kittensmittens Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 So, I've recently gone back out into the dating world and I met this guy at a party. He's not my "type", but he does like a lot of the same music I like and reads a lot of the books I've either read or want to read. He's also into a lot of the obscure movies I'm into. So I thought "hmm ok, I might give him a chance.." despite him kinda crawling all over me the first night we met. Now, here's what I don't get and I don't know what to think. He's a pretty good looking guy. There are lots of other girls who think he's really hot. I'm sure he can find someone. Heck, he could surely be on a date right now if he really wanted to be. So why the hell does he text msg me constantly???? I've been sick and haven't been going out at all lately, and he's already asked me to do 3 different things w/ him when I get well. He sends me text messages about the most random things every single day--I've only met him once! And he tracked me down on facebook to get my number. If I don't reply to a text, he sends another and will even change the subject to get me talking again. I end up either ignoring him and making up some excuse the next day as to why I 'couldn't' respond, or I have to text something that "officially" ends the conversation........until the next day. I wanted to give him a chance and I've already told him I'll go out and do the stuff w/ him that he invited me to do, but he's really starting to weird me out. Also, when we met at the party, he came back w/ me to my friend's house and fell asleep next to me for the night (yeah, not the best idea). Now I know, I know, drunk guy, drunk girl, in a bed together....I know. That's asking for trouble. He didn't exactly "try" anything, but he did have his hands all over me. He had his hands all over me before we even left the party, in fact. And then he was begging me to let him see me again the entire rest of the night. Is this pathetic? Is he sleazy? Or is he a good guy for not "actually" trying anything? Or IS that him trying something?? And what about all these text messages???? Agh! Is he needy/clingy/desperate? What do I do??
Krytie TV Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 What you should do is stop enabling it if you don't like it. I don't understand the problem. Why do you feel "forced" to respond? Are you that easily led? He sounds very needy/clingy and you seem to be very enabling.
Author kittensmittens Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 I haven't been resonding. I've ignored the last 3 texts. But I don't know if I should continue with this and just drop him....? Or if maybe that's too harsh. I already I told him I'd go out w/ him and do that stuff w/ him....
Krytie TV Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I don't know. Always be wary of guys who pour it on too fast. That usually means they're trying to rush things. Guys will often try to rush things if they only want to achieve one goal... then it's off they go. That way they can move on to the next one quicker.
Florida Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I don't know. Always be wary of guys who pour it on too fast. That usually means they're trying to rush things. Guys will often try to rush things if they only want to achieve one goal... then it's off they go. That way they can move on to the next one quicker. Yeah-ditto. Any guy that is putting his hands on you before he barely knows you is a big flaming red glow in the dark flag.
Legend Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Red flags all over.... he's definitely smothering you, and that's probably why you don't like him.
Winfield Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Red flags all over.... he's definitely smothering you, and that's probably why you don't like him. I totally agree - if things don't feel right, then the chances are they're not right!
Author kittensmittens Posted December 21, 2007 Author Posted December 21, 2007 Ok, thanks everyone. I still haven't replied to any of his texts and haven't heard from him since. I'm still sort of expecting to hear something again since I already agreed to go out w/ him, but I guess I'll just have to wait and see. And then figure out what to do if he does contact me again... So even though he was really drunk (and so was I), it's still not a good enough excuse for him being all over me right? I mean I've been around drunk guys before who got a little touchy feely, but this guy was even squeezing my ass. From what I can recall, I set him straight everytime it happened, but he still ended up practically wrapped around me for the rest of the night. He didn't try to undress me though (I've had one guy try before....a long time friend, in fact) and most of the time he spent holding my hands and admiring my beauty marks. I dunno.....still no leeway w/ alcohol involved?
Nemo Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 , but this guy was even squeezing my ass. Don't be too quick to judge - one can tell a lot about a person from the consistency of their buttocks. Just relax, and let your arse do the talking.
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