fabulousgal Posted December 23, 2007 Posted December 23, 2007 So, should one feel beaten if all they really want to do (mind you its been only a week) is be alone and kinda remain horizontal? I know I should be out running or socializing, but I just don't wanna. I have so many questions about the relationship, life, pain, etc that I just want to be alone. My feelings are still hurt. Most of you on here are reeling from LTR that broke up, mine isn't the case. It was short, sweet, and ended real abruptly. I think its more, I saw something super happening, didn't he? Granted the story is a lot more complicated than I care to go into, but I feel like I can jump into things and try to ignore my hurt feelings (and some of it may be from unresolved issues before he was even around), or kinda let myself wallow and do things as I start to feel more up to it. Yesterday I finally went out for a drive, grabbed coffee, and went to the bookstore. I felt better. Then I woke up this morning really mad and cried a bit. I guess it sounds all normal when I write it out, but as its happening I'm like WOMAN WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU snap out if it! Sigh.
sedgwick Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 Ugh, I had the same kind of day! I dreamt we got back together (like I do pretty much every night) and it was very detailed. I woke up and my best friend called to tell me he got a job offer out of state and is going to take it. I jut lost it. I mean, of course I'm happy for him because he hates his job and the new one is exactly what he's been trying to find for two years, but I just thought, how could you leave me now? (Obviously I didn't say that; I'm not a *complete* psycho.) It just felt like...everyone I love goes away. So I cried and cried, and then a friend called me to go out for coffee, and I got there and cried to her. It was pathetic. But I felt better afterwards. She made me go shopping with her, and it felt good just to be outside and walk around. I still feel low, but I feel a hell of a lot better than if I'd just sat at home and moped all day. This is such a rough time of year, isn't it? I don't think there's anything wrong with needing time to be alone and cry and dwell. Just make sure you have friends to drag your a$$ out into the world if need be.
randuff Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 I think alone time is great. Just don't make it the norm in the future. You will need to get back out there eventually.
Author fabulousgal Posted December 24, 2007 Author Posted December 24, 2007 i know. i just don't feel very good right now. my feelings are hurt. it happened during my bday, and out of the blue. i mean i really know how awesome i am and everything i do. but my feelings are hurt, my chest gets tight and i wasn't ready for it to end. i dont know what the future held, but i liked this person in my life and was very excited for more to come. its hard too bc i want my friends right now to take me out etc, but its xmas so i can barely get in touch with anyone. so then i just retreat and try to nap or something so i stop thinkng about it. but i got out again tonight and just wandered around some stores. on the way home i started to feel all numb again. i do give myself credit for the way i handled everything though.
AriaIncognito Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 There will be times where you'll want to just be alone or lay around. heck it's been 6 months for me and I still do it on occasion. As long as you dont make it a habit, it's fine. Judging by the pictures from your birthday, I know you had a good time then :-) Try to focus on the happy times when you're feeling down. I know, easier said than done.
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