what will happen?

[phillip2]

you may of seen my post a few weeks ago.to cut a long story short...

my bf finished me 3 weks 1 day ag saying im too young (1 yr 6 months younger) and that i was just not his type.

then he said we can stay friewnds and sometimes in jan or feb he will come see me,as a m8. but i was a bit ennoying texting him like once a day just generally saying how he is etc. then he would not text back on purpose so id give his phone a ring,the other night he came online and said that we should only stay MSN friends now this really upset me coz losing him as a bf was bad enough but knowing ill never see him again, i said is it coz im ennoying he said yeh.do you reckon in time he might want to meet as friends again?if i prove to him just by not texting etc that i am not ennoying?

 

any info/advice/help etc all appreciated.

[Ronni_W]

Well, obviously no one knows for sure. But we do know what definitely makes him NOT want to be friends -- do not call or text him.

 

For me, I'd say even when you're both on MSN, wait for him to connect with you. It really isn't a good idea to ever come on too eager (tho I know it's hard to figure out the "right" amount of 'eager' cos it's different for everyone.)

 

I do admire that he recognized that he couldn't handle the age difference -- I'm sure you know that has nothing to do with you as a person.

 

He said you're not his "type" but my guess is it was more about where his head is at versus yours -- not that there's anything wrong with your "type" or with you as a person.

 

Hang in there, and hopefully he'll come around to being able to be friends again.

[jimmer21]

i guess your kinda my age, 19 ish well anyway i would do as above, ive lernt that being to available and all that is not good. even so when he comes on msn, dont staart the convo, and also be the one to leave the convo act like you dont need him even though you realy want to talkto him it will be realy hard but just be nice to him etc like a mate act like you dont want himanymore is allisay realy

[phillip2]

ok thanks i just wish he would relisase were perfect for each other,was great when we was together.

well what if he doesent start a convo with me on msn?

 

i just miss him so much but im talking to another lad who seems good, but we havent met yet so.

 

btw im only 15, he just turned 17.

[jimmer21]

then dont talk to him easy. he will talkto you eventualy, you need to let himrealise you were great together telling him pushes him away. i remeber when i was with a girl at that age well same asyou to i was 17 she was just bout to turn 16 she just kept on at me i promis it will annoy him. ignore him will get his attention more. i have been no contact with my ex the love of my life now for 2n half months inthat time she cxame round my house on her birthday which i ignored so it does work even though we arnt together anymore i got her atttention but our situation is diffto yours so who knows

[Ronni_W]

ok thanks i just wish he would relisase were perfect for each other,

well what if he doesent start a convo with me on msn?

 

Well, no. The truth is that you were not perfect for each other -- for one thing, the age difference; and for another, your ability to be able to annoy him to the point where he's totally turned off from being friends. That is too far from "perfect".

 

If he doesn't start an MSN convo, do you best to not start one yourself. Or only start it every 2nd or 3rd time.

 

It's totally normal to miss someone you cared about -- take your time to get over that loss. IMO, it's good to develop friendships but not just go rushing from one person to the next cos you end up missing YOU, that way, and never really get to know what YOU like, dislike, want, don't want, etc.

[phillip2]

i only know what i want , i only want one thing and that was him.

well il ignore it next time, but i really cant see him even over time becoming more intrested in me especially to the point were he gets jealous.also i said ok i wont text anymore or ring but i had to last night coz i needed his ful adreess to send his crimbo card, he neva replyed.

 

is there anyway anybody could help me to the best i can build a relationship back with him or try my best to make it worse,does anyone here have msn , then when he comes on we can talk through it.

[Ronni_W]

...i only want one thing and that was him.

...i really cant see him even over time becoming more intrested in me especially to the point were he gets jealous. also i said ok i wont text anymore or ring but i had to last night coz i needed his ful adreess to send his crimbo card, he neva replyed.

 

Well, you are kinda right -- if he is intelligent and has high self-esteem, he wouldn't ever get jealous.

 

I do know that a relationship with him is what you wanted. What's the next thing that you want, that has nothing to do with him?

 

Forget sending the card. He does not want to here from you. He has been clear with you. Respect that. And keep your promise to not text or call him.

[phillip2]

ok well i cant think of much good things without him.chiristmas,

i did text this morining again for his postcode BUT he did text back.

he aint that inteliggent lol.

[sedgwick]

I take it what you mean is "annoying" -- in which case, if he can't handle you being a year and a half younger, and he can't handle you sending him messages (unless you're sending him dozens a day), he's really not much of a boyfriend. Also, dear god, PLEASE don't look at a jealous bf as a good thing! It's not!!!

 

Once again I ask a young person on LS...would it be a problem to write in real English instead of internet slang? It's hard to read if you're not in the habit of writing that way, as I am not.

[Summer_guy_uk]

btw im only 15, he just turned 17.

 

These are your practice relationships, you'll be over it soon enough when the next hot guy winks at you

[phillip2]

lol i doubt it.