moment, lol, but let's see what hoops he'll jump. What a shame he doesn't live local, meeting for coffee or dinner for a first date is so much less pressure and less awkward than more or less committing to a couple day long first date!! It is a pretty good distance between Florida and British Columbia Canada to meet up for a first date! For all I know he's met someone else in the week since I heard from him last...with Xmas party season, that's a real possibility, he certainly wasn't hard to look at. But, I'll keep you advised of any developments. With any luck I'll need some advice re dating other guys between now & the time I meet up with him (I'm always an optimist...lol). Thanks so much again and hope you have a great Christmas!!
Racquel Colette Posted December 25, 2007 Posted December 25, 2007 Why don't you wait and see if he e-mails you to tell you he is coming. You put the ball in his court- it is his turn to respond. If he is going to be in town again- it will be up to him to contact you! I'd leave it at that for the moment because there is little else to do when you don't have other forms of communicating besides e-mail. The rule still stands- that you e-mailed last, now it is up to him. Good luck. I agree. to the OP...PLEASE get the books He's Just Not That Into You and The Rules. You could benefit from them no matter what your age. Leave the poor man alone, after a while your emails are going to seem like they're harrassing him. He doesn't OWE you anything. He didn't even seek you out to say GOOD-BYE at the casino! AND he made YOU email HIM first. A real gentleman asks the woman for her number/ emails. I know this is hard to believe but you CAN make a PHONE CALL from EUROPE to the U.S. If he really liked you, he'd be asking for your phone number, not this emailing busines. My verdict: He's Just Not That Into You. Smitten while drinking in a Las Vegas casino and ditching without saying good-bye does not = a man who is taken with you. It = a man who is possibly looking to get laid.
Author phoensam Posted December 25, 2007 Author Posted December 25, 2007 (edited) I agree. to the OP...PLEASE get the books He's Just Not That Into You and The Rules. You could benefit from them no matter what your age. Leave the poor man alone, after a while your emails are going to seem like they're harrassing him. He doesn't OWE you anything. He didn't even seek you out to say GOOD-BYE at the casino! AND he made YOU email HIM first. A real gentleman asks the woman for her number/ emails. I know this is hard to believe but you CAN make a PHONE CALL from EUROPE to the U.S. If he really liked you, he'd be asking for your phone number, not this emailing busines. My verdict: He's Just Not That Into You. Smitten while drinking in a Las Vegas casino and ditching without saying good-bye does not = a man who is taken with you. It = a man who is possibly looking to get laid. Hi Raquel, I don't know if you've confused my post with someone else's??? I hadn't emailed him for almost 2 weeks!!! So, no, he's not being harrassed by my emails. Quite the opposite, he's made it clear he likes me and wants to get to know me better. And the reason I emailed first, I didn't give him my contact details, but he did give me his. I find guys do that with me a lot...it is smart & safe for them as they don't have to worry about calling & being rejected, and they know I will call if I am interested. In fact, I collected 3 guys numbers on that trip to Vegas, without giving mine out once!! As for "he didn't seek you out to say good-bye"...he didn't have to...from the time we met we never left each other's side, til he left, which was just a few hours before I had to board a plane. He said goobye to me, but his friends were only metres away. You also seem convinced men just "want to get laid"...I said above, and will say again, I've never had that experience. There are lots of guys who aren't like that, you just have to get out there and meet them ladies. I'm thinking those of you making those sorts of comments are probably teenagers, when guys are more likely to try that sort of stuff on silly women. A lady that carries herself properly and doesn't act desperate or slutty doesn't come across these sorts of problems as much as others. If you act like a lady, they will usually treat you like one. I think you should all start your own thread about how men just want to have sex, instead of coming onto my thread, where it really isn't an issue, no matter how hard you try to make it one. Edited December 25, 2007 by phoensam
Author phoensam Posted December 25, 2007 Author Posted December 25, 2007 He just called to wish me Merry Christmas! And tells me he got me a present to give me when he sees me!! He seems so sweet and I'm so glad I didn't put an end to it so soon. When he started talking about where we should meet up, I suggested he come visit me instead, and he said he would do that...probably second week of January. So, now I've gotta hope we still like each other after a few more hours together or it could be a really awkward weekend!! Thanks for your help (to those that did help!) and Merry Merry Christmas!
spookie Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 Let me get this straight..... You met a guy in Vegas who lives on the other side of the world, and you're considering taking a trip from Canada to Florida to meet up again while he's in the US? Are there no prospects closer to where you live? I'm with whoever said that they'd meet up if it took no money to do so. To travel hundreds of miles to see someone you met once in Vegas sounds a little absurd to me, no offense.
Author phoensam Posted December 26, 2007 Author Posted December 26, 2007 Let me get this straight..... You met a guy in Vegas who lives on the other side of the world, and you're considering taking a trip from Canada to Florida to meet up again while he's in the US? Are there no prospects closer to where you live? I'm with whoever said that they'd meet up if it took no money to do so. To travel hundreds of miles to see someone you met once in Vegas sounds a little absurd to me, no offense. You sure didn't get it straight...there's no way I'd do that!! He's flying from Florida to Canada to see me....big difference. Do you think he's nuts, or would you only say a woman's nuts for doing it?? BTW, I had a guy fly from Australia to Canada for me before, so Florida ain't such a big deal...lol.
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