PerfectLee Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 When he/she didn't know you were there, did you listen in on a conversation they were having over the phone or w/someone else ABOUT YOU? I did...last week my GF & I got into a fight, I left the house to get some air, came back in & she was on the phone in the bedroom talking to her best friend "venting" about me. She said some really hurtful things about past experiences w/me, not at all about the argument we were currently in. These "things" I knew already, but they were said with such anger and force. I felt like barging in the room saying "That's NOT how it happened!" but I just sat on the couch listening. I really didn't mean to listen in, but I couldn't help it. She walked out & saw me there, thankfully she apologized immediately (cuz she got caught!) & explained that she was venting & didn't literally mean any of it. I've been on edge this past week, making sarcastic remarks about what she said, feeling awkward about her talking SH*T about me, which I know is not habitual for her. All couples fight, but when you hear it in their own words when they're not talking to you about them, it comes out differently. I'm just curious about you guys...what happened and how did you deal with it?
Cobra_X30 Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 When he/she didn't know you were there, did you listen in on a conversation they were having over the phone or w/someone else ABOUT YOU? All couples fight, but when you hear it in their own words when they're not talking to you about them, it comes out differently. I'm just curious about you guys...what happened and how did you deal with it? Dump her and see how she responds! I think at this point you have to be willing to lose her in order to keep her!
MissMaris Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Well, look at it this way.... If everyone who knew you could be privy to all your thoughts and feelings at any given moment, don't you think it's possible there would be things they wouldn't like to hear? We vent when we're angry. It's called venting for a reason. You let off steam in private, away from your loved one, so that you don't aim it AT them. Once you've vented off the negative energy, you can try to work through your problems in a calm manner. You shouldn't have heard what you heard.....and I'm sure your girlfriend feels terrible. Try to move past this incident. Seriously. It's not the end of the world to hear someone talk some s**t about you when they're angry.
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