Bemused gal Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 So.. contrary to opinions about my prior post..I decided to go with Mr. nice guy.. because he was too sweet and nice and did all sorts of nice stuff. However.. What does a girl have to do to get a kiss around here! We've been out on 6 dates... and every date has been a ball of fun. I invite him to my apartment..feed the guy wine and cheese..put on a movie...talk till 2.. At 2 he gives me 2 kisses on the cheek and goes home! I think I may be an unknowing fag hag any tips?
Rooster_DAR Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 Here ya go.... http://bp1.blogger.com/_QuFw8BAAkAE/RqNs0pbmA3I/AAAAAAAAAJU/FuB4d-094hI/s1600-h/Animated_Kiss.gif
fral945 Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 Why don't you just be direct? When you two are alone together next time, tell him playfully "So, when are you going to kiss me?" That would work on me, lol.
Author Bemused gal Posted December 21, 2007 Author Posted December 21, 2007 bah. he gave me two kisses on the cheek..and I said..is that all? not good a hint enough? and then I gave up and said goodbye
Dynamo Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 He is probably nervous and is afraid of coming off too strong on you (he doesn't want you to think he's overly pushy / trying to make you uncomfortable). You can try taking initiative next time. Speaking as a former shy-guy, if the girl took the initiative I'd certainly get the hint and kick it into high gear
Author Bemused gal Posted December 21, 2007 Author Posted December 21, 2007 I thought I was direct enough. Apparently I was not =( I guess inviting someone over, plying him with alcohol, and talking about mistletoe does not jam. So basically I need to knock him over the head with a club, drag him to my den have my way with him..and then he will say..hmmmm i think this girl likes me enough.
EYECANDY000 Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 He may be a little shy and just being respectable. why cant you make the first move? He is showing interest by giving you small pecs on the cheek... when he trys to give you a kiss on the cheek turn your head and let him kiss you on the lips!!!
Dynamo Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 I thought I was direct enough. Apparently I was not =( I guess inviting someone over, plying him with alcohol, and talking about mistletoe does not jam. So basically I need to knock him over the head with a club, drag him to my den have my way with him..and then he will say..hmmmm i think this girl likes me enough. Well like you said he sounds like a nice guy, like Eyecandy said he may just be trying to be respectable. Try what she suggested, see if it helps! Of course, your backup plan (dragging him to your den) certainly seems like it'd work, too
underpants Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 I don't know what to tell you either. Although I am considering investing in a club. Next time you wine and dine him....spill the wine on your button down shirt and then just take it off in front of him. Then look at him and say ...not fair and toss a glass on his shirt.
Jilly Bean Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 OK, not trying to be mean here hon, but are you certain you don't have bad breath or something? Do you smoke and maybe that turns him off? Sometimes people can have halitosis and not even know it. Just a thought...not saying it is your issue, but it might be. 6 dates and a kiss on the cheek? I think you might be in friendzone. Even the shyest guy would have attempted a kiss by now, me thinks...
Dynamo Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 OK, not trying to be mean here hon, but are you certain you don't have bad breath or something? Do you smoke and maybe that turns him off? Sometimes people can have halitosis and not even know it. Just a thought...not saying it is your issue, but it might be. 6 dates and a kiss on the cheek? I think you might be in friendzone. Even the shyest guy would have attempted a kiss by now, me thinks... Ouch, I must have missed where she said they've gone on 6 dates.. That is a little odd that he hasn't even tried to kiss you after that long. Either he's REALLY shy or not that into you.
Legend Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 6 dates.... I think he's either gay, or the most chicken**** guy i've ever heard of.
Green Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 yeah it is strange he'd keep going out with you so its hard to say hes not interested. Id be doing alot more then kissing you if I was going out on a 6th date with you.
CraigAllen Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 I don't know what to tell you either. Although I am considering investing in a club. Next time you wine and dine him....spill the wine on your button down shirt and then just take it off in front of him. Then look at him and say ...not fair and toss a glass on his shirt. OK, that was great Somehow I don't think that would work for us guys, though.
clandestinidad Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 In my experiences, if I've ever said "Is that all" to a guy they haven't known what I was talking about. I think they need a little more clarification. I'm not saying they're dumb...they just seem to take criticism differently than we do, and when they hear a phrase like that they try to figure out what they did wrong. Maybe saying something like "Do you think we'll ever kiss on the lips", or "How about a real kiss next time?" or "When are you comfortable enough to kiss a girl on the lips?" or something like that would get through to him. Don't fault him for being reserved and respectful. It doesn't have to mean anything negative about either of you. The sweet and innocent ones usually don't know what to do, and sometimes we have to show them....which can be LOTS of fun!! Many years ago, after a few dates with a guy he took me home. We were standing at the door for a few extended seconds (I was waiting a moment to see if he would kiss me), and he said "What?".....DUH!!! Seriously, some people have no clue
Krytie TV Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 Just throwing this out there, but if he has this much difficulty with correctly executing a romantic kiss, then I can't imagine he's exactly a dynamo in the sheets. I don't think it was mentioned yet, but do you want to be with a "sexual weenie" with no confidence or sexuality? If I were you, I would consider whether a 7th date is really worth your time.
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