GRITS07 Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Is it possible to fall in love with someone in 4 days? I know this sounds ridiculous, but can it happen? Can someone meet all your criterea and you know that the connection in almost magical? Destiny? Divine gift?
Zero Degrees Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I think it's infatuation. You haven't had enough time with this guy to start noticing the little niggly things that could start to irritate you. You also haven't had a proper snapshot of his life, that only happens with time.
Author GRITS07 Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 Oh, I agree and things won't progress fast, trust me, I'm not that type of woman, but dang it, it feels so right. It's what I've prayed for years - and it's right before my very eyes. I'll take it slow, don't worry, but I'm quite smitten.
a4a Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Yes you can fall head over heels with who you think that person is in just a matter of hours. It takes years to know if you are in love with the person they really are, if you actually ever find out who they really are.
Author GRITS07 Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 Oh I know that all too well. People can make you believe something they're not and I was married to that type of person. I'm cautiously in love, but there will be no real commitment for a considerable amount of time. Love grows, but the chemistry is so intense, it's like I've been waiting for him all of my life.
a4a Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Oh I know that all too well. People can make you believe something they're not and I was married to that type of person. I'm cautiously in love, but there will be no real commitment for a considerable amount of time. Love grows, but the chemistry is so intense, it's like I've been waiting for him all of my life. ehhh give it some time and you will be feeling like you have been waiting all your life for him to take out the trash as you requested.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I'm not a big believer in that. How can someone meet all of your criteria? How can they also display them honorably in 4 days? You are "in like" for now.
Author GRITS07 Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 Wow, I've been asking myself the same questions because I'm miss practical. It just feel right! I can't explain it. And, I can take out my own trash.
a4a Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 That new boyfriend smell will be gone soon........... then he will just become a ride.
Author GRITS07 Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 Well, I'll just enjoy the ride while it lasts. It's too exciting.
Tyra Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 No, that's infatuation. I could understand if you said four months, but you said four days. That's ridiculous.
Dazed1 Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Pheramones and endorphins dear Grits. You have already said you are going to take it slow.... so what the hell! Enjoy it! -Dazed
MissCourtney Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Yes definitely. I met my (fiance now) at a strip club in Austin, Tx where I was a cocktail server. and We went home the first night,and just talked all night. (NO SEX!) and a week later we moved to DC together and are now to be married. I am a huge believer in destiny. So my answer is yes c
D-Lish Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I've become infatuated with someone quickly- Never experienced love at first site though. Knowing me I would fall head over heels and then do something on purpose to give me/him reason to walk away. ;-) Just enjoy it- It sounds nice. I think a true connection is progressive rather than instant.... but a spark like this right off the bat is hard to find, and most likely indicative of developing a great connection.
Author GRITS07 Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 Well, it doesn't matter what it's called, I'm totally smitten. If you know my sitch, you know that I have been through hell and dog on it this is just too wonderful of a feeling to let it pass and try to analyze myself out of this. I'm going for it, if I fall, well it'll be a lesson. I don't plan on having sex with him until our relationship does mature a little, but to have someone whisper endearing things, hug me, carress me and make me feel as though I actually matter, it's priceless.
D-Lish Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 That's so nice to hear that you are willing to take the risk! Just out of curiousity- how did you get to that head space? When you've been hurt- it's natural to push good opportunities away. I do that over and over again- sabotage after self sabotage. SO I am curious to know what opened you up to this. Did it just take the right man- or was it something you did for yourself to become more open?
Author GRITS07 Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 I honestly think it took the right man. I told him that I was fragile and that I could break and he told me that he'll wait and prove to me that he's worthy of my trust. I dunno, it seems too fast, too good, too everything which causes me to sit up and be concerned, but I'm going to play it safe. I'll be careful with what information I share. I have nothing but time....but did I mention how special and wonderful he makes me feel? Have I mentioned that I never thought I could feel again, yet here I am feeling all of it? Wow, did you all notice that the sun was shining a little brighter today?
Author GRITS07 Posted December 23, 2007 Author Posted December 23, 2007 Okay, so I've spent a lot of time with this new guy. Uh oh, I think I need to get rid of him but I need some help on how to do this. First of all, I've bought groceries, cooked for him and he has yet to even buy me a cup of coffee. When we finish dinner, he just gets up from the table and goes to watch TV. Then I took the dogs for a walk and when I got back into my home, he was in my entertainment center looking at my stuff. How do I tell him this is a no go. We connected so strongly at first, but I'm having major red flags. HELP!!!!!
Jilly Bean Posted December 23, 2007 Posted December 23, 2007 That new boyfriend smell will be gone soon........... then he will just become a ride. LMAO! Well put...
Author GRITS07 Posted December 23, 2007 Author Posted December 23, 2007 I really need some advise, not I told you so. I need to know how to gently get out of this. He's a nice guy, but he isn't for me - I am so stupid when it comes to this stuff so I really need to know what to say. I'm really desparate here.
D-Lish Posted December 23, 2007 Posted December 23, 2007 You're so funny! The same thing happened to me with my last guy. I was cooking for him, picking him up and dropping him off... making him breakfast- stocking my fridge with beer. Then one day I turned around and realized that he wasn't doing anything for me but giving me sex. He'd come over and lounge on my couch and sit at my computer.... lol. (actually I think he snooped my computer). Once, he told me he was bringing me bananna muffins that his mom had made... but by the time him and the muffins got to my house he had eaten them. haha. The thought that counts? Nope, not really. I guess if you like him, and see some potential, you should talk to him about what is going on. Maybe he just needs a good shake. My advice would be to make sure that breaking up with him is what you really want- and that it wouldn't be something you might regret after. Are you prone to sabotaging? Don't just jump on what you think is a red flag. Take a breather for sure. I have made the mistake of having a little freak out in the past and then pushed (or rather shoved) someone right out of my life... only to turn around and regret it later. Take a breather! Step back and look at the whole thing objectively... then revisit the red flags, and maybe see if it's worth having a convo with him about it.
jerbear Posted December 23, 2007 Posted December 23, 2007 Sounds like he got the milk for free and everything was given to him. There are guys out there who seek out a care taker and get them. Now the care takers dislike the actions they are getting in response. Did you two talk about the relationship and that he pretty much just moved in. Looking at your stuff while you walk the dogs... hmm.. weird... I personally would go walk the dogs with my SO. Different type of together time.
Author GRITS07 Posted December 23, 2007 Author Posted December 23, 2007 He's stationed somewhere else and comes home on the weekend. His family lives here in town but you would think he would pack like normal people, you know with a suitcase. Not him, he throws a bunch of junk in his back seat like he lives in the car or somehting. He has ambition and maybe when he gets his like straight maybe I can see my self through it a little better. But for now, this isn't good for me, I feel like he's mooching. I don't know why I feel this way, he seems like a perfectly normal guy with some financial trouble, but dang it, I don't have any financial trouble and I want to at least leave my house a little. This is getting old very quickly.
D-Lish Posted December 23, 2007 Posted December 23, 2007 If you are this annoyed this early- then it's probably safe to say it's not working for you. You can let him go by being honest with him- tell him the real reason you are breaking up with him. Maybe it will inspire him to get his act together!
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