randuff Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 So I was laying on my bed watching TV and being, well kinda depressed. My kid asked me what was wrong. I then told him that I was a little sad and when he asked why I said because I miss xxxxx and Christmas will be a little different because she isn't around. He then asked if I love her. That kinda shocked me but I said yes, I do, very much. He then said : You have 2 choices Dad, forget about her OR keep going on like you are now. WTF!!!! My 8 year old son has more insight than I do!! He is so right and in his innocence I saw the answer. Why keep on being miserable when I could just forget about all the bad and negative things and just move on. Unbelievable that he would tell me that. Anyways just thought I would share with you all out there that sometimes it is just the simplest answer that we need.
Green Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 you've become addicted to that feeling of depresion. Your sons right you can keep your current routine up and see where that gets you or you can move on.
whichwayisup Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Wow, kids sometimes are brutally truthful. Listen to you kid, pick yourself up and keep busy. Give yourself abit of down time to reflect and/or feel sad, but don't let the bad feelings take over, enough that your kid notices... Anyway, it's cool that he felt confident enough to give you a needed kick in the butt!(Though his intentions probably weren't that - He just wants to see you up and happier)
asilisa Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Reading what your son said made me laugh. Sometimes kids say things that are too funny. I mean he is 8 years old and he gave advice that actually makes sense. I work with children and sometimes the things they come out with I can't believe. Your son is right...you can't keep going on like this. I read a lot of your post and you seem like a nice, caring guy...you deserve to be happy. I'm in the same position as you are; we just need to keep telling ourselves that things will work out...you just gotta live your life for yourself and your son. Good luck and enjoy the holidays with your son! --Lisa
underpants Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 I think that children are probably some of the wisest people on the planet. Life has not convoluted their brains yet. Their logic is pure and untainted by silly adult rambling obsessions. I love to talk to children about things. More often then not, they have great outlooks on life. My 5 year old nephew saw me after my break up and took my face into his tiny hands, tilted my head down and looked me straight in the eye and said..."He made a bad choice". Hard to argue with that.
CaliGuy Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 So I was laying on my bed watching TV and being, well kinda depressed. My kid asked me what was wrong. I then told him that I was a little sad and when he asked why I said because I miss xxxxx and Christmas will be a little different because she isn't around. He then asked if I love her. That kinda shocked me but I said yes, I do, very much. He then said : You have 2 choices Dad, forget about her OR keep going on like you are now. WTF!!!! My 8 year old son has more insight than I do!! He is so right and in his innocence I saw the answer. Why keep on being miserable when I could just forget about all the bad and negative things and just move on. Unbelievable that he would tell me that. Anyways just thought I would share with you all out there that sometimes it is just the simplest answer that we need. Kids are very perceptive and smarter than we give them credit for. Spend more time with your kid. Laugh if you want, but you just might re-learn what life is about. Cheers.
Author randuff Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 And the way in which he said it was the most striking aspect of it all. Just matter of factly, kind of like saying you can have hamburgers for dinner or you can eat pizza.... Your choice. It was kinda funny that I laughed. He is what makes me get through this by the way. I am a single dad and I have custody of him so after the breakup he was the rock that kept my sanity intact.
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