wookinpanub Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Yay, time for my bi-weekly emergency thread, woot! LOL, anyway.... I went with a buddy to see i am legend. We met up with his girlfriend and a bunch of her friends. Well it was sold out. So we went to someones house and decided to party instead. Well anyway, I kept talking to this one girl all night and we hit it off (apparently, when I wasn't there she was all like asking my friend if i seemed interested and said she though i was cute). All well and good and on the ride back to take his gf and this girl home, things got, er, heavy in the back seat. Well needless to say we tried to hookup but i had complications (i was entirely too drunk). Anyway, despite this, I kind of like this girl. We kind of have a date tomorrow to go see i am legend. I am just a little confused though cuz of what happened. Should I just act as if this is the first date. The other thing is kind of hypocritical, but because of what happened friday night, I am a little hesitant even though my friend and his gf have reassured me that was like the first time she has ever done that...
Author wookinpanub Posted December 17, 2007 Author Posted December 17, 2007 and i how do i know if its a date date?
D-Lish Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 What are you hesitant about? Are you saying you are worried that because she was willing to have sex with you the first time you met that she may do this regularly....and that would bother you? Why don't you do something different than going to a movie- perhaps out for a coffee? It's hard to get to know someone when you see a movie together- because you can't talk! If you like her, I think it's worth getting to know her a little better. Perhaps the alcohol clouded her judgement, and it could have been a one time thing.
Author wookinpanub Posted December 17, 2007 Author Posted December 17, 2007 Yeah, I don't really like movies as a first date, but alas I am unoriginal. That and I kind of thought it might be a nice touch, given that was the circumstance of us even meeting, lol.
Jilly Bean Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Please don't take this the wrong way, Wook, but the fact that you had whiskey dick within hours of meeting her and you are still plugging through to have a real date shows a ****load of confidence on your part! I'm impressed. Most guys would slither away. I like your style, Wook! Go get her!
D-Lish Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 As weird as this sounds- my best first date with someone was a scavenger hunt. I met him in his city square and he had arranged a list of landmarks for me to find and we took pictures. I thought it was odd at first- but I had a great time and we ended the night with a martini. You can always have a drink after the movie accompanied by some conversation.
Author wookinpanub Posted December 17, 2007 Author Posted December 17, 2007 I dunno, i guess mostly i just wanna ask her if that really was like a one time or if she does that with a lot of guys. i know i cant though without sounding like a jerk, but yeah.
D-Lish Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 I wouldn't come right out and ask....lol. It might come out as offensive. I truly think that a sober date will give you some insight into who she is. I see no harm in saying that the first date got a little "crazy" and then see what her reaction is.
Author wookinpanub Posted December 17, 2007 Author Posted December 17, 2007 yeah that would prolly be a good call. I think ill try saying something like that. Thank you for all the ideas and stuff. And no offense taken jilly bean!
D-Lish Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 I think you can ask her in a way that wouldn't be offensive- it's just a tricky subject. I understand your apprehension though. Let us know how it goes!
Author wookinpanub Posted December 18, 2007 Author Posted December 18, 2007 UPDATE So we had the date. My friend and his gf (the original ones that i met this girl through them) ended up coming along cuz he hadn't seen it yet either. I honestly thought I completely bombed. I didn't talk much, just kind of felt awkward. I brought up the other night, and I am pretty much convinced it was like a one time, drunken thing. She didn't come off like slutty or whatever at all. Afterwards, my buddy and his gf left and we just kind of hung out talking. She made some CD with music on it cuz we had been talking about it. Hugged her bye and that was it, nothing more and I was so relieved by it cuz I'm starting to like her more. I still thought I bombed... I was like kicking myself afterwards about being quiet and shy as I normally am. Well I did something I don't usually do in that situation. I called her up, told her I had a lot of fun with her and was like "i was just wondering if you wanna hang out again whenever you have time?" and she was like "yeah, definitely, i'm free tomorrow..." So I am hanging out with her tomorrow again. Anyone have any awesome ideas for a date? I don't wanna do a movie again. Thanks!
ElvenPriestess Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 How about dinner, (doesn't have to be fancy) and maybe something night life type? You know, cruise the down town area (not sure where you live) just hang out, maybe grab a drink, NOT TOO MUCH THOUGH. Or you could hit up a coffee shop and hang out. You could even ask her what she's in the mood to do when you see her? Make it spontaneous, and if she hasn't a clue, then fall back on your own ideas. :-) And I am SO happy to hear she wanted to see you that soon! She obviously likes you. Have fun!
Krytie TV Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 Anyone have any awesome ideas for a date? I don't wanna do a movie again. Thanks! One of my favorite early dates is bowling. It's active to a degree, you don't have to sit and stare at each other, it can be a catalyst for physical contact if you want that (high fives and other playful gestures), it creates an environment in which you can place small bets (depending on the touchy factor you guys have, this can be very fun indeed), and it stimulates the hormones (is it endorphins? I forget . As a guy, it also gives me great insight as to compatibility, cuz if she's too girly for bowling it would never work. That and you can play pool or shuffleboard afterwards. I just did bowling as a first date last night and it was one of the best first dates I've ever had. When the games were up she wanted 2 more, recent shoulder surgery and all. Now that's a trooper.
ElvenPriestess Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 Shotting pool is one of my funnest date times too, then there's no pressure or anything, you're just enjoying yourselves.
D-Lish Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 BOOOOOOWWWWWLIINNNNGGGGG..... nooooooooooooooo! lol. I have severe anxiety issues about bowling. Used to love it until one night I went with a bunch of friends and a boy I liked (this was highschool) and I slipped and fell mid-release. Now I twitch when a date asks me to go bowling. Come up with two or three options- dinner, bowling, see a band, etc....and that gives her a choice. If she says it doesn't matter- pick your fav.
Author wookinpanub Posted December 19, 2007 Author Posted December 19, 2007 Ehh, well she ended up having to bail tonight. She called and said her grandmother like came in from out of town to surprise them and she hadn't seen her in a long time sooo yeah. I just kinda figured she was blowing me off but she really wanted to do it tomorrow, so I guess not. Yeah, I'll post and let ya'll know how it goes!
ElvenPriestess Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 I doubt she's blowing you off, it's the holidays so it makes sense that she may have gotten a surprise family visit.
Legend Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 On the next 'date' or 'hang out' whatever you'd like to call it, and no matter what kiss her at the end. Bowling and Dinner is good. (sorry d-lish! lol) Comedy club & dinner, Miniature golf and dinner or an arcade like dave & busters etc. Regardless, next time ask her if she'd like to go on a date on (insert day here) at (insert time). Just refer to it as a date, not 'hanging out' that's friend zone material. I agree with Elvenpriestess, it's the holidays, it's doubtful she's blowing you off. Best of luck, keep us updated!
Author wookinpanub Posted December 19, 2007 Author Posted December 19, 2007 Ehhh, well she was supposed to call me this afternoon and never did. I tried calling her but her phone was off so whatever. If it's one thing i've learned, its that im not gonna beat myself up over a date or make the effort where it is not reciprocated. If she wants to hang out, its up to her. Otherwise, I made my effort, the ball is in her court.
D-Lish Posted December 20, 2007 Posted December 20, 2007 Agreed, the ball is in her court. You kinda liked her, but wasn't sold on her right? Try and think of it that way... therefore it's no loss. If she does call- great, if not- it's her loss.
Author wookinpanub Posted December 21, 2007 Author Posted December 21, 2007 Yeah, um, so I talked to my buddy today. The one who introduced me to this girl. So he apparently talked to her about what was going on last night. He told me she is definitely diggin me, she is just busy a lot and that her gma is sick (which she didnt tell me). Well, I dunno, its still just whatever. I'm waiting to hear from her but I dunno how long I should wait?
D-Lish Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 I guess you wait until it feels right to stop. ;-) Maybe she is just a whole lot more shy than you expected....and perhaps she is a little nervous too after what almost but didn't happen. That's great that she is diggin ya. It's the holidays and what not- people are a little more busy than usual.
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