NoChance Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 So the other night I had some new friends that I've only known for a few months over for beers and to watch the NFL weeknight games. I live in a 1 bedroom, 1 bathroom apartment that is quite small (800 sqft if I'm lucky?), so if you get a call on your cell when people are over, in order to hear/have any privacy, you have to go into the only other room really (bedroom) to make a call. This means any time someone else that is over and they get a call they need to take, they always go into my bedroom. I keep all my personal stuff in there, plus stuff like my wallet, financial papers, etc, so even though I have no reason to mistrust anyone, whenever someone I dont know really well is in my bedroom on a call I am not comfortable. This time everyone had been drinking , I remember my friend mentioned he needed to buy a calling card to call his out of state girlfriend, and when he returned, since everyone was so loud, he not only went in my room, but partially closed my door. I didnt think too much about it, but then after everyone had left and I was cleaning up I remembered my wallet was just sitting there on top of my desk. Unsure if I trusted the friend in my room, I quickly scanned through my wallet, nothing was missing, but a nationwide calling card I have never seen before was in my wallet in a slot that had previously been empty. I'm not sure what to think, I havent asked my friend about it because I dont know how to approach it. I know he didnt take anything, but its obvious he snooped through my wallet while talking to his girl. My guess is since he was drinking, his mind wasnt right and he put it in my wallet after snooping and forgot about it putting the wallet back on my desk? But this leads me to think all the times he's been in my room he has gone through my stuff now, but the weirdest thing about it is up until now, he's come off as a really good honest guy. How do I react? Or am I over reacting and its not a big deal? Would you ask the guy? Write off any chance of trusting him? So far I've acted as like nothing happened, because I dont want to bring it up and have him think I'm implying something is missing or make it really uncomfortable. Sorry for the long read... Any ideas would be appricaited.
popey Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 maybe he was just drunk and talking. not paying attention to what he was doing and put the card away in your wallet thinking it was his for that moment. then when the convo was over he forgot it ever happened and walked out.
Citizen Erased Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 maybe he was just drunk and talking. not paying attention to what he was doing and put the card away in your wallet thinking it was his for that moment. then when the convo was over he forgot it ever happened and walked out. Yeah, that's the first thing which came to my mind. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt for now.
Jade 02 Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Hi darling,this is a toughy!,but,I dont see any harm really,maby h did do it ubcinsciencly(sp laughing),and is now looking for it at his house. Did you call him,and ask? I would of. Anyway I know you feel violated,but It probably was pure innocense (I hope) You have a grat day k,and give him a call don'y hold it inside. You sound cool person
whichwayisup Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I quickly scanned through my wallet, nothing was missing, but a nationwide calling card I have never seen before was in my wallet in a slot that had previously been empty. I would say something like this to him: "Hey, I found your calling card. Strange this is, I found it in my wallet." And then wait for his reaction. *In the meantime, keep an eye on your creditcard records, just incase he swiped your information. I'm not saying your friend would do that, but seeing as you don't know him well, never say never..*
Florida Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I would say something like this to him: "Hey, I found your calling card. Strange this is, I found it in my wallet." And then wait for his reaction. *In the meantime, keep an eye on your creditcard records, just incase he swiped your information. I'm not saying your friend would do that, but seeing as you don't know him well, never say never..* Yeah, I'd bring it up-it would be even more tense to always wonder. Better to say something.
jerbear Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 I would say something like is this yours... Then go from there. It gives your friend a notice that your watching.
norajane Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 maybe he was just drunk and talking. not paying attention to what he was doing and put the card away in your wallet thinking it was his for that moment. then when the convo was over he forgot it ever happened and walked out. That's my guess, too. I'll bet if you call and say you found a calling card after the party and you think it might be his, he'll say something like, "Yeah, I was wondering where I lost that...I was sure I put it in my wallet..." or if he was really drunk, he won't remember buying the card at all.
EYECANDY000 Posted December 25, 2007 Posted December 25, 2007 That's my guess, too. I'll bet if you call and say you found a calling card after the party and you think it might be his, he'll say something like, "Yeah, I was wondering where I lost that...I was sure I put it in my wallet..." or if he was really drunk, he won't remember buying the card at all. I agree! 100%
AriaIncognito Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 So what happened? Did you talk to the friend? I'd try to give him the benefit of the doubt until you confront him about it. i'd not wait too long, you don't want to prolong the wonder.
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