Krytie TV Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 I had this big long boring thing typed out and came to an answer on the way so I decided to spare you all the details. There was one thing still left unresolved when it was all over, so I lay that out here. I got a girl's number this past weekend 6 weeks after I initially met her but am struggling with poor timing. What goes through a girl's mind when she gets a call from someone 2 or 3 weeks after giving him her number? Might it be significantly different than if it was only a week? I know, silly question. I just have myself a poser here and I'm trying to do right.
ElvenPriestess Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 I would be pleasantly surprised to get the call, and would assume that with the time of year and all you were probably just very busy. Now you KNOW you're going to wonder until you do it, so call! Right now, while I'm on LS! Go! j/k seriously though, you have nothing to lose. I vote you call.
Legend Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 I agree with Elven priestess, what do you have to lose? nada, what's there to gain? everything
Author Krytie TV Posted December 19, 2007 Author Posted December 19, 2007 It doesn't make you feel slighted or like an afterthought if someone waits that long to call?
ElvenPriestess Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Not at all, things are circumstantial. And if I start jumping to conclusions then I may ruin a potentially good thing. It's a very minor detail, nothing to be concerned about.
WilliamWallace Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 This might make you a bit more confident. I once called a girl 3 months after she gave me her number. We went out a few times. So yeah, give her a shout.
Star Gazer Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 It doesn't make you feel slighted or like an afterthought if someone waits that long to call? That's what I would think about him. But if I were interested, as much as it pains me to admit it, I'd still accept a date invite.
Legend Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 It was poor timing, and now the timing is good. Again, what do you have to lose? If she's still interested she'll accept a date.
melodymatters Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 That's what I would think about him. But if I were interested, as much as it pains me to admit it, I'd still accept a date invite. I agree with star here ! Since, it's not like we were already DATING and then you called weeks later, i would give you the benefit of the doubt and just assume you had stuff going on in your life, BUT still remembered me enough to want to go out with me !
Jilly Bean Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I'd blow you off on the sheer principle of it. Any guy who asked for my number, and then waited weeks to call me, would not ever speak to me again anyhow. It comes off like an afterthought, and yep, if I'm not on his roster to call me within that first week, then don't bother. But that's me - and a LOT of women put up with guy garbage. She'll probably take your call - lol. Why did you wait so long, K?
Legend Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I'd blow you off on the sheer principle of it. Any guy who asked for my number, and then waited weeks to call me, would not ever speak to me again anyhow. It comes off like an afterthought, and yep, if I'm not on his roster to call me within that first week, then don't bother. But that's me - and a LOT of women put up with guy garbage. She'll probably take your call - lol. Why did you wait so long, K? Jilly, when was the last time that football guy called? hasn't that been a while?
Jilly Bean Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 He called me Sunday, but before that, we've always stayed in touch since he went back to training camp in July. Thing is, we knew each other for months before we dated earlier this year, and then dated for a while. It's a bit different to entertain seeing someone again after you've had a relationship and some history versus someone asking for your number initially, and then not calling you for a first date for weeks. One is do-over, the other is an over-sight.
EYECANDY000 Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Honestly with me.. if a guy doesnt call within a week I am not looking forward to his call no more.. I have already deleted him out of my mind. .. wait , also can I add that it depends on how sexy he is.. I still feel like after a week im not looking forward to his phone call, but if I decide to pick up the phone he better have a great impression on me .. makes sense !
melodymatters Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I guess I was just saying I would give him the benefit of the doubt this first time: His mother could have died or something ! After I'm dating somone if they are not courteous enough to make timely phone calls, that is a WHOLE different ( foot) ball game !!!! LOL
Legend Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I guess I was just saying I would give him the benefit of the doubt this first time: His mother could have died or something ! After I'm dating somone if they are not courteous enough to make timely phone calls, that is a WHOLE different ( foot) ball game !!!! LOL Exactly. So give it a shot! Again, what do you have to lose?!
oppath Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Exactly. So give it a shot! Again, what do you have to lose?! Yeah, best advice. Me, I've lined up a couple girls until after I get back. No phone numbers, but there has been flirting and I will see them shortly after the holiday. Basically lack of confidence has left me in a good position because I'm going to be busy and unavailable and hate the phone. But if I got a number, no problem calling a couple weeks later. The girl will probably think "wtf" but still go out with you. The important thing is to be consistent after that.
popey Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 first, like everyone said, if you don't call- you don't go out with her. if you do, you might go out with her. take the better odds. duh. secondly, don't harp on it, but do say that your sorry you didn't call sooner, you had wanted to, but timing this time of year is always tough. Anyway, obviously I would like to see you or I wouldn't ask for your number, so can we get together? then just take care to be attentive and show her that you are interested.
Racquel Colette Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 It's only beena week, not two or three weeks, so just call her now! Don't wait 2 or three weeks, that's too long. Don't bother at that point. Also, you have to strike while the iron's HOT. She is on the market, in two weeks she could meet a guy who DOES call her after getting her number, and 'poof' she is smitten with HIM and off the market. CALL NOW.
Racquel Colette Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 first, like everyone said, if you don't call- you don't go out with her. if you do, you might go out with her. take the better odds. duh. secondly, don't harp on it, but do say that your sorry you didn't call sooner, you had wanted to, but timing this time of year is always tough. Anyway, obviously I would like to see you or I wouldn't ask for your number, so can we get together? then just take care to be attentive and show her that you are interested. Well, it's only Wednesday evening, and he said he just got her number last weekend so that makes it not even a week yet so I don't understand the problem. He is asking is it bad to call after 2 or 3 weeks after getting her number but it's only been a few days since she gave him her number so I am confused. He has the opportunity to call now, before 2 or 3 weeks so I fail to see why the question is being posed. If it was asked 3 weeks after he got her number, that would make perfect sense, but he is asking before the time factor is even a problem.
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