D-Lish Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 Just remember- you don't have to walk right up to her and ask her out! You are simply starting a conversation.... and a conversation isn't going to lead to rejection. What do you guys have in common that could be an opener for you? Tell her you like her shirt or her boots and smile and leave it at that. If you guys have been making eye contact she is probably wondering why you aren't saying anything. I always assume that if someone likes me that they will make the effort to talk to me.... ARe you on facebook? Is she? If so- why not approach it that way. Look her up and add her as a friend!
WIGIRL Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 I am Spartacus.... No I am Spartacus. Or am I way off here?
Author LupeFiasco Posted December 18, 2007 Author Posted December 18, 2007 well. unfortunately, at lunch today, i wanted to talk to her, and she went out for lunch today now im even more scared to do it...
D-Lish Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 well. unfortunately, at lunch today, i wanted to talk to her, and she went out for lunch today now im even more scared to do it... awwwwww..... I had a crush on a guy who managed the grocery store I shop at. I had intentions for years- yes years to ask him out. Everytime I would go shopping I would promise myself I was going to strike up a conversation. We made eye contact- got to the point where we said hello to one other...then it got to hello, how are you.... lol. Yes, this has been going on for about 5 years. Not kidding. Well, my point is that he now has a gf... I found out recently from a friend of a friend that he had been interested in me but never knew how to go about approaching me. So.... had I said hello and handed him my number one of those many times I intended to... we may have actually had a date. Keep that in mind. You are building this up to be some major event, when all it is, is a simple "hi, how are you". No response to the facebook approach? You aren't on there or Myspace? D
Legend Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 Gotta be a man about it Lupe, show confidence, she'll dig that. Go up to her and strike up a convo tomorrow. Best of luck!
Author LupeFiasco Posted December 18, 2007 Author Posted December 18, 2007 yo dam, this has taken me over past few days, im in need of desperate help i have a unit test tomorrow, and im just thinking about her (crying) dam can someone really help me, like give me step instructions, im sure she wont mind me, but i know after im like "Hi" i'l just freeze
Dynamo Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 yo dam, this has taken me over past few days, im in need of desperate help i have a unit test tomorrow, and im just thinking about her (crying) dam can someone really help me, like give me step instructions, im sure she wont mind me, but i know after im like "Hi" i'l just freeze I really wish there was more we could tell you man, but unfortunately the ball is in your court. Just make small talk! You are nervous to talk to her because you fear rejection. But if you talk to her with the only goal in mind being getting to talk, then you have nothing to fear. If you just go up and say hi it's not like she's going to suddenly shout out, "NO, I WON'T GO OUT WITH YOU!!" You'll want to act on it fast otherwise you'll just keep building up anxiousness over this not-so-big thing.
Legend Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 yo dam, this has taken me over past few days, im in need of desperate help i have a unit test tomorrow, and im just thinking about her (crying) dam can someone really help me, like give me step instructions, im sure she wont mind me, but i know after im like "Hi" i'l just freeze Well, I think you said one of your friends knows her & her friends. Try to get him to get you both to sit with them during lunch. Talk as a group, just discuss usual high school stuff. Classes, teachers, colleges that you might be going to, music, movies etc. There's no step by step that anyone can give you that'd be accurate. Everyone is different, and if we gave you a step by step, and she threw a curve ball, you'd freeze up. I'd recommend the group environment for starters, it'd probably alleviate some of your tension...
Author LupeFiasco Posted December 19, 2007 Author Posted December 19, 2007 wow, i cried, ****, somethings seriously wrong with me, im screwin up my life over her. **** :(:( and i still dunno wtf to do
Dynamo Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 wow, i cried, ****, somethings seriously wrong with me, im screwin up my life over her. **** :(:( and i still dunno wtf to do Wait.. What? Uhh, what did you cry about? I thought you haven't talked to her yet?
Green Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 stop crying you wuss... go make her cry... olright heres what you do step by step... sit down next to her and then just say something random " I like Dominos better then papa johns" maybe she'll comment back on what you said maybe she wont. Then if people are around ask her you could show her something... walk her away from her friends (before you try and get her away from her friends try to get atleast 4 mins of casual talk in) when you get her alone tell her "you should give me your number" then just keep friendly staring her in the eyes till she gives it... after you get the number txt her something funny yet flirty in a few hours later that day saying something along the lines of "try not to brag to all your friends i got your digits" then whether she responds or not u should avoid any more msgs till the next day. at school if you see her in the hall or at lunch you should walk up to her and playfuly mess with her in a way that lets you touch her like coment on her back pack being heavy and swoosh her around a little. or say thank your for buying you lunch and take some of her food a way for a moment... then call her later that night and try to get a hang out set up for that night.... now this is important you have to kisssss her.... well there you go step for step dude... oh yeah and if you get turned down dont take it personaly and start trying to get with other girls.... in fact you should be trying to get with other girls your interested in and try not to get obsesed over some girl you dont know youve built a fantasy
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