crazyinlove123 Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 I've posted before but I have updated info.. and a different problem..sorta. I'm 23, graduated and now working and applying to grad schools. I feel like I am at the point in my life where I want to find someone to settle down with in the next few years. Luckily I thought my prayers were answered this past thanksgiving when I went to my cousin's wedding down south. We ended up staying at their family friend's house for the weekend. They have a son who is 24 and very cute. The last night we were there (after the wedding/reception), we ended up talking from 12.30 til about 3 in the morning. I really thought this was a good sign, since I thought we were both into each other. Like I don't think a lot of guys would talk to a random girl from out of state for like hours at night right?? So anyways, I told him before I left to add me on facebook and we can keep in touch. (I figured thats the easiest way to connect and communicate) I was hoping he would ask for my number but he didn't. So he added me and we've emailed each other like once every week but he doesnt really ask me anything, he just talks about how busy he is. and he takes like DAYS to respond back. The last time i messaged him was last week (tuesday) and still havent heard since. Are all guys like this? I dunno if I should give him my number and tell him to call me sometime? or wait for him to respond.. if he ever responds. It's jus so hard to tell if he truly is busy or just not interested. I thought we had a connection and we could get to kno each other better or maybe its cuz we live in different states? i dunno. need help fast. thanks
Yosef Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 I've posted before but I have updated info.. and a different problem..sorta. I'm 23, graduated and now working and applying to grad schools. I feel like I am at the point in my life where I want to find someone to settle down with in the next few years. Luckily I thought my prayers were answered this past thanksgiving when I went to my cousin's wedding down south. We ended up staying at their family friend's house for the weekend. They have a son who is 24 and very cute. The last night we were there (after the wedding/reception), we ended up talking from 12.30 til about 3 in the morning. I really thought this was a good sign, since I thought we were both into each other. Like I don't think a lot of guys would talk to a random girl from out of state for like hours at night right?? So anyways, I told him before I left to add me on facebook and we can keep in touch. (I figured thats the easiest way to connect and communicate) I was hoping he would ask for my number but he didn't. So he added me and we've emailed each other like once every week but he doesnt really ask me anything, he just talks about how busy he is. and he takes like DAYS to respond back. The last time i messaged him was last week (tuesday) and still havent heard since. Are all guys like this? I dunno if I should give him my number and tell him to call me sometime? or wait for him to respond.. if he ever responds. It's jus so hard to tell if he truly is busy or just not interested. I thought we had a connection and we could get to kno each other better or maybe its cuz we live in different states? i dunno. need help fast. thanks Some guys don't ever check facebook, so it kinda depends. As for not asking your phone number, he's probably trying to analyze the situation before jumping into it. Personally, I wouldn't give a girl my number after we just met, it would take a little bit, but facebook is always okay in my book (lol, sounds funny). He might not have regular computer access, but the fact he doesn't wish to continue conversations by asking questions gives me doubts that he's actually interested in you. Give it some more time.
EYECANDY000 Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 On the next message I just give him your number. Im one of those peeple as well who have someone who I have mutual similarities with on myspace/facebook. Rarely would I be thinking about logging on to see if that person responded back. If he doesnt call you with in those couple of days that you say it takes him to respond then move on
Green Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 theres this realy hot chick who likes me and I have her number and stuff but she lives an hour and a half away so I have to say I dont call or msg her all that much. I have nothing to really say on facebook or the phone.
Trialbyfire Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 For many guys, if you're not in front of them in body, cyber-spirit is difficult to connect with and keep real.
monkey00 Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 who really knows... When I think of facebook, i think of myspace. It's a social network places where you can add friends of both sexes. Maybe he thinks you just wanted to add him to your growing list of friends - that you aren't really interested. Or maybe he isn't interested. I think instead of facebook, an email/# would've worked better the first time around.
popey Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 I'm sorry, but you had a 2 1/2 hr convo with a guy you just met and thought your prayers of finding someone to settle down with were answered? he lives in another state, and shoots you an occassional unengaging email. It seems nearly certain that you think alot more is between you than he does.
lindya Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 So he added me and we've emailed each other like once every week but he doesnt really ask me anything, he just talks about how busy he is. and he takes like DAYS to respond back. The last time i messaged him was last week (tuesday) and still havent heard since. Are all guys like this? Some people don't check their emails that often depending on how busy they are. I don't mean to sound discouraging, but it does sound as though you're analysing this for reasons other than "he may have been interested at the wedding, but not enough to keep thinking about you afterwards." A similar thing happened to me. I was at a wedding, and this guy made a beeline for me. He seemed nice, friendly and strongly interested...which is just what you want. He didn't ask for my number at the end of the night, but I figured, given the way he'd been behaving, that he'd get it from a mutual friend. Nope. Ages later, I bumped into him again at another social event. Same thing. He made a beeline, appearance of strong interest - I reciprocated enough to show I was interested back, lots of flirting, good connection etc...but no outcome. No phone number request. It's disappointing and a bit confusing but you just have to take the view that "nice connection, but obviously a very temporary one". Don't spend too much time analysing this one and trying to invent reasons for the lukewarm response. Stick with the most likely, obvious reason, put on your best party dress, get into the Christmas spirit...and Santa might come up with something more suitable and enthusiastic to shove down your chimney.
Author crazyinlove123 Posted December 23, 2007 Author Posted December 23, 2007 looks like a lot of the postings (including one from me) were deleted (unfortunately) but i jus wanted to say thanks again to all those who posted, it really helped me a lot in figuring this out. im definitely moving on cuz this guy is obviously not worth my time.
CaliGuy Posted December 23, 2007 Posted December 23, 2007 I've posted before but I have updated info.. and a different problem..sorta. I'm 23, graduated and now working and applying to grad schools. I feel like I am at the point in my life where I want to find someone to settle down with in the next few years. Luckily I thought my prayers were answered this past thanksgiving when I went to my cousin's wedding down south. We ended up staying at their family friend's house for the weekend. They have a son who is 24 and very cute. The last night we were there (after the wedding/reception), we ended up talking from 12.30 til about 3 in the morning. I really thought this was a good sign, since I thought we were both into each other. Like I don't think a lot of guys would talk to a random girl from out of state for like hours at night right?? So anyways, I told him before I left to add me on facebook and we can keep in touch. (I figured thats the easiest way to connect and communicate) I was hoping he would ask for my number but he didn't. So he added me and we've emailed each other like once every week but he doesnt really ask me anything, he just talks about how busy he is. and he takes like DAYS to respond back. The last time i messaged him was last week (tuesday) and still havent heard since. Are all guys like this? I dunno if I should give him my number and tell him to call me sometime? or wait for him to respond.. if he ever responds. It's jus so hard to tell if he truly is busy or just not interested. I thought we had a connection and we could get to kno each other better or maybe its cuz we live in different states? i dunno. need help fast. thanks He sounds like a Tom Leykis graduate.
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