ConfusedMale Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 im confused and im not sure how to handle my relationship or what to do. here is a quick background of the last 2 years. i have been dating my current gf for the last 4 years. about 2 years ago she decided she wanted more children. she had one from a previous relationship. she wanted to have another. we have already been together for 2 years. she breaks a bombshell on me and let me know she wanted to have another baby with her ex not with me. it started a series of fights and arguments. i got upset and started looking elsewhere. we stayed together on and off during her pregnancy until one day i had enough and completely broke it off with her. i met someone else fairly quickly. the new girl was basically a whore. i treated her like i treated my ex-gf. i just wanted to pain to go away. about a month later my ex and i got back together. two weeks later i dumped the "rebound" girl. i never told my gf about the rebound. a couple of months later we moved in together. she started digging up information my rebound. she even befriended her to get information on me. for the last 6 mos almost every day I hear about how much more special my rebound was. she pushes me for information on the rebound. she wants to know specific details. alot of stuff i dont remember and i dont want to remember. it was a very difficult time in my life and i dont want to remember it. she quizzes me on it based on what the rebound has told her. everyday she comes home with new information on my rebound (myspace sucks). she knows this girl was only a rebound but shes convinced that the rebound was a much more special relationship then what we have. i love my gf. i thought i could ride out the storm til she got over the rebound but i cant take it anymore. she purposely wears the same perfume the rebound wears. she paints her nails the same color. she has done other things to make herself more like the rebound. my gf doesnt understand how sick it is and how much shes hurting me. ive done everything i could do to prove to her that i would never cheat on her. she thinks im going to do it again. i havent had any contact with the rebound in over a year. i just want my gf to get over it already. ive accepted her new baby and i dont torture her over it. what can i do to help her heal? or to help her see things differently?
whichwayisup Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 let me know she wanted to have another baby with her ex not with me Because of the above, break up with her. This is pure bull*****. You two have been together for 4 years and she wants to have a baby with her ex, but not with you??? Uhh, does she know how insulting and hurtful that is? Imagine if the situation was reversed, could you imagine her reaction if you had a child with an ex, and wanted another child, but preferred to ask your ex rather than her? This is the most outrageous thing i've ever heard! The rebound girl really doesn't matter as you two were broken up, so she needs to get over it. I mean, seeing as she had sex with her ex so she could get pregnant again and expected you to be OK with it? I think her being jealous and trying to be like the rebound girl is more about her trying to cover up what she's done to you.
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