fishsticks19 Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 My girlfriend of 1.5 years learned to depend on me for a lot of things, it was a very complicated relationship, but suffice it to say I was sort of everything to her and I was and still am completely in love with her. We are both 21 years old and have been doing a long distance relationship which I just ended on friday night. She has severe issues with relationships, and she is depressed and has severe anxiety disorder, all brought on by an emotionally abusive and extremely constrictive family. She has been making an unbelievable amount of progress regarding these things, however I just realized that I couldnt see myself marrying her because of her family, who is still very much a part of her life, and has made our relationship (and all of her past relationships) very very difficult (truly near impossible I dont know how I did it for so long), and I knew that if I did marry her I would be unhappy. Trust me, the mother especially is a woman that I wouldnt leave my kids alone with. The problem is, I know all of this, and I have thought about all of this for a very long time, but every day now I have this incredibly strong urge to just get back together with her. Does it mean I should? Will this feeling go away soon? It just feels so weird to have ended the relationship yet still feel like I want to be in it, regardless of my better judgement.
JustinWolf Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Nobody really answered your question, so I guess I will. Why do you even want to go back if you felt so much anxiety and all the stress related to her family? I can tell you that if ever you guys are together and she can put her family aside for you than yes, by all means go back with her but if she can't (which is usually the case) then don't because you broke up for a reason not because you felt like it. Go into strict No Contact and just learn to forget and move on and be at peace with your mind. If it hurts? yes Does the pain go away? Oh, hell yes Do you keep missing them? sometimes, but with time, rarely If it'll all go away? depending on how much effort you put into it, definately Are their still chances for you in the future? perhaps, you never know
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