I want to leave but...

[Tony6]

I want to leave my wife after MANY years of marriage, but cannot bear the thought of living on half of our income. If you have any advice, I'd appreciate hearing it.

[Curmudgeon]

I want to leave my wife after MANY years of marriage, but cannot bear the thought of living on half of our income. If you have any advice, I'd appreciate hearing it.

 

...suck it up and live on half the income. If the almighty dollar is more important to you then stick it out and don't complain!

[whichwayisup]

Money isn't everything, but your happiness is. If you don't love your wife and you want out, then go. Let her find someone who will love her, she deserves that happiness too.

[Rocky69]

It sounds like you are scared to leave and are focusing on the money as a way to avoid the real fears that you have about being alone. If that is the case then you really need to examine what those other fears are and know that not only will both of you be better off with the chance at real happiness, but you are strong enough to be alone, regardless of money.

[Citizen Erased]

Can't bear the thought? After many years of marriage, the only thing you can't bear the thought of is not living on a certain salary. Yeah, that's healthy.

 

Get a lawyer, start the divorce proceedings, and deal with cutting back on a few things. No amount of money will ever make up for staying in that sort of situation.

[MissMaris]

When I left my ex I was worried about living on half my income as well. It was very difficult at first.

 

You know what? I now work a full-time and a part-time job and I've learned to scale back on things -- I buy clothes from the clearance racks, don't eat out much, do more cooking and live more simply.

 

It is TOTALLY worth it. Happiness is worth more than money, any day.

 

Save some money so you have a little nest egg, then get a divorce.

[sedgwick]

Are you serious?!?! Oh my god...wow. That's some real selfishness right there...