Tony6 Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 Be yourself. If that's not enough, then he's the wrong guy for you!
brothermartin Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 Nothing is solid, every single thing can go topsy turvy each day. Routine and predictability is not nature's way, nor the fickle creatures called humans. Each day a crater can hit, electricity outtages, things break, energy sources are exhausted, new wars started, just to name a few examples-how can we expect different within the context of a relationship? Or is it realistic to expect that people don't change? Agreed. People do change. Even when that change is not expected. Your original question was how to keep a mans interest. Sometimes change will do it if things have gotten boring, sometimes it will ruin the relationship. Depending on the measure of change.
Author SouthernT Posted December 24, 2007 Author Posted December 24, 2007 It's kind of a tough question to answer without knowing anything about you and your dating patterns. If you were dating emotionally available men who are also looking for a relationship, find you attractive, have common core values, and don't carry a huge amount of baggage, that would be one thing. But, it can't be assumed that the problem with retaining men has to do with anything you are, or aren't doing or possess. Of course, this also brings up the converse, and provides that you are all of the above as well. Bottom line, it's just not that cut and dry to be able to offer advice on why you aren't retaining these men. Many factors on both sides go into the dating equation... Well here's my thing...Im 28 yrs old, college degree like pretty much everybody, in shape, go to the gym approx 3-4 days a week, not much of party animal. I enjoy social settings, I'm just not one for the night clubs very often. But other social settings, I enjoy. Pretty quiet and reserved, but I DO have personality and enjoy laughing. When I say quiet or reserved, I mean that I'm not the type to walk up to a guy and initiate, HOWEVER I keep a friendly smile to let men know that I am approachable and welcome it. Not the type of girl who expects to be up under a man 24/7. Don't expect to have every second of a man's time. Don't have casual sex or FWB type situations....Anyhow, I say all of this to say this: I keep meeting men that say they would'nt be able to satisfy me emotionally because they work too much. Now, this very well could be the case, but to me it's a cop out. I'm at a point in my life where I'm not actually out "LOOKING" for it, but I am mentally, emotionally, and spiritully READY for it when it does appear. Make sense?
Meanmistermustard Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 This is right on Krytie TV! What keeps me interested in women is when they reciprocate the effort that I put in. I behave largely out of pride, for right or wrong, so if I see that the balance is becoming uneven, it tends to turn me off. If the man happens to be the one doing the initiating up front, which is no problem, that does not necessarily mean he always wants to. Also, contrary to popular belief, we do like to be spoiled now and then and be made to feel special. We are not all emotionaless machines and some of us like to be told that we're special and such. This can come through action as well as words, and should.
lino Posted December 25, 2007 Posted December 25, 2007 What keeps me interested in women is when they reciprocate the effort that I put in. I behave largely out of pride, for right or wrong, so if I see that the balance is becoming uneven, it tends to turn me off. If the man happens to be the one doing the initiating up front, which is no problem, that does not necessarily mean he always wants to. Also, contrary to popular belief, we do like to be spoiled now and then and be made to feel special. We are not all emotionaless machines and some of us like to be told that we're special and such. This can come through action as well as words, and should. Don't think it can be said any better than this!
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