BrianG Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Were together for 5 yrs and she broke up with me and left me in the apartment we got together, me being the nice and probably stupid, nice guy that I am said I would would pay the rent for the remainder of the lease. Anyways, been broken up for 2 months, 1 month of NC. She sends me an email wondering if I have been able to pay rent because I was laid off at the time of the break up, but mainly concerned with her name still being on the lease and how it possibly could affect her credit. So I probably shouldn't have responded because she lost her ability to care after she left the lease we signed together, but what I can I say i love the girl. So she was having problems with her kidney when we broke up so since I still love her very much and was concerned over the results I asked about them in the email because I am concerned. She has not even responded back to the email. I just dont get after being together for 5 years she cant even respond back regarding the results. how can she be so cold and heartless to me to not even send an email back. Granted I understand that I was not the best boyfriend I should have been, but she was my best friend as well and I just consider it very rude and I probably shouldn't care anymore, but I do. how can someone who you thought was such a loving person be so cold and heartless, it feels like I never knew her. I guess I just a little pissed she could not even reply. Still dont want to let go of someone i love very much, but I guess this gives me a kick in the but to do so.
CaliGuy Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Truth is, she checked out of the relationship mentally long before she checked out physically. If you search back to her behavior you can probably pinpoint the exact time it started. So though you have been broken up physically for a few months, in her mind, it's probably been more like 6 months. Now to answer the question "How could she be so cold?" the answer is, and this is painful, she doesn't love you. That's it. Now knowing that, why would you spend an ounce of your time on someone who doesn't care about you? This should be all the incentive you need to kick her memory to the curb, get to the gym and work out every day, start picking up some new hobbies, hanging out with friends and investing in making a better you. Odds are she isn't coming back. With that in mind, the less time you focus on her the more time is spent being focused on you. Go NC with her. Remove any reminders of her (pictures, emails, etc), delete her phone number, remove her from IM, don't stalk her (in person or online) and make the best effort you can to move on. The sooner you do, the sooner the woman God had always intended for you can find you. Cheers.
82knightrider Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Shes gone.And you have to approach this situation as shes gone for good.If you dont,that hope will always hold you back
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