Kiahleigh Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Hi I will make this as short as I can I have been dating the same guy for the past year. I'm a single mom and have been since my daughter was born shes 5 now single meaning I have lived alone. I have worked very hard to get where I am today. Me and my boyfriend decided to move in together in September It was a feeling of relief after having the responsibilities of all the bills and rent for so long I finally had someone to share this with. Not only that but I was sharing a home with someone I truly loved and saw myself spending my life with. Wednesday night we got into an arugment because of something really stupid. I wont bore you with the details, Thursday He turned off my cell phone so I knew something was up I went home on my lunch break to find all of his things gone and a note that read sick of wasting my f***ing time here don't contact me. Of course I did anyway I actually saw his truck at a gas station and I jumped in the back seat while he was at the store and when he got back I demanded to know what was going on. we went to a local restruant and he told me it was over he cant take the arguing anymore and for me to move on. I left that day feeling awful. The thing is I've always been a mother I work everyday 9-5 we come home have dinner, take a bath go to be wake up go to school I go to work it never changes him on the other hand he works but he also used to go out with all his single friends every night. But we tried to make it work and it was beautiful he was everything I wanted I love him so much and I cant stop crying and when I'm not crying I feel like I'm going to. On top of this its christmas time I don't know how I'm gonna pay for everything he totally screwed me right at christmas I would have saved more money if I would have known. Well on Thurs, Fri, sat and sun I have been blowing his phone up constantly texting, or leaving a voice mail.. finally last night I was asking him to come over and he said "I'm not coming and I'm not coming back"... I got mad and said I'm done and I havent text since only to say what did he leave that he needed cause he kept saying he had stuff at my house. that was at 6 am in the last half hour he has text me about his stuff which is nothing.. but some mail and a newspaper clipping. How will I get over him? I'm so devasted and then when I get strong enough to say I'm done he starts contacting me again.. what do I do?? I want him back but if thats not an option I want to get over him. its Christmas I dont want to feel this way.. can ya'll help me please I'm desperate for answers.
amaysngrace Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 I want to get over him. its Christmas I dont want to feel this way.. can ya'll help me please I'm desperate for answers. You have to shift the focus off of him and onto your daughter right now. It's Christmas and she's the reason you've come this far and are doing so well on your own. She's been your strength and you owe it to her to return the favor. It's Christmas for a five year old child in your house. How can things be bad? And as for this guy. He is playing games. As soon as you stop contacting him he goes out of his mind. Stick with that. Let him try to widdle his wormy way back into your life...just don't fall for it. Giving him your focus will take the focus off of your daughter. He's hardly worth it.
loveinlife Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Welcome to LS. Just note that there are different opinions here and you should choose to listen to your heart. Im going through a breakup too. She left two mondays ago and doesn't want anything to do with me. It was over a small arguement which turned bigger. Our egos clashed and she felt hurt from it, unappreciated, and left our relationship. There is no time period for our healing but to embrace this wound, easy said than done. Listen to amay, she is giving good advice. I know he means a lot to you. Give him some space and maybe he will change his mind. good luck buttercup =)
Author Kiahleigh Posted December 17, 2007 Author Posted December 17, 2007 and why is it he won't leave me alone now that I have not contacted him. when I was contacting him he was telling me to face it and that he's not coming back and constantly reminded me it was over.... so now that I'm trying to let go he's contacting me he even called to ask why I was being like I was last night which I was being mean cause he hurt me so bad. Why do you think he is doing this?
amaysngrace Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Why do you think he is doing this? Like I said he's playing games. He wants to know you want him but really doesn't want you beyond that. Contacting him will only boost his ego and lower your own.
Author Kiahleigh Posted December 17, 2007 Author Posted December 17, 2007 thank you thats really a cruel thing for him to do. I appreciate your advice
loveinlife Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 and why is it he won't leave me alone now that I have not contacted him. when I was contacting him he was telling me to face it and that he's not coming back and constantly reminded me it was over.... so now that I'm trying to let go he's contacting me he even called to ask why I was being like I was last night which I was being mean cause he hurt me so bad. Why do you think he is doing this? He is calling you know bc he is finally realizing what he is missing. stay strong. take care
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