unimoko Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Hi All, I do not know where to post this so please forgive me is this thread is out of place. Anyway a few months ago I was in a really crappy place in my life. I had a miserable job that was sucking the life force out of me and my boyfriend off/again of a 1yr broke up with me. The relationship was not great but I really thought he could commit to a serious relationship. Plus I felt stuck in terms of career and personal development. The craziest thing was the day I broke up with my bf my neighbor (he lives below me) we ran in to each other and decided to go out to a movie and we later went to dinner. So we began to hang out. Play cards and watch movies. That was it but he wanted more, and I always discouraged him. I was so miserable, looking for a new job and trying to get myself togerther and I was ignoring the train wreck right in front of me. There was the warning signs that something was wrong with him. He told me that he moved to the area to "start fresh", he was interested in dating the cleaning lady for our apartment complex (who showed no interest in dating him), he said that he has not had sex in 7 yrs prior to his brief stint with a girlfriend. It got crazy when he knock on my dour every other day to "hang out" and say that he was just waiting for me to be ready to date him. He would make every occassion to suggest we should be together despite lack of any common interests. I don't even think he liked cards? I did stupid things like he stopped by when I was in a drunkin stupor and whinning about my ex and how much I loved him. I would also make fliratous jokes and behavour. I know now it was wrong and I am sorry that he took that seriously despite telling him I was not romantically interested. For the record I did not kiss him and avoided him touch me. I was not attracted to him sexually. Long end short I told him to buzz off after socializing for 3 weeks. It was just too apparent that he was needy and possesive. I did not hear and avoided speaking to him for 2 months and thought the issue was resolved. Most recently he stopped by my apt to give me an "gift" I did accept. I already concluded through advice from friends/family to remind him again when I see him that I am not interested. What scares me is that he is a cop and I think he is emotionally unstable and I just don't want to end up missing and have a my face on a milk carton with the caption. "Have you seen me?" I just want to know why someone would behave like this? To insist to be with someone despite numerous shut downs. Is it because he thinks I am a young vulnerable woman. I'm 25 and he's 35. I don't want to hear "I told you so" because I already know what I did wrong and it would rub salt in the would. I am just trying to sort out some things and help would be appreciated. Thanks.
Jilly Bean Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Tell him you got back together with your ex. Easiest and best way to let a guy down.
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