melodymatters Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 My prediction is that if the guy calls D-Lish and wants to continue things, she'll be interested and want to as well. If he calls her and says he's not interested or just continues to ignore her, she'll decide that he's a jerk and she's not interested afterall. You heard it here first. . Well, that doesn't read like a compliment to me ! More like he is saying that her decision will be predicted by her ego. BUT, there's nothing wrong with that ! If the guy acts really into you, you may very well contiue to see him and see if the balance of good to bad, bets better or worse. If he shows NO interest, and there are already a few negative indicators, why not write him off ? ( and if deciding he was a jerk anyway, helps ease any of the " what if's" why not ?) Don't tell me guys don't so that too tanny !?!
tanbark813 Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 Well, that doesn't read like a compliment to me ! It's not supposed to be. Don't tell me guys don't so that too tanny !?! I can't speak for all guys but I know if I'm into a girl or not. I don't need to wait to hear back to then decide. D-Lish just wants to save face, which is fine, but enough with the self-delusion.
Author D-Lish Posted December 18, 2007 Author Posted December 18, 2007 My prediction is that if the guy calls D-Lish and wants to continue things, she'll be interested and want to as well. If he calls her and says he's not interested or just continues to ignore her, she'll decide that he's a jerk and she's not interested afterall. You heard it here first. Nope. I'm going to move on. I just had a phone conversation with him about 3 minutes ago and I told him politely that I didn't think we were right for one another and I was moving on.
KenzieAbsolutely Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 Nope. I'm going to move on. I just had a phone conversation with him about 3 minutes ago and I told him politely that I didn't think we were right for one another and I was moving on. aaaaaaaaaaand....curtain.
Author D-Lish Posted December 18, 2007 Author Posted December 18, 2007 It's not supposed to be. I can't speak for all guys but I know if I'm into a girl or not. I don't need to wait to hear back to then decide. D-Lish just wants to save face, which is fine, but enough with the self-delusion. There's no self delusion. The whole reason people post here is to work through things. Why would anyone care about saving face on an anonymous forum. WHat would be the point. I posted- got lots of advice and was able to see things a little clearer by the time I was done venting. Sleep helped to clear my head too. He sent me a message last night basically telling me he had though about it and "chose to continue seeing me". We chatted briefly last night- then again just a short while ago- and I made a decision to end something that is obviously unhealthy for me. Sure I am still attracted to him and it doesn't feel great to do it... but it was the best choice.
shockandawed Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 Nope. I'm going to move on. I just had a phone conversation with him about 3 minutes ago and I told him politely that I didn't think we were right for one another and I was moving on. Way to prove you are indeed "Cock of The Walk!!" Now enjoy your holidays!!!!!!
Jilly Bean Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 Nope. I'm going to move on. I just had a phone conversation with him about 3 minutes ago and I told him politely that I didn't think we were right for one another and I was moving on. Good for you, girl! How do you feel about that?
Author D-Lish Posted December 18, 2007 Author Posted December 18, 2007 Good for you, girl! How do you feel about that? Both good and a little sad... ;-) He was a good companion in many ways- despite the other stuff. But I think the "other stuff" was unhealthy enough to put an end to it. I appreciate the honest advice. Thanks.
Jilly Bean Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 Yeah, I hear ya, sister. It's never that cut and dry to dump them out of your life, because if they were 100%, they wouldn't have been there to begin with. FWIW, I'm very proud of you for taking care of YOU. Too many people will stay in bad relationships for the hell of it. So, it has to feel good to know that you did the right thing for YOU. As for the other stuff, time will help you forget the remaining good about him. Well, that and screwing some other guy always helps...
Author D-Lish Posted December 18, 2007 Author Posted December 18, 2007 Yeah, I hear ya, sister. It's never that cut and dry to dump them out of your life, because if they were 100%, they wouldn't have been there to begin with. FWIW, I'm very proud of you for taking care of YOU. Too many people will stay in bad relationships for the hell of it. So, it has to feel good to know that you did the right thing for YOU. As for the other stuff, time will help you forget the remaining good about him. Well, that and screwing some other guy always helps... haha, already set up a date! Actually, it just kind of worked out. I was on MSN and this guy I had gone out with once or twice before he left to go to Spain for a couple months just returned and wants to get together. He's no pro athelete...lol... but he is a sweetie. Thanks again for the words of encouragement. I have just been keeping myself busy and trying to put it out of my head- then I did the usual ritual cleansing and removed him from my MSN and facebook. That always helps to put some closure on things for me.
Jilly Bean Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 Damn! No moss growing on you, girl! Yeah! And I don't make a habit of dating pro athletes by any stretch. But one of my longer relationships was with one, and I travel a lot for work, and I seem to meet most of them on planes - lol... They are no different from any other dude, trust me. They still can be minutemen just like the guy next door... Take him out of your cell phone, too. I'm big for doing that. Then, when they contact me down the road, because you know they ALL come back, I'm looking at the phone, thinking, "who the **** is this?" And that's always a cool place to be in...
Author D-Lish Posted December 19, 2007 Author Posted December 19, 2007 Damn! No moss growing on you, girl! Yeah! And I don't make a habit of dating pro athletes by any stretch. But one of my longer relationships was with one, and I travel a lot for work, and I seem to meet most of them on planes - lol... They are no different from any other dude, trust me. They still can be minutemen just like the guy next door... Take him out of your cell phone, too. I'm big for doing that. Then, when they contact me down the road, because you know they ALL come back, I'm looking at the phone, thinking, "who the **** is this?" And that's always a cool place to be in... haha- I did that too. Even threw out a hat he had left here. I leave no room for reminders. I did date a former pro hockey player for a stretch.... He was hot...but kind of full of himself. He was always watching himself in the mirror when he performed. Then he loved to pull out his videos and show me highlights from his first star of the game moments. haha. Guess what? I got a call from his WIFE one day asking who I was. The pri$k actually kept a fully furnished love nest to bring his gf's to! I had no clue he was married! Never again. ;-)
Jilly Bean Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 OMG! That's why I'm a firm believer in googling the crap out of a dude. No, I never dated one who was married, but really, they are no different (to me) than a non-baller. Some are great, and some are dicks. Just gotta kiss a lot of frogs first... Good luck with the new dude!
Racquel Colette Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 What is going on is he has realized he hasn't had sex and would enjoy sex soon, thus the myspace message. I feel there is a point when we get too old for the myspace thing, although there are a lot of adults on there.
Author D-Lish Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 Just for support sake- someone tell me NOt to msn, e-mail or facebook please. I haven't..... and I have had a few beers and I know I don't want to/shouldn't/etc. Just blast me with "you're stupid's" Thanks
Jilly Bean Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Oh, no! D - go back up and re-read what YOU wrote about this guy. About how you felt he was no good for you, and how you felt you deserve better. Think how you felt after the first time you shagged and he calously laid there and told her he wondered how many more women he would plough AFTER you. I know the beers have made you feel weaker about it, and your judgement is down a bit, but trust me - if you contact him - you will HATE yourself tomorrow! STAY STRONG, SISTER!!!
Author D-Lish Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 Oh, no! D - go back up and re-read what YOU wrote about this guy. About how you felt he was no good for you, and how you felt you deserve better. Think how you felt after the first time you shagged and he calously laid there and told her he wondered how many more women he would plough AFTER you. I know the beers have made you feel weaker about it, and your judgement is down a bit, but trust me - if you contact him - you will HATE yourself tomorrow! STAY STRONG, SISTER!!! yeah. That's what I needed. Thank-ya. What is it about rejection that can take things from a quiet confidence to a crazed nightmare. ?
Jilly Bean Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 I know, D. It just flares up out of nowhere sometimes, doesn't it? Really - go back and read what a heel he was, and how you were so resolute in dumping him. Stay strong! Don't let yourself down... And YOU ultimately rejected him - remember that...
Author D-Lish Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 ;-) I realize it and I am holding strong! It's just hard. That is why I vent here. Thanks guys.... ;-)
Florida Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Good for you! As if you didn't have enough red flags on him-I'll add my 2 cents: I hated the way he went awol then worded his come back "I've decided to choose to be with you"....whatever this guy was trouble with a capiol T. He'll keep looking until he finds a woman who will tolerate that stuff, woe to be her. Glad it wasn't you!
Author D-Lish Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 lol. Yeah- in the long run I will be glad too. Crazy in love with me one moment and missing the action the next. Gotta love that... ;-)
shockandawed Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 OMG! That's why I'm a firm believer in googling the crap out of a dude. You're my kind of girl Jilly, I think I might enjoy having a girl googling the crap out of me..... When's the new date D?
Author D-Lish Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 You're my kind of girl Jilly, I think I might enjoy having a girl googling the crap out of me..... When's the new date D? We went out last night. We've been out a few time already before he went away. He's okay- a nice distraction, a nice guy. ;-)
Jilly Bean Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 You're my kind of girl Jilly, I think I might enjoy having a girl googling the crap out of me..... When's the new date D? LOL - indeed, Shocked... D - good for you for getting right back out there! Hope he turns out to be a swell one!
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