General Question

[yonexa]

Hi I'm 17 years old and currently in my senior year of high school. There is a girl at school that I really like but I dont know what do say to her to tell her how I feel. Shes really easy going and I have talked with her a few times. I am really shy person due to the fact that i have a mild stutter.

 

Have any ideas?

 

Thanks

[Lovegod]

Never tell a woman how you feel. Show her how you feel with human touch.

 

Approach her, make small talk, tell her "I have to go, but I'd like to continue this conversation later, so why don't you give me your number and we'll set something up?"

 

Easy as 1,2,3.

[yonexa]

I already got her number from a friend but I dont think she knows I like her. I dont even know if shes interested in me. If I phone her what would i say? I dont wanna sound like an idiot you know.

 

Thanks

[Lovegod]

I already got her number from a friend but I dont think she knows I like her.

 

Does she know you have her number? If not, get it from her directly. Randomly calling up a woman who didn't give you her number is typically considered 'creepy' and 'stalker-ish'.

 

Also, don't tell her how you feel. Do that when you "get serious" with a woman. Until then, you're just dating each other to find out if you like one another.

 

I dont even know if shes interested in me.

 

That doesn't matter right now. What matters is that you go out there and give it a shot. If she's not interested in dating you, she'll let you know.

 

If I phone her what would i say?

 

Well, after you ask her for her number, call her up the next day, say "Hey, how's it going?" Then reflect on something that the both of you talked about, talk about something interesting or funny that happened to you, basically just engage in small talk for a couple of minutes.

 

Then say "Hey, I was planning on going out to xxx on xxxday, why don't you come with me?" ALWAYS have a plan when you call a woman and ask her for a date. It's even better if you mention it as if you were going to do it with or without her. You're basically giving her the privelege of spending time with a great guy like you!

 

Then she'll give you an answer. If she says no but counter-offers, she's interested. For example, "sorry, I'm busy on xxxday, how about xxxday?" That's a counter-offer.

 

If she just says "sorry, I'm busy", then put a "3 strikes your out" method in place. If she turns you down three times, she's not interested and you can move onto other women.

 

After you set up the date (or your offer gets turned down) then you end your call by saying, "well I've got things to do, so I'll see you later, okay?"

 

Oh yeah, don't do dinner & a movie. Do something else that's fun, where you can interact, talk, and have fun together. Rollerskating, bowling, pool, and even window shopping are all good activities and will have lots of built-in conversation. So even if you don't have much to talk about, you can talk about the activity you're doing.

 

I dont wanna sound like an idiot you know.

 

That's why you keep the call short. Five minutes is long enough for some small talk and to set up a date. Any longer and you will run out of things to talk about. All the talking should be done on the date instead of on the phone. It just makes your presence more valuable.