shadowplay Posted December 23, 2007 Posted December 23, 2007 Merry Xmas to you too! Here's some facts: I think when you are a woman age 20-26 is the time to meet a guy in that age range also who will be fresh and undamaged and be able to fall head over heels, so choose wisely now SP. After that you're gonna have baggage, and the guy will too and he will never be able to fall in love with the same abandon as he did in his early 20's. I asked my ex if he treated any subsequent GF's as good as he did to me after we broke up and he was like "hell no! I'd never be that stupid again!" and as you can see on LS forums many guys will reiterate that. Now the good news: Truth is you really have no idea what David's dynamic is like or if he was exaggerationg to overcompensate for same awkwardness on his side. And you don't know what weird issues would come up with him either, it's a mystery so the mind fills in with grass is greener thoughts. add-on: Re-reading some parts I am positive David was rubbing it in so you'd feel exactly the way you do now, don't let him play on your emotions like that. Did you ever consider writing? You have mad skillzz Hi Florida, Thanks for the thoughtful advice. I agree with what you said about dating guys in their early twenties. Unlike many women, I'm generally not attracted to guys much older than I am. I like the slight innocence and idealism guys have in their early twenties. I don't want to date somebody who's already been hardened by experience. I've been lucky enough to have only dated guys who are relatively inexperienced in terms of relationships. I don't believe I could handle somebody with a lot of baggage. It would trigger all of my insecurity. I think what disturbed me partly abut the thing with this guy David is it seemed like he was being passive aggressive to me even though I've never done anything to hurt him.
Florida Posted December 23, 2007 Posted December 23, 2007 I think what disturbed me partly abut the thing with this guy David is it seemed like he was being passive aggressive to me even though I've never done anything to hurt him. Well he sees it as you hurt him just by not being with him. And that comment about the Hungarian girl being cuter than you-PUH-lease if it was true he wouldn't need to say it. Sour grape man. Your post got me thinking-I think it is best to be happy with what you have, I know it seems like people are interchangeable -well-because it does seems that way. But each day you can choose to not be that way too. OTOH-if you feel unhappy with his level of devotion-I guarantee you could get more-but I also guarantee you'll have different issues too. A friend of mine started dating Mr. amazing seeming guy. He was so into her, I thought everything was perfect. She drifted away-I thought it was just normal relationship focus stuff, no biggie. Turned out he was physically abusive and controlling behind closed doors. Of course I found that out after she broke up with him, she never told anyone while it was happening-I thought they were the "perfect couple"
Author shadowplay Posted December 23, 2007 Author Posted December 23, 2007 On an unrelated note, are the first two posts not showing up for anyone else? Only the last two posts show when I click on this thread for some reason.
Citizen Erased Posted December 23, 2007 Posted December 23, 2007 Nope they aren't. There have been some problems for the past half hour or so, not sure if the mods are doing anything about it or not tho
D-Lish Posted December 23, 2007 Posted December 23, 2007 everything is going crazy on here... I thought it was because I had too much beer... but it turns out it is because there are problems with the site.
Legend Posted December 23, 2007 Posted December 23, 2007 Where's the first half of this thread? or did it start with the top post?
Author shadowplay Posted December 23, 2007 Author Posted December 23, 2007 Well it looks like my first post has gone poof. *tear*
Legend Posted December 23, 2007 Posted December 23, 2007 I agree with what Florida said "hell no! I'd never be that stupid again!" Every relationship that ends, the less and less I try. Sad but true.
Author shadowplay Posted December 23, 2007 Author Posted December 23, 2007 Where's the first half of this thread? or did it start with the top post? I wrote a lengthy first post and it got deleted when the site crashed earlier. Ah well.
Author shadowplay Posted December 23, 2007 Author Posted December 23, 2007 I agree with what Florida said Every relationship that ends, the less and less I try. Sad but true. How old are you if you don't mind my asking? When you say "try" do you mean that you don't let yourself fall in love anymore?
Legend Posted December 23, 2007 Posted December 23, 2007 How old are you if you don't mind my asking? When you say "try" do you mean that you don't let yourself fall in love anymore? 22. By try, i mean, I like most guys I think, treated our first girl friends like there was no other in the world. And as I continuously got burned, time and time again, i put less and less effort into each relationship. Came as a surprise at first that when I stopped putting in effort, the girls started to.
Florida Posted December 23, 2007 Posted December 23, 2007 22. By try, i mean, I like most guys I think, treated our first girl friends like there was no other in the world. And as I continuously got burned, time and time again, i put less and less effort into each relationship. Came as a surprise at first that when I stopped putting in effort, the girls started to. Thanks for being so honest L, that's exactly what I was saying. and @SP- do you have any way of writing your post again? A copy? It was really good, it's a shame it is floating in the uncharted territory of lost cyber space information. People-this woman can write like nobody's business!
MystifiedByMen Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 On an unrelated note, are the first two posts not showing up for anyone else? Only the last two posts show when I click on this thread for some reason. I agree, I can see the other posts too. Too bad, it seems like it's interesting.
Author shadowplay Posted December 24, 2007 Author Posted December 24, 2007 (edited) Thanks for being so honest L, that's exactly what I was saying. and @SP- do you have any way of writing your post again? A copy? It was really good, it's a shame it is floating in the uncharted territory of lost cyber space information. People-this woman can write like nobody's business! Thanks for the compliment, Florida. Glad you enjoyed it. Unfortunately my memory is foggy on what I wrote before, and it would probably take forever to piece together. Ah well. Edited December 24, 2007 by shadowplay
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