mortensorchid Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I guess I have a general question that maybe someone ANYONE can answer for me... Why do guys think that someday I am going to spring the big "I want to get married and have babies" comment on them? I've had 3 serious relationships as an adult. The first was a bit of an exception, as we broke up 10 years ago now, he's married to someone else, and we're on good terms. The second as well as the third, both polar opposites in terms of values, personality, interests, etc., both stuck around for about a year and a half / two years and they told me at different points (completely out of the blue without any provocation from me, I promise you) things like "I don't want to get married!", "I don't want children!", "I'm being suffocated", "I don't have time to do this anymore", etc. And then they break it off, rebound, and marry another woman about a year later. Now on one hand, I realize I am lucky that these losers choose to end the relationship and I pity the poor desperate gals they did marry. How can you expect that a marriage will last after knowing a person for 6 months, after all? But, I am not such a bad gal. I put up with all their annoying habits and strange things, and I know I'm not perfect but they don't seem to put up with mine. What do they want?
Legend Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Do you wanna give us some more information about how the relationships went? things you did, or didn't do? It seems like the guys thought you came off as too needy/clingy and pushed you away. Usually if we say we're being suffocated, it's straight forward. But without specifics it's hard to give any advice... Don't think any of us know you or how you act so............ yea...
Dazed1 Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Yeah; Need more information... if you managed to suffocate them, or if you were just not quite receptive to them... Tho I have only been in the dating pool again for a short time, I find that my instincts are still good as to whether a woman is in to me; or more to the point.... too in to me, or not in to me enough. All I can say is that something in your manner suddenly raised their anxiety factor and poof! they was gone. It would help you to look back and try to find out what it is that you are doing. -Dazed
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