fabulousgal Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 i hurt like this. we didn't even date that long, but we did talk very much and had all these plans. i am eating and sleeping ok, but i feel so down. not just emotionally but physically too. i know im a great girl and have a lot to offer someone. i just thought something was happening here, and it ended very abruptly. when i woke up this morning, i prayed...not for him of course (let em walk i say, even though its not what i want) but for strength to make the bad feelings pass and get back on my feet after i feel kinda knocked down. my therapist says i am having a grief reaction to a loss. i agree, but knowing i didn't do anything wrong and the split had nothing to do with me, and the fact i can get many many many dates...why isn't this enough to absolve my hurt? , but hopefully very soon!
Ronni_W Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Maybe it is more than the loss of the 'physical' stuff like the many conversations, being together, etc? The future plans have ended up being just "dreams that won't ever be fulfilled" -- and that is a different kind of loss, perhaps? I had a similar thing a number of years back -- it wasn't long but it was 'sweet' (he was), and I missed it/him way past my intellectual understanding, too. Best of luck - and Happy Holidays
Author fabulousgal Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 thanks, and i thought he was pretty freakin awesome. all of that i guess. i haven't had a lucky life in love so far to date, and its getting a little old to hear, you just havent found the right person or it'll get better w time. im not even sure im looking for mr right i am looking for mr longer than 3 months! i dont even know what a nice long term serious relationship is like. i've had one that lasted like 2 years when i was 17-19 and it was horrible! omg i just realized that was like 8-10 years ago. don't get me wrong i have an amazing life. traveled the earth, cool job, i have money to do things, family is together and strong and loving, a wide social group, love to go out and have fun, live in a fabulous city, and i am a real nice goodhearted person. when i read the list above, i am like how can i possibly be upset/hurt/not concentrate over a boy who was brand new in my life. but yet i am. time goes by, so slowlllyyyyyyyyyyyyy......
Author fabulousgal Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 my threads must be boring, no one ever writes haha. anyway, i guess i'll just reply to myself since i'm unable to really do anything today workwise bc i can't think about much other. i also think the last few days have caught up with me and i'm getting sick. i need a personal day i think. i've been non stop since this happened with company and work, with poor sleep and constant thinking, i need a day just to sleep, lay around, vent and cry. i'm tired right now, im not productive, and i'm unhappy. people telling me, oh you'll meet someone and it takes time, right now i want to tell them all off. its like don't tell me the cliche sayings, i know i'll meet someone else but right now one person hurt me and im not ready to think about anyone else. at least im keeping this all to myself and not him. hooray for nc, even though its kinda driving me bonkers.
sao2 Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I can relate to people telling me "you need time" and all the other cliche's. I have resorted to telling people I have resolved to being single for life. I actually think that short relationships where we feel a connection can get into our heads pretty deeply. There is not only a sense of loss but also a sense of unfulfilled potential. The feeling that things ended before they even got a chance. That can be a powerful feeling of loss. Especially when that feeling of being connected to somebody can be rare for some of us.
Ronni_W Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 my threads must be boring, no one ever writes No, no, it's ME...I think I have a gift of being 'FabulousThreadStopper'
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