DJ Dancer Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Alright this is DJ back again to post here instead of contacting him..I have another thread for those who havent read that one http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t138241/ hopefully after reading that thread you will understand where Im coming from and talking about... Okay here is why Im asking was I being used too because...Please don't judge me after 3 weeks of knowing him and 1 week of dating him out of those 3 weeks we slept together and several times after that..I told him no that I didnt want to because I wanted us to get to know each other but everytime he would talk me into having sex with him when most of the time I didn't want to..I know I should have stood my ground a little more but I didn't being afraid that he would go out and find someone else.... Also before we broke up and before he even left to go back to his hometown we got into a very heated argument..It started off by him saying Im talking to somebody else and my friend who was with me at the time said out loud well where is he hearing that from and he heard and got mad at me and was like well have a good life and hung up in my face..So I called him back and was like what was all that for and he didn't say anything back but the argument progressed from when he hung up on my face..He said that I probably slept with someone the other night which was not true and said that we should pretend like we never met and see if we can do it..and I was like why and he said because I think it would be best for the both of us..and then he said he felt guilty for having sex with me because he didnt want me to think that was all he wanted from me... So I went over there to talk to him about all the crap he said to me and I asked him was he serious about all he said to me and he just shook his head no, and I asked him why did he say all that then and he just said he didn't know so then we talked about our relationship and he was like the distance is the problem and we decided to break up and I was actually alright about it..Then two days went by and I went over to see him and he was all in my face talking about we never broke up and that he wants to try us out he was saying all this while he was trying to kiss on me and unbuckle my pants..I told him he better be serious about and not playing around me and my head just so he can have sex with me he said he was serious.... So of course I gave in because I cared for him so much and wanted to be with him so bad, and we ended up having sex, but something about it just caught my attention when he grabbed the condom out of this corner really fast and I tried speaking on that but he was like come on and quit talking so we did end up having sex and after I just didnt feel right about the relationship..... Fast forward.. he leaves town doesnt spend time with me nor told me goodbye after two weeks of him being gone he wasnt even acting like my boyfriend I would go two-four days without one word from him UNLESS I made the contact first! Ever since that day we got back "together" I wasnt feeling right about the relationship..I called the relationship off because he was right about the distance but I also called it off because he wasnt acting like my boyfriend but I didnt tell him that part and feel guilty for not telling him that..should I feel guilty? So my questions are was I used? And am I wrong for breaking up with him but not telling him that I was also breaking up with him because he wasnt acting like my boyfriend??
Author DJ Dancer Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 Any advice????? Please guys Im loosing my mind over here...
Author DJ Dancer Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 Any male input??? Anybody???
melodymatters Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Uh, no, you were VERY RIGHT to break up with him, and he doesn't even deserve a courtesy phone call telling him that. Sorry, but it sounds very much like he was using you. Be glad the jerk is out of your life !
Author DJ Dancer Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 Uh, no, you were VERY RIGHT to break up with him, and he doesn't even deserve a courtesy phone call telling him that. Sorry, but it sounds very much like he was using you. Be glad the jerk is out of your life ! Thank you very much melodymatters...I thought for so long that I was wrong for calling it quits...So I shouldnt feel guilty about not telling him that he wasnt being a b/f to me?? I mentioned it to him before we broke up when I asked him did he want to be with me and he wasnt sure...
Author DJ Dancer Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 I feel so stupid thinking we were friends this whole time..Writing him to see how he is and his music is going...Telling him happy birthday and what do I get in return from him??? NOTHING.... I feel so stupid for contacting him all those times thinking everything was fine with us as friends and they really werent....I should have just left him alone! But being the nice person that I am trying to have a friendship with someone who hurt me!
melodymatters Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Don't fee badly ! We all do stupid things in the name of love ! Now, your next assignment is to learn from this and do better next time ! Never treat a guy better than he treats you, never make excuses for a guy if he treats you badly. Always look at their actions, not their words ! You will meet many more men in your life. It is up to YOU how you are going to let them treat you. Use this as a learning experience of what DOESN'T feel good or work for you ! better luck next time dj !
Author DJ Dancer Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 Don't fee badly ! We all do stupid things in the name of love ! Now, your next assignment is to learn from this and do better next time ! Never treat a guy better than he treats you, never make excuses for a guy if he treats you badly. Always look at their actions, not their words ! You will meet many more men in your life. It is up to YOU how you are going to let them treat you. Use this as a learning experience of what DOESN'T feel good or work for you ! better luck next time dj ! Thank you melodymatters..BELIEVE ME this is a learning experience! I never thought he would be like this to me..after all that talk about "us" now he won't even speak to me and I have blamed myself for too long thinking he is hurt or mad at me and I replayed over and over in my mind what I could have done so wrong for him to not even speak to me on a friendly level.... Thanks again!
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