Lauriebell82 Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 And it's not a ring. Or at least it doesn't look like it. My boyfriend put all these presents that he had wrapped in a big box and wrote in black marker who they were for (mom, dad, ect.) There were two presents in there that weren't labeled. One was a bigger box, the other was a small rectangular one. So I figured that they were the jewelery box and perfume that I asked for. Actually before the ring thing happened that is what I figured he was going to get me. He had said he hid them real well, I have no clue why he would put them with the other presents. So he keeps asking me everyday if I found my Christmas present (singular, not plural which is weird). So last night I said, when he asked me if I looked for it, I didn't tell him I did I just said "I don't know where they would be, maybe in the big box the other presents are in.." So he said, "Why would I hide your present with the others, that would be dumb. Maybe I put some other presents in there and the real present is somewhere else." I probably sound like a nut doing all this, I feel like a detective or something. He has done some strange things like saying that he didn't put the amount in his Microsoft Money account, like that he hid it real well, that I would never find it and that he would even like to save it for my birthday. Yeah I suppose I was snooping a little spare me the lecture please guys. I guess I know what they are, his behavior has just been so odd lately and so unlike him that I thought he was up to something. I'm dispointed, because I really wanted that birthstone ring but I guess I'll get over it. I'm glad that I found out what the presents are, now I won't have a look of total dispointment on my face when I open my presents. My mom said he may still have something up his sleeve, but I'm going to try not to get my hopes up. Man, I wish he wouldn't have even showed me the catalog, because it did get my hopes up. Maybe he didn't realize that it would...
ElvenPriestess Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 I think he's toying with you and probably got you something you won't expect. I mean if he showed you a catalog, he did it for a reason. Don't expect anything, more or less. Anxious though, I'd be anxious. It's kind of exciting. :-)
maynicholas Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Maybe he got you a bracelet? Maybe he is acting weird because he got you something he knows you won't expect (see above) and he is really excited to surprize you? I got my ex a video camera one year and I was sooo excited to give it to him becasue I knew it was something he would never expect. That went over horribly. He said he liked it, but it was something he would get from his parents, not from me- and that I should take it back. creep. (I kept it for myself- the ungrateful lout) No, lecture on snooping from me, I do the same thing.
ElvenPriestess Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 What a jerk! Hmph! A camera is a great gift!
Author Lauriebell82 Posted December 19, 2007 Author Posted December 19, 2007 I think he's toying with you and probably got you something you won't expect. I mean if he showed you a catalog, he did it for a reason. Don't expect anything, more or less. Anxious though, I'd be anxious. It's kind of exciting. :-) Actually he already bought me a really beautiful white gold bracelet for our anniversary in august. He also bought me a white gold heart necklace last Christmas. He knows I love jewelery from him. I am a little pissed that he showed me the catalog and I pointed out all these rings to him. What the hell? Men are so damn confusing..
ElvenPriestess Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 True, true, they are at that, but I don't think he'd have you pick stuff out with out the intention of buying. Unless.... he wanted your taste to pick you out something elsewhere? And btw, I LOVE white gold.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted December 19, 2007 Author Posted December 19, 2007 True, true, they are at that, but I don't think he'd have you pick stuff out with out the intention of buying. Unless.... he wanted your taste to pick you out something elsewhere? And btw, I LOVE white gold. Yeah maybe, it was kind of crappy to do it before Christmas though...if he would have done it at another time and bought me a jewerly box and perfume for Christmas then I woudln't have cared..damn him.
ElvenPriestess Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Aww, don't stress it because guess what? Christmas eve is SO CLOSE it's practically here and then POOF! No more wondering:-) Doing any cooking or baking for Christmas?
Author Lauriebell82 Posted December 19, 2007 Author Posted December 19, 2007 Aww, don't stress it because guess what? Christmas eve is SO CLOSE it's practically here and then POOF! No more wondering:-) Doing any cooking or baking for Christmas? I hope I can hide how dispointed I am! As for cooking or baking, we are going to my parents for Christmas dinner..I'm a real bad cook so I'd probably burn Christmas cookies if I tried to cook them lol! I'm trying not to worry about it, actually I just check Microsoft Money and he made a charge on his credit card for $65 dollars which I assume is how much the perfume and jewelry box cost..he said he didn't put the amount in there, and hid my present in an obvious place and lied about both. Sorry but this is sooooo not like him!
ElvenPriestess Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 For all you know the amount might truly be hidden. Maybe he's not lying, maybe he left the other one there to throw you off guard. How to cover disappointment? Just don't over do the excitement:-) Give him a hug and all that when you open it no matter what it is. And you can always do the old quick change, you open it and hug him then quickly say "Your turn!" Or something. I don't know. I have NO CLUE AT ALL what I'm getting. Just remember that even if you don't get what you really want for Christmas it could be a plan for another holiday:-)
underpants Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 I say to not get your hopes up either. You got a great guy, that is a good enough present. Who knows what guys do or why. If, and it is a big IF he is thinking of a ring to give you then he might even wait for New Years, or Valentines Day. Some guys freak out and get scared and that is understandable. My sis's H was a little nutty for a while and I had to hear alot about it from my sis. He caved and asked on Halloween. Maybe he is having fun watching you snoop around. Have you checked the ornaments on the tree? I have to say though, if it were me and I had a gift that had to be hidden I would let a friend hold onto it. Anyway, like I said you have the guy, everything else is fluff. Happy Holidays.
melodymatters Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Aw, C'mon LB, you don't have to lie to US !!! We know you don't want a birthstone ring ! I think the way he is acting ( in this and all your threads latetly) is like an excited little kid who defintely has something up his sleeve. If you DON'T get something pretty special after all this teasing, then your guy is a grade A jerk !! ( which I don't think, I'd put money on my original guess from the other thread!) In fact : If you DON"T get a special ring on x-mas, I owe YOU ten bunnies, if you do, you owe ME ? Deal ?
norajane Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 I hope I can hide how dispointed I am! Well, maybe you can think about all the wonderful women out there who don't have boyfriends who love them soooo much and who aren't getting any kind of gift from a bf they don't have. Appreciate what you have, Lauriebell, and accept what gifts you are given with good grace and class. Don't be a pouty little so-and-so just because you might not get exactly what you asked for. Having said that, I think your bf wants to surprise you and has gotten you what you want, but is hiding it and is bursting at the seams to keep it a secret.
Trialbyfire Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 lauriebelle, you're a therapist, stop letting this guy jack with your mind. Back off and if it happens, it will happen. He's obviously having fun at your expense and you're letting him get to you. If I were you, I would start jacking him back. Push all his buttons, all at the same time. That outta' get him spinning...
Art_Critic Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Appreciate what you have, Lauriebell, and accept what gifts you are given with good grace and class. Don't be a pouty little so-and-so just because you might not get exactly what you asked for. Word...... and stop snooping.. why spoil any surprise that he may have for you ? He knows you well.. So do you actually think he will put your gifts someplace where you can find them ?
Author Lauriebell82 Posted December 19, 2007 Author Posted December 19, 2007 Thanks guys, I can always count on you! Ok yeah I'm not going to lie, it would be wonderful if he proposed HOWEVER I'm not getting my hopes up and I won't really be dispointed if he doesnt. That birthstone ring is what I want if he doesn't propose (more so then perfume and a jewelry box). He knows damn well I want that ring too, so you are probably right that he is torturing me. Why the hell would buy me two gifts I don't really want and put them in obvious place, PLUS put both amounts in Microsoft Money and tell him he hadn't put the price in there (he probably knew I'd check, he knows me pretty well). You guys are saying he is going to surprise me, gosh I hope you are right! Oh I found the reciept for the perfume he bought at Macy's under his computer speaker on his desk. I use his computer all the time, he knew I would see it..something weird is going on. My best friend says he might be pulling a "chandler bing." My dad even said it was weird that he would show me a catalog of rings and ask me what I liked, that generally guys don't do that unless they are actually thinking about buying one. (Unless of course they are an a-hole, but I know my boyfriend isn't one). GRRRRRRRR, I'm being tortured!!! Help!!!
ElvenPriestess Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 soon, very soon you will know. In the mean time do your best to occupy your mind and try not to dwell on it. You mentioned burnt cookies? Uh, I love burnt cookies!! j/k Seriously though, it's just aroun the cor-ner
melodymatters Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Just enjoy the anticipation LB ! I can't remember being excited about a christmas present since I was a kid, so just the fact that you get this experience as an adult is a " present" right there !!!!
Art_Critic Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 A Gift should be given at Christmas.. An engagement ring is a promise to marry you and if you accept it then it is a promise that you will also marry him. It isn't a gift.. Of course that doesn't mean he isn't planning on springing one on you.. as people do give them to their SO's at holiday's I'll cross my fingers for you... Merry Christmas
Trialbyfire Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Why the hell would buy me two gifts I don't really want Haha...I had an ex give me an electric blanket as one of my gifts one year. My first reaction was WTF? Then I thought about it and realized how sweet it was, in that I'm always cold. I still have this thing, never used, in my linen closet.
sb129 Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Well, maybe you can think about all the wonderful women out there who don't have boyfriends who love them soooo much and who aren't getting any kind of gift from a bf they don't have. Appreciate what you have, Lauriebell, and accept what gifts you are given with good grace and class. Don't be a pouty little so-and-so just because you might not get exactly what you asked for. Well said NJ. Lauriebell- you DO know you are behaving like a 5 year old, don't you? A gift is a GIFT. If you want something so bad, buy it for yourself! Half the fun of getting gift is the surprise and knowing someone put thought into buying it for you. If you TELL them what to buy, that spoils it somewhat! An engagement ring is a promise to marry you and if you accept it then it is a promise that you will also marry him. It isn't a gift.. Somebody should tell that to Wonderboy..... all I got for my 30th was a big sparkly Tiffany ring. Hummmph. Just Kidding. I don't think he had any money left..
Nevermind Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 I really don't feel good saying that...but...don't you have any consideration for your boyfriend's privacy? You have been reading e-mails, checking his microsoft money, checking gift boxes and turning over loudspeakers in order to find something. If I were treated like that, I would seriously consider NOT giving you the ring this christmas. A present is so much fun! To give somebody something that you bought, that you worked for. And it's so great to see the anticipation when the present is opened and they are looking at their present the first time. That is a special moment, and even more so if you are going to propose. This ring is not something you should have lying around the house for weeks before it's officially yours. It's supposed to be a surprise (to a certain amount). Why take that away from him? Why be so nosey? And why take it away from you? Why not wait? If you do not want the perfume, why tell him about it before? Why say one thing while wanting another? Why make Christmas just some random event that's all about presents, presents, presents? I really don't get it. I hope you will receive the ring you're hoping for. I hope it will be as you want. Exactly as you want it to be. But if it's not...your disappointment will be caused by your own actions.
norajane Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 That birthstone ring is what I want if he doesn't propose (more so then perfume and a jewelry box). He knows damn well I want that ring too, so you are probably right that he is torturing me. Geeeeee, what's the MOST OBVIOUS place to put a ring? Hmm, where could it possibly be???? No, of course it wouldn't be in the JEWELRY BOX? No, of course not.
underpants Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 This thread makes me want to drink and get my Scrooge on.
allina Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 I guess I'm alone on this one but I have all sorts of issues with this thread/situation. LB, you said that it will be hard for you to hide your disappointment if you don't get the ring you want, really? Isn't that sort of selfish and materialistic? Just because he asked what you liked in a catalog doesn't mean he owes you a ring. What ever happened to treasuring a gift fro your SO because they picked it out? Why is the focus of Christmas with your bf on this ring? Why can't you let him put together a nice surprise for you? I like you but I feel like your ring obsession is getting way out of hand. If your bf knew about the snooping and how you just cared about the ring he'd be so hurt. How about putting some of this effort in to doing something special for him, as he is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with.
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