Proceeding to the next level....How do you do it? Who says what?

[MissingMyHubby]

Well I had recently mentioned to a friend how I am not getting a whole lot of butterflies from this girl I have been kind of seeing. I think I got them yesterday, and today I actually miss her quite a bit. Yesterday I hung out with her and her sis in addition to her sisters boyfriend and a few cousins. This was at a local dive bar. We then went back to her parents house where I was invited to spend the night on the couch. We talked topics of having kids, abortion, and religion all until 3am. The next hour was a makeout session, followed by her leaving to sleep in her own bed (respect the parental units rules/etc.)

 

I left in the morning after briefly meeting the parents. Tonight I got an email and it reads:

 

hey *****

well, i think i saw enough family tonight to last me until next year j/j, they are pretty great people, it was fun. also ate enough to last me awhile too.lol. but good food like that only comes 3-4 times/year, so just have to eat it up! anyhow, i take it u got to route 14 ok.. hope u weren't tooooo late for work with sherry!! thanks a lot for coming down, i had fun! at 7pm on the 24th i have a church service to go to, and christmas morning/midday i'll be seeing some relatives, but after that my days are open so if u want to do something, gimme a shout out. well, im about to crash on the basement couch since ryan is still here. maybe i am turning into a couch-girl after all!

ttyl,

******

 

My response went like this (let me know if I screwed up)

 

Wow, i just randomly logged onto facebook and saw I had a msg, and looked at my watch and you must have just literally just sent it. Creepy!! Your message will clearly indicate and prove this by the close timestamps. Anyways, it took me exactly 1 hour to get to work, so I was 12 minutes late. No big deal. And its Cherry for the record, hehe.

 

I enjoyed coming down, wasn't sure if it would be worth it considering the 2 hour drive round trip, with perhaps only 2-4 hours of hangout time, but I was proven wrong and I am certainly glad to have come. I mean I guess I have driven 8 hours to be in P-town for 12 hours once.... Enjoyed the late night convo's too yesterday evening....

 

Tomarow, I work 11am-3pm, then eating dinner at presumably 530pm, then doing absolutely nothing until Midnight mass. Christmas day, pretty much wake up to my hearts content, open a couple gifts, and eat some b-fast and I will be good to go after that. If you are game for running/hanging out/anything I am game. Might as well since you are up here, right? And the days after that...well my calandar is pretty open too...So don't hesitate to shout out this way either.

 

Have a good night couch girl,

 

Signed, Couch boy

 

 

She is here for 3 more weeks so I would like to optimally hang out with her as much as I can (within reason) before she becomes 4 hours from me. I think she likes me a lot but isn't showing her cards (as I am not either.) Like yesterday, she gave me a random card with a keychain from American Eagle. She also mentioned that I left a shirt of mine behind, and she smelled it and it reminded her of me. Good things. Good vibes.

 

Where do I go from here? Let her bring out the "talk?" Keep playing it somewhat cool? I would like to exclusively date her down the road methinks. Methinks she has the same plans as well, but again, is not showing her cards to me....

Edited December 24, 2007 by MissingMyHubby
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[Jilly Bean]

Hon, watch some of your wording. I wouldn't say "creepy" for something that was a coincidence, and I wouldn't tell someone I wasn't sure they would be worth the trip, even though you were proven wrong. It comes off a little badly, even though I know you were trying to sound interested...

 

And she told you she wanted to get together, and all you did was give her your intinerary, and then tell her to contact you.

 

Man up, ask HER out, and please watch the wording you use...

[D-Lish]

agreed, nevr put the word creepy into a love letter...lol- no matter what the context.

 

No- I don't think you ruined your chances.

Ask her out- nail down a date. She isn't in town for long and you have a small window.

 

She has opened the door with her e-mails- and the shirt smell thing is a good sign. Smell is the most powerful sense for attraction- the pheramones!

 

Ask her out. Don't wait.

;-)

[MissingMyHubby]

I sent her another email because of what you 2 people have pointed out....And I would rather send 2 and have it come off as I care than her to see just the 1 and have the possibility of thinking I am a jerk

 

This is what I wrote:

I am now heading to bed too. Wanted you to not misinterpret my last FB msg....When I said "creepy", I meant coincidental. Not literal creepy as in a bad connontation...Mine was to be taken in a good one. Also, I think it sounded bad when I said "wasn't sure if it would be worth it.....etc" God, that must sound like an *******-ish comment. What I meant was that we weren't 100% sure how long people were to be out, and considering I wasn't to get there until 11pm...You understand what I meant...It was nothing personal against you as if to say you weren't worth hanging out with. That's why I threw in how I did make the 8 hour drive to your party for such short hangout time. It WAS worth it.

 

And lastly, I will call you tomarow night after 9pm (when I think your church service will be out) and we can set something up. I wasn't pro-active in my last FB msg, so I will be in this one. Sometimes writing it a 2nd time makes much more sense.

 

G'nite

 

 

[D-Lish]

LOL.

You don't have to explain yourself- no need to back peddle.

 

you don't need to try so hard- it's good- I think she already likes you.

[MissingMyHubby]

Like I said Id rather clear the air for misinterpretations rather than let her only see the 1 message and perhaps think of me differently.

 

Back to the original question....How do I progress this to the next level?

 

[D-Lish]

Hammer down a date.

That's how!

[shadowplay]

Honestly that second email makes you sound insecure. In the future when you make a mistake, just let it be. Don't try to damage control or it may backfire.

 

Good luck.