apeterson Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 So I have been going to the gym alot lately since I broke up with my GF. It has been a while now and I really feel I am ready to take the next step. Well there is the girl that works out at my gym… I know nothing about her, never talked to her, (minus a hi, or a smile here and there) well I don’t know how to make the first move or initiate a conversation… I work out at a small gym in a small town and I don’t want to look like a dumb ass and make it uncomfortable for me, or her for that matter…. I am really shy when it come to meeting new girls…. Unless I am drinking... guess I don’t know what to do…. I mean, I cannot just walk up to her and talk to her when she is on the treadmill can I????? I don’t want to look like one of those guys, know what I mean… Thanks!!!!!!!!!!
Legend Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 I've always found it difficult to approach women at the gym... If you're currently saying hi and smiling at each other, then i'd take that as a positive sign. Do you make eye contact throughout your workout sessions? How long has that been going on for? What I did once, was pace my work out so I left the same time as the girl I was interested in. There's a parking lot at my gym, so I walked with her to the lot, started conversation, and before I knew it, was at her car, asked for if she'd like to grab coffee. Got her number. Nothing really came of it, we had coffee, maintained friendliness at the gym, but weren't compatible. You never know if you don't try. Just gotta put yourself out there. Confidence, confidence, confidence!
Author apeterson Posted December 18, 2007 Author Posted December 18, 2007 well I tried the "leaving at the same time" thing..... it was pretty close but she just leaft before I was there... anyway... she did look at me and smile on her way out the door.... this has been going on for a few weeks... I would say I look at her while she is working out. but dont want to stare so I look away quickly... dont know if I ever have caught her looking at me or me looking at her.... I do like your idea.... will keep trying to time it right...
Legend Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 If she's smiling, that's definitely positive body language. Keep trying and get the timing right. Try to catch eye contact, just don't stare her down and come off creepy. What's the worst that can happen? you get turned down? Never know if you don't give it a shot.
Author apeterson Posted December 19, 2007 Author Posted December 19, 2007 yea... I know.......... she was not at the gym last night... so hopfully tonight... Thanks again... anyone got anything else to give me an edge....
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