Florida Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Hello, I need your collective help in trying to figure out if I am overreacting, or if this means anything. There was this girl who was after my BF in our circle of friends, she was either trying to get her BF jealous, or was trying to move on to mine. He ended up disconnecting himself from them completely after a few incidents. If you need clarification, I can give more info, but because we were all friends, more or less, I saw firsthand what was up. This was awhile ago. It obsesses me because I always wondered if he liked her back while she was doing it, maybe even was considering who he wanted to be with-her or me. I can never prove this, but I can’t disprove it either and it just lingers in my mind. The reason I am bringing this up after all this time: Another poster in a seperate thread said something that got my cogs turning. They said “if your SO brings up someone after meeting them, it could mean lingering thoughts about that person, or a sign of interest. (like “she seems like a bitch”, “she seems nice” or talking about them too much.) This memory isn’t exactly like that statement. But close enough. It made me remember how once my BF and I were talking about couples who are obvious bad matches, or who seem like they are on the way to break up- I don’t recall the details except this part: My BF said: “yeah-like Liz and Rob. She likes to go out a lot, and well Rob…… I don’t want to say anything bad, but he ..” I finished his sentence with “is kind of boring” and he answered “well yeah. I feel like maybe she needs to be with someone more exciting who likes to go out and do things”. I think that is what he said, more or less. And now-I am getting angry and scared that that may be my proof-why was he empathizing from her point of view? Rob is his friend, and we all used to hang out together, but we only knew her (Liz-the one who started to get really inappropriate and was testing both mine and my BF's boundaries) once Rob started going out with her. Wouldn’t he empathize with his friend? What does that mean? Am I taking this out of context or did it mean something at the time that I should not have dismissed? He said it right about the time I was noticing that Liz was complaining about her BF too openly to us, but a bit before Liz's intentions were getting obvious to me just yet.
Yosef Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I REALLY think you're overanalyzing this. Don't stress over it. He was just building on the conversation, it's nothing huge. Relax.
Author Florida Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 I REALLY think you're overanalyzing this. Don't stress over it. He was just building on the conversation, it's nothing huge. Relax. Thanks Yosef, it's strange how sometimes I'll just read something and it will set me off.
Racquel Colette Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Don't worry about it unless he gives you a reason to believe his affections for you are dwindling.
Legend Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Whoaaaa.. Definitely overly analyzed. Don't even begin to stress. There's lots of times where guys don't side with their friends, or think things but never tell them. Nothing to worry about!
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