daydreamerz Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 So, I've been best friends with this girl for 3 years now, and she's probably the closest friend I've ever had. The problem is that she is extremely negative and when she gets mad a person she gets really personal. That's probably the one thing that gets to me the most, because even though I can lose my temper really easily I try to never get personal or say anything that I'm really going to regret. She never actually says anything to the person's face, but she'll trash them for hours behind their back, digging up the most hurtful and irrelevant things she can. I almost think this is worse because then usually by the next day she will be over it and treat them fine...and I will just be there thinking how can you act so normally around them after the horrible things you just said. It's really hard for me because when we fight she'll just ignore me for a few days and hang out with our other friends, and I know that she is talking just as much trash about me as she does everyone else. I'm just so sick of all the drama. I'm in college and I always thought that I'd leave all the pettiness behind once I graduated highschool, but I guess I was wrong.
kkthxbye Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 Sometimes people take a little longer to grow up. It took me probably into my late 20's to finally realize how much gossip and drama, immaturity and hot tempered people really weigh heavy on the soul. Your friend may just need to grow up a little bit, which will take time. Some people never grow out of that, but I find most of my friends did. If it bothers you that much, you can certainly chat with her about it. Not to expect her to change or understand, but for your own piece of mind. Lead by example always, and hopefully she will learn some day. When she starts loosing her friends due to her behavior, she will re-examine her habits pretty quickly.
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