Really need her......can't stand it anymore...........

[LupeFiasco]

Well....

 

Im in grade 11, and tha girl i like is also grade 11....

 

i liked her since i wuz in grade 8, and i never got tha chance to talk to her because we never had any class together in high school since grade 8. So now, i just cant take it anymore, and i want to talk to her and ask her out. I have never talked to her ever.. Can someone tell me wat to do...

 

i see her at lunch everyday.. and im usually with my 4 friends im with everyday and shes with her 1 friend, which ironaclly, my best friend knows...

 

and also, shes a type of girl thats decent, and is not like most popular girls, yet she looks just as pretty.

 

whenver i see her, walking to another class or w.e we both alwaysssss have eye contact and we suddenly look away...

 

can someone please help me, and tell me how to and what to do....

 

thankzz

[LupeFiasco]

bump.....

 

plz help me someone :(

 

im just dying thinking about her...

 

and this is really distracting me from everything... all i think about is her.... wen im reading my physics textbook.. i think about her... wen im eatin... i think about her... and wen im sleepin.. ofcourse i think about her...

 

and btw never really had sexual thoughts about her....

 

more like hugging and kissing and makin her feel like theres no one better in this whole world

[D-Lish]

Aw, that's so sweeeeeet... (sorry).

 

Well, you said it yourself- your friend has an in with her friend. You have to use that connection to get to know her.

 

Ask your friend to talk to her at lunch and then ask if they mind if you guys sit with them.

 

Other than that- do you know where she works or what she does outside of school? Find out- and then "accidentally" run into her.

(no- that's not stalking).... unless you were to do it all the time and started decorating your bedroom with photo's of her until there was no wallspace left.

 

I'm just kidding. Ask your friend to get you an in with her friend.

Once that happens- you just say, hi, how are you....

;-)

[LupeFiasco]

Aw, that's so sweeeeeet... (sorry).

 

Well, you said it yourself- your friend has an in with her friend. You have to use that connection to get to know her.

 

Ask your friend to talk to her at lunch and then ask if they mind if you guys sit with them.

 

Other than that- do you know where she works or what she does outside of school? Find out- and then "accidentally" run into her.

(no- that's not stalking).... unless you were to do it all the time and started decorating your bedroom with photo's of her until there was no wallspace left.

 

I'm just kidding. Ask your friend to get you an in with her friend.

Once that happens- you just say, hi, how are you....

;-)

 

thankz,

 

but to tell u tha truth i talk with girls all tha time, but wen i see her, i just get nervous for some reason...

[LupeFiasco]

any more advice........................................

[LupeFiasco]

Helpppppppppppppppppppppppppppp

[Dynamo]

Ahh, Highschool romances. I'll tell you this man, act on it ASAP. Trust me - you don't want to be in the same boat as some of us, thinking back on "what could have been" if you just had the nerve to ask her out before someone else did. I know the feeling all too well.

 

As for suggestions.. I'm afraid thats all you, man. We can rant into oblivion, but at the end of the day YOU have to just walk up to her and talk with her. Try catching her inbetween classes. If thats too difficult/busy, then why not talk to her during lunch?

 

ALSO, DON'T just go up to her randomly and ask if she wants to go out! That's just creepy and a lot of girls will find that really wierd ( yes, even in Highschool). Instead, just start talking with her. Introduce yourself, make small talk for awhile. Don't act like you have the intentions of asking her out - just casually say something like "Oh, me and some of my friends were going to go (insert activity here - bowling, rock climbing, to the movies(not generally a good first date..) etc etc etc). Do you and your friend want to tag along?"

 

I know it's easier said then done, but some times you just have to man up and do it. Do you think she'd want to go out with someone who was too afraid to even talk to her?

Just remember this: She's only human. If she doesn't like you back, no loss. She'll most likely be flattered by the fact you showed interest in her.

 

Good luck kid!

 

EDIT: I compeltely forgot, but another good way to meet her is through MySpace or Facebook if you both have accounts. It's a relaxed, non-confrontational means of getting to know someone. Simply send her a message and be like "Hey this is _____, we go to school together. Your in my (insert class you two share here), right?"

Wala, opener.

[LupeFiasco]

Ahh, Highschool romances. I'll tell you this man, act on it ASAP. Trust me - you don't want to be in the same boat as some of us, thinking back on "what could have been" if you just had the nerve to ask her out before someone else did. I know the feeling all too well.

 

As for suggestions.. I'm afraid thats all you, man. We can rant into oblivion, but at the end of the day YOU have to just walk up to her and talk with her. Try catching her inbetween classes. If thats too difficult/busy, then why not talk to her during lunch?

 

ALSO, DON'T just go up to her randomly and ask if she wants to go out! That's just creepy and a lot of girls will find that really wierd ( yes, even in Highschool). Instead, just start talking with her. Introduce yourself, make small talk for awhile. Don't act like you have the intentions of asking her out - just casually say something like "Oh, me and some of my friends were going to go (insert activity here - bowling, rock climbing, to the movies(not generally a good first date..) etc etc etc). Do you and your friend want to tag along?"

 

I know it's easier said then done, but some times you just have to man up and do it. Do you think she'd want to go out with someone who was too afraid to even talk to her?

Just remember this: She's only human. If she doesn't like you back, no loss. She'll most likely be flattered by the fact you showed interest in her.

 

Good luck kid!

 

EDIT: I compeltely forgot, but another good way to meet her is through MySpace or Facebook if you both have accounts. It's a relaxed, non-confrontational means of getting to know someone. Simply send her a message and be like "Hey this is _____, we go to school together. Your in my (insert class you two share here), right?"

Wala, opener.

 

i dont really want to talk through facebook, msn, etc (online)

 

i want to talk to her in person, since i think its tha best way... but im not sure of wat to say...

 

like if i jus see her during lunch, wat would i say, can u give me a couple of example for tha "FIRST" thing to say

 

thankz, appreciate it

[Dynamo]

i dont really want to talk through facebook, msn, etc (online)

 

i want to talk to her in person, since i think its tha best way... but im not sure of wat to say...

 

like if i jus see her during lunch, wat would i say, can u give me a couple of example for tha "FIRST" thing to say

 

thankz, appreciate it

 

 

Hmm, I only suggested the Facebook / MSN thing because it's non-confrontational, neither of you will have to feel nervous and you have time to think out what you want to say/reply (don't have to think on your toes). But you are right, the best policy is to speak in person.

 

As for what to say.. I'd have to go to your school and know a bit about both of you to make any really helpful suggestions Maybe if you have a class with her go up to her and be like, "Do you understand the homework for (insert teacher her)?" If she says yes then ask her if she'd mind helping you out a bit, maybe crack a joke about how this teacher just confuses you or something.

Then you've already broken the ice. You can introduce yourself, etc and start making small talk.

 

It's difficult to give any real suggestions for this though, it's something you really have to come up with. Maybe find out what extra-ciriculars she does? If she's part of any teams, track, clubs, etc. If you are interested in any of them you could join up and get to know her through that.

 

Just be sure not to wait TOO long before showing interest in her or you may be friendzoned.

[LupeFiasco]

Hmm, I only suggested the Facebook / MSN thing because it's non-confrontational, neither of you will have to feel nervous and you have time to think out what you want to say/reply (don't have to think on your toes). But you are right, the best policy is to speak in person.

 

As for what to say.. I'd have to go to your school and know a bit about both of you to make any really helpful suggestions Maybe if you have a class with her go up to her and be like, "Do you understand the homework for (insert teacher her)?" If she says yes then ask her if she'd mind helping you out a bit, maybe crack a joke about how this teacher just confuses you or something.

Then you've already broken the ice. You can introduce yourself, etc and start making small talk.

 

It's difficult to give any real suggestions for this though, it's something you really have to come up with. Maybe find out what extra-ciriculars she does? If she's part of any teams, track, clubs, etc. If you are interested in any of them you could join up and get to know her through that.

 

Just be sure not to wait TOO long before showing interest in her or you may be friendzoned.

 

ok, but the problem is that i dont have, and never did have any classes with her

 

and as far as tha clubs, etc shez not in any -_-

 

do u think if i just walked up to her and say like "hi, whats up" or "hi, hows it going", etc would be too random??

[Dynamo]

ok, but the problem is that i dont have, and never did have any classes with her

 

and as far as tha clubs, etc shez not in any -_-

 

do u think if i just walked up to her and say like "hi, whats up" or "hi, hows it going", etc would be too random??

 

 

In the 'big world' it might be viewed as odd, but honestly in Highschool thats perfectly normal. No reason not to. Just don't make yourself seem creepy, don't immediately ask her to go out.. Do small talk with her for a couple days - no, you don't need to spend 10 hours on the phone with her spilling your confessions of love, just 5 minutes here, 10 minutes there. Once she knows who you are and feels comfortable around you, then feel free to make your moves

 

Good luck!

[LupeFiasco]

In the 'big world' it might be viewed as odd, but honestly in Highschool thats perfectly normal. No reason not to. Just don't make yourself seem creepy, don't immediately ask her to go out.. Do small talk with her for a couple days - no, you don't need to spend 10 hours on the phone with her spilling your confessions of love, just 5 minutes here, 10 minutes there. Once she knows who you are and feels comfortable around you, then feel free to make your moves

 

Good luck!

 

thankzzzz alottt man"

 

really aprreciate u replyin to me

 

il try to talk to her tomorrow, i know il b nervours, but i gotta give it a chance

 

thanks again

[Dynamo]

thankzzzz alottt man"

 

really aprreciate u replyin to me

 

il try to talk to her tomorrow, i know il b nervours, but i gotta give it a chance

 

thanks again

 

 

No problem! If you have any more questions in the future, feel free to come back to Loveshack. Great bunch of people around here. Oh and don't worry, your not alone in your confusion. I was asking (heck I still ask) these same questions, as do most people. So your not alone I'm not all that much older then you so of course I still have a lot to learn myself, but if there is anything I've learned in my years its:

A) Don't let opportunities pass you by because you were too nervous

B) put yourself out there

C) have fun!

 

Let us all know how it goes!

[LupeFiasco]

No problem! If you have any more questions in the future, feel free to come back to Loveshack. Great bunch of people around here. Oh and don't worry, your not alone in your confusion. I was asking (heck I still ask) these same questions, as do most people. So your not alone I'm not all that much older then you so of course I still have a lot to learn myself, but if there is anything I've learned in my years its:

A) Don't let opportunities pass you by because you were too nervous

B) put yourself out there

C) have fun!

 

Let us all know how it goes!

 

yea, i wil

 

yo i have another question.... like i said in tha post... my friend knows her and her friend. Today, at lunch, she and her friend was talking to my friend

 

i came out of the cafe.. and i saw them, but nervousely, i went to the table and started eating...

 

if i see a chance like that, what should i do

[Jilly Bean]

I'd be more concerned with being a junior in high school and not being able to spell above the 2nd grade level, more than I would asking out a girl who has no idea who you are... Only one of these issues is going to affect your future, hon...

[LupeFiasco]

I'd be more concerned with being a junior in high school and not being able to spell above the 2nd grade level, more than I would asking out a girl who has no idea who you are... Only one of these issues is going to affect your future, hon...

 

true.. i only talk like this online lol, im actually a smart student believe it or not (kind of )

 

but dam im so nervousssss of talkin to her

[Jilly Bean]

LOL. OK, so it's like high schooler online ebonics or something. I was getting worried...

 

Lupe, everyone has this little defining moments in their lives. So, here you are - poised for action. What are you going to do? WHAT kind of guy are you going to be? Are you going to sit and love her from afar until you graduate? Or, are you going to charge in there and ask her how her day is going?

 

THIS IS SPARTA!!!!

[LupeFiasco]

LOL. OK, so it's like high schooler online ebonics or something. I was getting worried...

 

Lupe, everyone has this little defining moments in their lives. So, here you are - poised for action. What are you going to do? WHAT kind of guy are you going to be? Are you going to sit and love her from afar until you graduate? Or, are you going to charge in there and ask her how her day is going?

 

THIS IS SPARTA!!!!

 

ok thats it, tomorrow, at lunch, im going up to her, no matter what, and just b like "Hi, whats up, so how are you doing today"

 

i hope i dont turn red, then shel know im scared to talk to her, but i gotta do it no matter wat

[Jilly Bean]

Sparta!!!!!

[D-Lish]

Women really do appreciate being approached.

Nothing will come out of it if you don't try, so you have nothing to lose!

[LupeFiasco]

Women really do appreciate being approached.

Nothing will come out of it if you don't try, so you have nothing to lose!

 

but i don want to screw it up with her... cuz theres really no other girl im really into... so if i screw it up, then i screw it all.

 

do you guys have any other suggestions which might make it better for me

[Dynamo]

THIS IS SPARTA!!!!

 

This... This is madness!!

 

*ahem* LupeFiasco, don't sweat it. In highschool, everyone is just as nervous as everyone else. Trust me on this. She'll be nervous but flattered that you are attracted to her. Whats the worse that could happen, really? Is it really going to affect your life THAT much? Like the Nike ads say, "Just do it."

Oh and another thing I found in Highschool, most girls find cute when a guy is nervous or when he blushes while talking to them. Atleast the girls at my school told me so, because I always blushed whenever I was talking to someone I liked.

[LupeFiasco]

This... This is madness!!

 

*ahem* LupeFiasco, don't sweat it. In highschool, everyone is just as nervous as everyone else. Trust me on this. She'll be nervous but flattered that you are attracted to her. Whats the worse that could happen, really? Is it really going to affect your life THAT much? Like the Nike ads say, "Just do it."

Oh and another thing I found in Highschool, most girls find cute when a guy is nervous or when he blushes while talking to them. Atleast the girls at my school told me so, because I always blushed whenever I was talking to someone I liked.

 

i know il blushh for sure.. but i dunno if tha girls here (Toronto, Ontario) would find it attractive, nevertheless... i know wat to do, but dam i know il b too nervous in front of her

[Dynamo]

i know il blushh for sure.. but i dunno if tha girls here (Toronto, Ontario) would find it attractive, nevertheless... i know wat to do, but dam i know il b too nervous in front of her

 

Well, all we can do is wish you luck! Atleast you are manning up and fighting your nervousness to talk to her. Thats a big and very important step! I know many of us (myself included) often times were too nervous to do just that, so hats off to you.

 

That being said, it's only natural to be nervous, especially at your age where social acceptance in school seems like such an important thing. Don't worry, you'll do fine. I still get nervous when talking to a girl I like, but it's all about playing it cool and not letting her know you are ; )

[LupeFiasco]

tthanks, il see what happens tomorrow, and post it in this thread..