I'm Being Stalked.

[Sand&Water]

I found out a couple of days ago. I don't know what to do. I feel ill.

 

I met a man 2 weeks ago and ever since he's been constantly talking and trying to get a hold of me. I don't know him thoroughly well; only acquaintances. He is chasing and suffocating me with "intense love" stuff... persistently and repeatedly praising me. I can feel he is preying on me.

 

I'm scared. What's going on? What should I do?

 

I am thinking of confronting him about it. Is this the right thing to do?

 

I wish I can vanish.

 

Sand&Water

[ElvenPriestess]

Here's what you HAVE to do to start out. The next time he calls, you answer. You say "You've made me beyond comfortable, and I"m only going to say this once. Leave me alone. I don't want to talk to you, I don't want to see you. So stop."

 

Now the reason for this is two things. One, he will see how serious you are and should get the picture and back off. Two, if he doesn't, you have the legal grounds you need to filing for a restraining order. You have no basis unless you have CLEARLY made your position clear to him.

[Nemo]

I'm scared.

I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. Grab a friend, and be assertive - you want him to back completely off. Best to go for safety-first, and seek some professional advice. He could have a screw loose.

 

But don't panic. You can take control of this situation. Hopefully he is mostly harmless.

 

Now take a deep breath. If that doesn't work, then read this:

 

http://members.tripod.com/~heinzb/harrass.html

[D-Lish]

you only say "no" once....

You hear me? You don't fool around with stuff like this.

 

Any attention is positive for him- even the word no- or any sort of correspondence.

 

You need to stop returning any correspondence- and if it persists- get a restraining order.

 

I have had similar experience- and I want you to be safe please.

D

[Nemo]

you only say "no" once....

You hear me? You don't fool around with stuff like this.

 

Any attention is positive for him- even the word no- or any sort of correspondence.

 

You need to stop returning any correspondence-

What she said!

[EYECANDY000]

If he keeps calling you then apparently hes not getting the picture.. Next time just tell him your not interested. But theres no point in meeting him in person to tell him.. That sounds to dangerous