Krytie TV Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Simple question. Just curious which people prefer in the opposite sex. Opinions? And this only refers to outward behavior... we can never know if someone truly knows it or not. I prefer hot and doesn't.
Dynamo Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 I also prefer hot and doesn't. People who are "Hot and know it" tend to be cocky and arrogant. It can also be sort of intimidating if they are far more attractive then you and they believe it themselves...
Lizzie60 Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Humm.. I would say 'hot and doesn't' but I doubt there are many out there... if someone is hot.. they probably know it... now it's not the fact that they know it or not.. it's the attitude that goes with it... Maybe the person is hot and knows it..but acts as if she/he doesn't know it...
Author Krytie TV Posted December 17, 2007 Author Posted December 17, 2007 Maybe the person is hot and knows it..but acts as if she/he doesn't know it... That's what I'm getting at. So let me rephrase my question. Do you prefer "hot and acts it" or "hot and doesn't"?
Florida Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Definitely NOT hot and acts it-what an instant turn off. At least PRETEND to be humble!! It really brings people down-anyone really-who brag or boast. Some people respect that though, as false modesty is just hiding that killer ego.
Lizzie60 Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 That's what I'm getting at. So let me rephrase my question. Do you prefer "hot and acts it" or "hot and doesn't"? Well I'm sure you won't get any 'hot and acts it'... I prefer.. hot and doesn't... but if they're hot and act it..and I get all their attention (one guy comes to my mind) then it's cool...
Star Gazer Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Part of me thinks that those of us who aren't all that confident and secure with our own appearance would prefer someone who's hot but acts like they don't know it so that their confidence doesn't make us insecure, and that those of us who are 100% confident in our appearance wouldn't care if the person we were with was as well. However, I can totally understand anyone's desire to avoid hanging out with an arrogant narcissist. I think there's a fine line there. Does that make sense? I mean, I'm not the most confident person when it comes to my appearance, and so I generally prefer to be with someone who's not aware of how hot/sexy/attractive they are. But there was a time when I was much more confident in how I looked (younger, tauter, tighter little bod - haha!), and at that time I actually preferred a guy who knew that he was attractive. Hmph. But then again, how does someone act like they're hot? Is it just that they talk about how hot they are, or...?
Trialbyfire Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Part of me thinks that those of us who aren't all that confident and secure with our own appearance would prefer someone who's hot but acts like they don't know it so that their confidence doesn't make us insecure, and that those of us who are 100% confident in our appearance wouldn't care if the person we were with was as well. However, I can totally understand anyone's desire to avoid hanging out with an arrogant narcissist. I think there's a fine line there. Exactly. I always wonder, when someone is really hot, then doesn't appear to know it, using modesty as a way to draw compliments. As for hot or not, it's weird for me. Men tend to get hotter, the more I invest.
Star Gazer Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Exactly. I always wonder, when someone is really hot, then doesn't appear to know it, using modesty as a way to draw compliments. I think my BF used false modesty at the very beginning of our relationship to draw compliments. To me, he's damn hot (even objectively). When I first complimented him, he would say, "Oh, stop it." Now he says, "I know" with a wink and then compliments me back. I kinda like that he owns his hottness.
JeanQueen Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 How odd. I was just having this discussion with a friend of mine. I like the guys who are hot (to me) but don't really know how attractive they are. In fact, I don't even talk to or give a second look at the guys that everyone thinks are hot, because chances are everyone tells them that, so they tent to be rather full of themselves. I know I'm fairly decent looking, but I don't walk around acting like it. In fact, I probably over self-depricate.
amaysngrace Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 I don't know. I think I am one of those hot girls who doesn't know it. Because guys look at me all the time. Women too. And I've been told how sexy I am for a really long time. Sometimes I know I am sexy but sometimes I don't try to be but I still get the same attention no matter how I feel about myself. It's like I don't try to be sexy. Definitely not. But in certain circumstances I know that I am incredibly hot, like in private. Can guys sense this about someone?
Trialbyfire Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 I think my BF used false modesty at the very beginning of our relationship to draw compliments. To me, he's damn hot (even objectively). When I first complimented him, he would say, "Oh, stop it." Now he says, "I know" with a wink and then compliments me back. I kinda like that he owns his hottness. No offense but my kinda' guy. A touch of arrogance is nice too, as long as it's not the dominant trait. Know your strengths and have confidence in them.
WIGIRL Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 I like hot and knows it! They know how to man handle me the way I want to be handled!! A man with confidence is more sexy than his physical appearance. Even if he is mistaken about his degree of "hotness," as long as the confidence goes with it, wow.
Star Gazer Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 No offense but my kinda' guy. A touch of arrogance is nice too, as long as it's not the dominant trait. Know your strengths and have confidence in them. Offense? None taken! From you, that's a compliment!
Lizzie60 Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 but the worst has to be the guy who think he is... when he's not...
amaysngrace Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 I know I'm fairly decent looking, but I don't walk around acting like it. In fact, I probably over self-depricate. Yeah this is how I am too. I fluctuate and probably don't give myself enough credit but others kind of let me know by they way they act to me. But then there are times that I know it. In private and sometimes in public too. But very rarely in public. Maybe that's what draws attention to me...the fact that I don't seek it?
Florida Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 It is a nice quality especially when it's genuine, like it sounds with you. I have a few gor-geous friends, and they are very easy going and kind, they don't even notice when they get looks all the time.
amaysngrace Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 It is a nice quality especially when it's genuine, like it sounds with you. I have a few gor-geous friends, and they are very easy going and kind, they don't even notice when they get looks all the time. Thank you. It's hard not to notice when all eyes are on you. This happens sometimes to me. It makes me uncomfortable to be honest.
Storyrider Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Arrogance puts me off from the get-go, but confidence is a nice feature. As for hotness, that is very subjective for me. In fact, I've learned just because I find a man nice to look at, doesn't mean he will excite my desire. If he is pretty, his picture might look nice in my livingroom, but that doesn't mean I want him in my bed.
Florida Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 I've found that that elusive charisma goes a very long way. But that is hard to agree on, one person's charisma is as charismatic as mashed potatoes to the next person (meaning-we're not all going to agree on it!)
shadowplay Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Somewhere in between. My ideal is a hot guy who knows he's decent looking but doesn't realize the full extent of his attractiveness. You want to be able to make him feel special when you compliment his appearance. Your compliments will mean nothing to a guy who already thinks he's hot stuff.
Pyro Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Simple question. Just curious which people prefer in the opposite sex. Opinions? And this only refers to outward behavior... we can never know if someone truly knows it or not. I prefer hot and doesn't. If she is hot and knows it, then she better not gloat about it because that will just make her ugly in my eyes.
Mustang Sally Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 I agree with others. There is a fine line between arrogance and confidence. The ones I like best are the ones who know how to ride that line. (i.e. a little of both.)
Cobra_X30 Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Thought. As a guy... the "hot" metrics are a little different. Get your body into great shape, dress well, and have good hygiene... and suddenly your hot. So in all honesty, bieng attractive is in large part the way you present yourself.
Mustang Sally Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Cobra - That's an interesting angle. For women, it seems "hot" is more about what God gave you or didn't. Or maybe I got that wrong? Certainly, both genders can maximize the genetic potential by being fit, and presenting one's best face, so to speak.
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