Love_Stoned94 Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Well i just joined this site today. trying to get some advice or help on my situation. Well i have been with my gf for about 3 months. She broke up with me on Dec. 10th and ever since i have been depressed, heartbroken, lonely, lost. She split up with me because i was insecure, going behind her back by going on her myspace without her knowing just to find out the truth. I sometimes talked to her bad and we argued alot. 85% of the time it was my fault and if i could go back and fix it I surely would. We talked after we split and I took her out to dinner the wednesday after and it felt like nothing happened. But later that night, apparently her dad got involved and told her i couldnt have any contact with her. I felt like digging a whole, jumping in it and dieing. This past weekend we talked on the phone, i was crying so hard and then she finally broke down and cried. later in the day she IMs me and tells me she is lost without me and wants to give me another chance but this time take it alot slower. I told her that i realized everything that ive done and i was going to change my ways and go back to the person who she fell in love with. But the only thing is her dad. She told me if her dad never got involved she would be with me. Well I havent spoken with her since Monday Night and it kills me, all i wanna do is see her. cry in her arms. i miss everything about her. Im just worried that she isnt thinking of me, and that it really is over. Ive talked with her mom and her mom said just give it a few days to let her calm down and get her head on her shoulders and that her mom would talk with her and her father. A big problem is that she is Bi-Polar and i dealt with her for 3 months and we been on a shaky road and i really did enjoy it all. I just dont wanna give up now, because we have been through so much. Please i need some help
ElvenPriestess Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 first off, how old is she? How old are you?
Author Love_Stoned94 Posted December 19, 2007 Author Posted December 19, 2007 i just turned 21 and she is 17 turning 18
JustinWolf Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Honnestly, give her some time to think about everything and give that time to yourself also to think big on what you truly want and if anything happens, if she loves you and if she really cares for you, I can guarantee you she will come back, stay strong.
Author Love_Stoned94 Posted December 19, 2007 Author Posted December 19, 2007 yeah justin, thanks.. like time is so hard. it really is. She really does love me, i believe i was and still is her best boyfriend. i have a head on my shoulders unlike these other guys she has been with, im in the united states air force and got my life going good for now and want her. i thought in this past week what i want. and she has been popping up in my head everytime i thought about it. I really love her!
JustinWolf Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 I'm going through something too, except my ex found a rebound and sort of keep low contact with her but everytime i think of her it does trick me out and I just wanna quit everything. but that's the easy way out and it's the road that really hurts in the end. If you've been thinking and the only thing that pops up in your head is her, than perhaps, you should concentrate on something else for a while, see if you can get her out of the picture long enough for you to be happy and enjoy something else. Like I said before, the people that love and care for you, will come back eventually no mather what BUT don't think about it, think that whatever happens you can stay happy and healthy because that's what's important. Happiness and health, that's wealth my friend. Go see your friends be happy, enjoy yourself, you're still young, you have so much to go through and on top of that you are in the US Air Force. There's so much in this world you haven't seen yet, neither have I, but be optimistic. Think positive and positive things will happen to you
Author Love_Stoned94 Posted December 19, 2007 Author Posted December 19, 2007 yeah you are right.. i just want that one last chance, she told me she wants to give me another chance but is scared.. maybe she is so weak that she doesnt wanna show her strong feelings for me? i dont know. but im so attached and time apart from her is tough. but if we get back together things will be alot stronger and more happier. I am just gonna pray each night like ive been doing.
JustinWolf Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 yeah i know how you feel by wanting to do whatever it takes to get ahold of him. I do the same. im still depressed and i still hope its her when she calls me or like i still go towards her house when i shouldnt. im just so use to doing that. but now. she doesnt talk to me anymore and it kills me to death. all i want is to be happy and only way to do that is make myself happy first. But ignore him to your best ability. me and you both are going through the same feelings right now. i know how you feel. but eventually they will come back if they really care so much about us!!I'm happy to say you've been following I've told you, just one thing that I made a mistake about, and I hope you won't. Do not expect them to come back, think "If she loves me, she will." thats ok, but don't think "i know she loves me so she will come back" it's two different things. Take care of yourself, be the better person, be the strongest and be happy. And if she doesn't come back, tell yourself that you were stronger and she was too weak to even deserve a great person like you (don't become cocky though LOL)
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