lost66 Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 First, I need to give background info. I have been going on dates from Match. I have found the site great and in the past 2 months probably been on 4-5 dates. Well, this past one I took her to this very nice restaurant, a wine bar, then we went to this dance club. We were about to leave and I saw a couple of my friends in the window of this other club. They saw me and started waving me in (come in! come in!). So reluctantly we went in. This was the first date and face to face meeting with the girl so I wasn't too comfortable brining her around my friends already. Although, these guys aren't great friends. The story thickens... So, throughout the date we had a lot in common regarding music, work (both being in to the IT field), travels, etc. She was cute but not really my type. At any rate, we were having a good time, kissed a couple of times, whatever. So, we went into the bar where my friends were and its sort of a lounge. We sit on this couch and I notice that my date is talking to one of my friends a lot. I think nothing of it, not really caring anyway because there wasn't any fireworks going on with us. So now my friends are leaving and I am ready to go home too. My friends are going to another bar, by this time its like 1:30am. We had been drinking fairly heavly all night and the date was done in my mind. She wanted to go to the next bar and I said I didn't want to. She said she wants to go home then. The next day I'm super hung over on a red wine hang over. I figure I would just email this girl just to be friendly and said "great time...hung over..." That is exactly what I put in the email. I didn't hear from her and really didn't care. She was definately not for me. Then, I get this email from her this morning. I copy and pasted it, enjoy: okay so i have been sitting on this email, for a few days. but after my life changing trip to New York, I decided to go ahead of write this. yes, it is 1am, reason being i can't sleep after what happen today. Life is very short, and starting thinking what i really want in life. I will say I did have a lovely date with you, but we are not a good match for several different reasons....you will be a great catch for someone, just not me. You would be an excellent friend, hence we have so much in common.... And Instead of being honest, I kept drinking throughout the night last week. Which is not at all the best decision. I apologize for the fact that I was not honest with you from the beginning. And I never meant to hurt you, or put a strain on you and your friends. From the other night, you were certain about not going to the (other bar),... I took that literally, and not thinking that you did not want to share me with them. And I read it wrong, and have no excuse for my behavior... in fact me telling you this over email is such a stupid thing, b/c I am all about telling people in person and give them the respect. And I did not do that to you, and that is bad character/judgment on my part. That night I acted on impulse with one of your friends, and I am sorry. We hit it off and things just clicked. And to be honest I feel like I have known this person for such a long time, and like i said before things just clicked. Unfortunately, for my sake he did not want to hurt you and ended things quickly. So I lost out twice, someone that could be a good friend with (you), and someone that I saw in a different light. And no it was not while i was with you. Again, I am sorry that I hurt you, and I understand the importance of friendships, and no "woman/girl" should ever come between. I should have respected you more. I feel awful. I hope you can accept my apology (sorry for all the mis-spellings). And life is too short, so please Seize the Day. Live life as though it is your last..... Take care (my name), and I hope one of these days we can put this all behind us. You are truly a special person, and I want only the best for you. And I will completely understand if you do not forgive, I don't even forgive myself for my awful behavior with you. Best, (her name) Haahahahahaha!!!! Wow, can you say RED FLAG!!! What a freaking wierdo. I wonder if she went to that bar after I dropped her off. It was a good 20 minute drive from her place to the bar they were going to. I can't tell in this email if they ended up hooking up or what. The guy that she is talking about is not a good friend, more of an aquaintence. Put it this way, I wouldn't invite him to a party of mine. I wonder if he told her to F off or what? I'm not even going to call to find out, really don't care. I don't plan on emailing her either, rather just leave it alone. I wan't going to try to contact her anyway. Think she is full of herself? ha! Would you email her back? I could think of 100 things to rip on her about.
Geishawhelk Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 Hit delete. Move on. Let it go. What a crock!
Lishy Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 wow what a freaky lady! hope she didnt hurt you too much lol
Legend Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 Sounds like a total psycho. Definitely some extra baggage with this one. Delete and never look back! Sounds like she went to the other bar after you had dropped her off, how else would she have started talking to that other person and really connected? Did you notice her talking to him at at all while at the first bar? Red flag for sure. I wouldn't write back... my .02
Author lost66 Posted December 18, 2007 Author Posted December 18, 2007 issues, issues...Can't wait until I run into the "friends of mine" and see what they say. Bet they don't say a word, ha!
D-Lish Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 I am betting the e-mail was sent in order to prompt you to give your blessing for her to date your friend and facilitate the set up. ;-) sneaky... and whacked.
Crestfallen_KH Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 It's e-mails like this that make me remember why I liked being married.
EYECANDY000 Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 i definately think she went back to the bar and your aquaintance told her even though they had a lot in common he cant mess with a friends girl/date .. I wouldnt think twice about her.
Author lost66 Posted December 19, 2007 Author Posted December 19, 2007 D-Lish, I think you are right. She was either looking for me to say, awwww, its ok, or you should see him. Thing is, the guy she was talking to is a creep, druggie, messed up guy. Thats why I don't hang out with him. When we left the lounge and she wanted to go to the other bar I was telling her I didn't want to hang with them, she was asking why and I said just trust me, ha! Whatever, I just wanted to share with you guys this email. Funny, wierd, wacked out email. If I get another or if I hear from my "friend" I will let you know. happy dating
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