GreenEyedLady Posted December 28, 2007 Posted December 28, 2007 I know that for me, I appreciate everyone's advice. I know that not everyone will agree with the choices that I have made... just as I may not agree with anyone else's opinions. Each situation involving MM/OW is highly different and that is something I've learned here on this forum. I joined this forum to vent. To find others in similar situations as mine. To share experiences, thoughts, feelings and to listen to advice from others. To grow as a person and learn from the relationships I am in and have been in.... From time to time I also share my own opinions. I think that if comments are said with respect then each person can take what they want (or don't want) from them... NOW..... For a quick update: My MM signed a lease for an apartment and told his W that he doesn't want to stay married! However... he's yet actually move out of the house and start the paperwork. At least he seems to be really moving forward... I'm cautiously optimistic. Thanks for all of your thoughts/advice/etc. I (we) still have a long road ahead of me (us)... Enable your PM's as soon as you're able...It's usually at 100...And be somewhat careful what info you give out on the public forum...You never know...
SpanksTheMonkey Posted December 28, 2007 Posted December 28, 2007 (edited) Who's being defensive now? I wasn't attacking you at all...Just making an observation how OW are expected to answer questions that really don't mean very much in your personal situation...and I say "your" collectively... I don't need a pat on the back...I'm here to support and encourage others...I'm not here to answer people's questions...If that were the case I'd start a column and call it Ask GreenEyedLady... Encourage them? I find that disturbing to say the least but thats just me and my personal point of view. Which like you I'm entitled to have here being this is a open board. Why wouldent cirtin questions mean very much to OWs? Aparently your observation is incorrect as at least one OW here said she dosent mind to take in diffrent points of views And I don't acatualy remeber my orignal Q even being aimed at you personaly. But by all means go ahead start a colum but a suggestion make it a closed one were there would be no chance of any one actualy not compleatly agreeing with you. Now back to the orignal poster sorry if the thread got off base here a bit. But I was courious about the mindset of the OW in genral while I don't agree with it I do hope I dident offend you. Edited December 28, 2007 by SpanksTheMonkey
SpanksTheMonkey Posted December 28, 2007 Posted December 28, 2007 NOW..... For a quick update: My MM signed a lease for an apartment and told his W that he doesn't want to stay married! However... he's yet actually move out of the house and start the paperwork. At least he seems to be really moving forward... I'm cautiously optimistic. Thanks for all of your thoughts/advice/etc. I (we) still have a long road ahead of me (us)... This I can respect its sad the marrage dident work but least hes ending things! I hope things work out in the end for you # 1 even tho I can't condone how the relashionship started off.
woe_is_me Posted December 28, 2007 Posted December 28, 2007 I think mine is really close.... I want to say that he's not leaving for me ~ I believe in my heart he is leaving because their marriage is and has been over for a long time. It's just bad/good luck that we met when we did. Wow. This rollercoaster just keeps on going! This is hands-down the hardest thing I've ever done and it's a constant battle of emotions. I love him, I really do ~ but now that things are really happening I'm scared. I'm scared that we won't work. Statistically the odds are against us. He sold his Range Rover. He sold his Harley. He told his W he is moving out on or before Jan. 1. So, he's definitely following through with all the talks/planning/etc. so that he can afford to support her and a new life on his own. He came over this morning and we talked.... I've been through a divorce myself, so I told him about how I broke the news to my exH. He broke the plans we had today so that he could go write up "talking points" so that he could tell her it's really over in the next couple days. I'm a whole mess of emotions. I'm nervous because I don't know how this is all going to play out. I have no idea if he is going to tell her about me or not? If so, how will she react? Then, throw in the holidays on top and it's pretty overwhelming. I've been trying to get outside ~ hit the beach or the gym to keep my mind from obsessing about something I have no control over. He's been a distant, which I know is normal. He is still grieving a little over the fact things didn't work. I know that he does love her and doesn't want to hurt her. BUT too f*cking late for that, huh? Has anyone had their MM really leave? What happened? Did they tell the W about your relationship? Are you still together?? wowwwww he sold his Harley!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that's just wow ..just look after you..If they sell the Harley then they really are mixed up... good luck...! i wish u all the best
woe_is_me Posted December 28, 2007 Posted December 28, 2007 u know ..i was out the other week..and i saw this couple..and i said to my friend...theyre havin an affair..and she said..how do u know.i said..loook how close theyre sitting... knees touching..married couples dont do that... he had a work t shirt on too....u dont work at midnite where that shirt was from.. a cpl hours later..i heard a harley... mr work t shirt was riding off into the night... with no passengers...home to the wife..obviously!!!!!!!! ....hah im clever he reminded me of my ex mm and she reminded me of me..thats how i knew..
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