Crestfallen_KH Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 Good for you! Way to take the initiative to take care of yourself with exercise. Treating yourself right now is exactly what you should be doing. I would advise you to strap in and get comfy...I predict he's going to keep at this for the next few days. He's likely going to alternate between being sweet and nice and cold and mean. One hour, he'll be trying to play up on your sympathy, and the next hour he'll be trying to bruise your ego. I don't think he's going to give up on this for awhile. See, what you have done is taken back the control that he used to have. He used to have the control in his relationship with you and his other girlfriend. Now that you are taking that control away from him (by refusing to respond or cave into his manipulations), he's going to struggle for a bit trying to get it back. He doesn't like it - that hasn't been the dynamic, so he's confused and lost. He may appear give up after awhile, but I also predict that will be temporary. I don't think he's just going to walk away from this, but what he's fighting for right now is control of you, NOT you - does that make sense? So, don't let him take you down with him. He needs to live with his decisions and his actions. You can hold your head up high and move on, even though it will be hard. You're a very strong person. Remember - when people show you who they are, believe them. Don't listen to the words. His actions have already shown you the type of person he is.
Author LKPJ Posted December 20, 2007 Author Posted December 20, 2007 Yesterday, was horrible. No stop phone calls the whole night before and texts that I refused to answer. So, of course the whole morning turned into non-stop back and forth at work. Me saying leave me alone, him saying the usual. There was a happy hour special going on at the bar down the block from us from work that a lot of coworkers were going to. It turned into a big which one of us was going ordeal, which then turned into a fight and me going home upset. But a friend texted me and asked when I was stopping by, so I went back. And my ex had actually left by the time I got there, but not before he left a really angry voicemail for me. I stayed for a beer, got a free t-shirt and left. I did wind up talking to him last night. We both calmed down and I think he almost half gets what I’m saying about him not contacting me. He stilled asked me to set up his xmas tree with him. I told him he was crazy. But he’s left me alone today at work. One good morning and that was it. If he can respect my NC request this time, I’ll be surprised but happy. I told him he’s the most immature 30yo I know. Bringing up his age always bothers him because he feels so old. Out of all of his friends and brothers he’s the only one not married, with the exception of one friend with a horrible cocaine addiction (enough said). But all in all…TODAY IS GOING GREAT.
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