DJ Dancer Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I POSTED THIS THREAD IN ANOTHER FORUM BUT I WOULD LIKE MORE INSIGHT IN ANOTHER FORUM AS WELL AND I DONT EVEN KNOW HOW TO COPE ABOUT THIS SITUATION.... okay i'm a get to the point first and then get to details later. Okay I broke up with this guy that i was dating for lil over a month almost two months, well he lives in jeresy and he was in CO to do some music cuz he's a singer so anyways b 4 he left he wasn't sure of doing a long distance relationship but said he would try it wit me and see.Then he told me that he was a different person when he is at home meaning that he like the local celebrity and he got girls chasing him and all that crap.Then he said he didnt trust himself meaning that he would cheat on me but he doesnt want to put me through that,but me i was still wanting to be with him but he told me he wouldnt cheat but its a possibilty it could happen. Then like that weekend before he left we was talking about us and that the distance was the problem we broke up so I thought.Then like two days later i went over to see him becuz i thought it was his lastnight here then he was all in my face talking about I wanna be with you and that we never broke up when I know we did and i gave in becuz I wanted to be with him and he was the one saying he wanted to be with me and try the long distance.That night we were supposed to go out but he stood me up! didnt call and say i cant make it or nothing so i called him the next day and he was like my manager pissed me off so im like is that why we didnt go out and he was like yeah. Then that was his last night here and i wanted to see him and spend time with him but instead he went out with his friends. I was a little skeptical about us being back together becuz @ first he wasnt sure about it and now he wanted to do it so I wanted to make sure he was serious about us so i wrote him on myspace t ask where we stood and he didnt say anything back. so he left CO wit out telling me goodbye i would go three and four days witout talking to him unless i said something first. and he acted like everything was fine. so he just wasn't acting like he wanted to b wit me so i asked him if he did and he was like he not sure becuz i'm so far away, and i wrote him back saying well we both agreed to try it out and it seems like i'm the only one tryin and thats not fair, and he ain;t say nothing bak so i'm getting mad and fustrated and i got to the point where i couldn't take it so i wrote him and was like ur right bout the distance wit us and we should break this relationship off and be friends, so he wrote back and was like thats fine sweetheart what can be friends just keep in touch with me and i'll call u later. which he never did. I waited about almost two weeks and wrote just to say hey and see how his music is going and he ain't respond back.. so i left it alone and then i wrote him on his music page in may just to show love and comment on his songs and a picture. and i still ain;t here nothing from him. i'm hurt and mad becuz i'm tryin to be a friend to you and i dont get nothing back its been 8months and nothing in return still and makes it so bad is that i talked to my friend about it last week and he was like me write him and see if he say something back to me, and he wrote my friend back and said something to him so I said well let me see if he will write me back and say something to me or really doesnt want to talk to me anymore..and he read the message but didnt reply back.. This whole time I was making up excuses for him thinkin he busy wit his music but he got time to write somebody else back the he dont even know and ignore me like I was nothing to him..I feel like i messed up and did something wrong to him and i cant figure out what I did to him for him to be mad at me and not speak to me? Now i feel hella guilty for breaking up with him and trying to figure out what I did to him for him to be like this towards me.. details.... he's a singer form jeresy he was in Co to do music. I met him at my job we hung out and after that night of us first hanging out we been spending almost everyday together. he told me about how his girlfriend for about 3 years cheated on him, and how i'm the realest female he ever met, how he's comfortable around me and he felt like he known me for years which i felt the same way because he was different so i thought. anyways he would call me just to see how i was calling me just to let me know he's about to record and all that good stuff, and everything was good then he asked me to be his girl and i said yes. things were good he was thinking about stayin in colorado becuz in jeresy he wouldn't focus on his music like he was in CO and then he changed his mind becuz he missed his family. and i know he was like when i get back home i'm gonna be trying my best to get signed and all that.....but i just don;t know why did he do me like that???? i'm so hurt because i really really liked him and i thought he really liked me too.
Author DJ Dancer Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 WAS I USED TOO????? HERE IS EXTRA DETAILS TO HELP OUT EVEN MOREE.... Okay here is why Im asking was I being used too because...Please don't judge me after 3 weeks of knowing him and 1 week of dating him out of those 3 weeks we slept together and several times after that..I told him no that I didnt want to because I wanted us to get to know each other but everytime he would talk me into having sex with him when most of the time I didn't want to..I know I should have stood my ground a little more but I didn't being afraid that he would go out and find someone else.... Also before we broke up and before he even left to go back to his hometown we got into a very heated argument..It started off by him saying Im talking to somebody else and my friend who was with me at the time said out loud well where is he hearing that from and he heard and got mad at me and was like well have a good life and hung up in my face..So I called him back and was like what was all that for and he didn't say anything back but the argument progressed from when he hung up on my face..He said that I probably slept with someone the other night which was not true and said that we should pretend like we never met and see if we can do it..and I was like why and he said because I think it would be best for the both of us..and then he said he felt guilty for having sex with me because he didnt want me to think that was all he wanted from me... So I went over there to talk to him about all the crap he said to me and I asked him was he serious about all he said to me and he just shook his head no, and I asked him why did he say all that then and he just said he didn't know so then we talked about our relationship and he was like the distance is the problem and we decided to break up and I was actually alright about it..Then two days went by and I went over to see him and he was all in my face talking about we never broke up and that he wants to try us out he was saying all this while he was trying to kiss on me and unbuckle my pants..I told him he better be serious about and not playing around me and my head just so he can have sex with me he said he was serious.... So of course I gave in because I cared for him so much and wanted to be with him so bad, and we ended up having sex, but something about it just caught my attention when he grabbed the condom out of this corner really fast and I tried speaking on that but he was like come on and quit talking so we did end up having sex and after I just didnt feel right about the relationship..... Fast forward.. he leaves town doesnt spend time with me nor told me goodbye after two weeks of him being gone he wasnt even acting like my boyfriend I would go two-four days without one word from him UNLESS I made the contact first! Ever since that day we got back "together" I wasnt feeling right about the relationship..I called the relationship off because he was right about the distance but I also called it off because he wasnt acting like my boyfriend but I didnt tell him that part and feel guilty for not telling him that..should I feel guilty? So my questions are was I used? And am I wrong for breaking up with him but not telling him that I was also breaking up with him because he wasnt acting like my boyfriend??
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