OverNow Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 What is so bad about drinking a little(Not getting blind drunk), just enough to get help you sleep after a break up for the first week or so? I find it helps to neutralize those little pangs of desperation of wanting to call your ex. Any thoughts?
polywog Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Well, drinking is a depressant, for one thing. It might feel good at first, but then you feel depressed after it wears off. The other thing is that you don't sleep as deeply when you've been drinking close to bedtime. Those are some reasons to take it easy with drinking during the miserable times.
curiousnycgirl Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 I see nothing wrong with it. In fact I've had trouble sleeping for the past week and I've been exhausted - last night my b/f and I split a bottle of wine and I slept through the night for the first time in days! Felt soooo much better this am!
Author OverNow Posted December 17, 2007 Author Posted December 17, 2007 Yeah, I don't sleep as deeply, but I get deeper sleep than I would without it. I see it as a bit of a trade-off. Its probably not the best for me, but I'd feel a lot better the next morning than I would if I gave into my urges and called her. Again, though, I'd like to make the distinction between drinking just a little and getting blind drunk.
Touche Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 Yeah, well trust me on this. If you're not careful and you start relying on it too much, you'll need more and more to achieve the same result. Also, eventually what will happen is that it will not keep you from calling the ex but will actually do the opposite. Your inhibitions and judgment will be lowered to the point where you WILL call her and you'll feel terrible about it the next day. I think that the very fact that you're asking about this tells me that you are in danger of taking this too far. Becoming too independent. You don't have to be "blind drunk" to become an alcoholic. Did you know that? So I ask you. What do you call "drinking just a little?"
amaysngrace Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 I think that the very fact that you're asking about this tells me that you are in danger of taking this too far. ^^^There's a lot of truth in that statement. The problem with drinking to get by is that you don't learn how to get by on your own. Which is very necessary to live a healthy happy life. And using a crisis as an excuse to drink can take you down a path you may regret later on.
Author OverNow Posted December 17, 2007 Author Posted December 17, 2007 A "little" would be just enough to relieve the heart pain. I don't think I'm in danger at all. I know its probably bad for me and hence, I only do this once or two nights a week. Trouble is, the other nights are kinda hard, and I do tend to end up making useless phone calls. I also make it a point to turn my phones off and put them somewhere out of the way when i do.
Freddy Posted December 17, 2007 Posted December 17, 2007 I drank everyday after my breakup(from June to October). It was only the way I could take the pain away but It took me nowhere. I regret doing this and wish I could take it all back.
82knightrider Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 Yeah drinking helps me . I only drink when Im happy and on friday and sat nights after a long work week to relax.I also make it a point to go out and have drinks with friends weather its a gathering at a friends house,club ,or bar. Make it a point that you keep it to a minimum and dont drink alone if your still suffering the break up blues
KenzieAbsolutely Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 Yeah, I don't sleep as deeply, but I get deeper sleep than I would without it. isn't that a contradiction? i have to agree with touche on this one. if you're asking, it means you're justifying to yourself, or to someone who questions your recent behaviour.
Lizzie60 Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 What is so bad about drinking a little(Not getting blind drunk), just enough to get help you sleep after a break up for the first week or so? I find it helps to neutralize those little pangs of desperation of wanting to call your ex. Any thoughts? Well, if you can control yourself.. go ahead.. try it and see, just make sure that you don't rely on alcool every time you need to deal with your problems... but if you think a few weeks might help.. then go ahead...
Phateless Posted December 18, 2007 Posted December 18, 2007 This is a bad precedent to set. You're using an emotional crutch. Prove to yourself that you're strong enough to survive by surviving. I did.
LakesideDream Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 If you are sensitive to booze, have a history of alchaholism in your family, or believe you are prone to addiction, you should say away from the booze. If not, things are a little different. I am not prone to alcahol addiction. I enjoy 16 year of Scotch.. and generally consume about a liter a year, 3 oz at a time. At the time of my divorce, I went through half a bottle a day, for six weeks. At the end of that time, I stopped enjoying the feeling and stopped drinking it. I still have a bottle and a half from the last case I bought 7 years ago. Each of us is different. Booze isn't a problem for some people. For those people self medicating with booze may be a reasonable thing. For others it's Zanex etc. Just my opinion.....
Touche Posted December 19, 2007 Posted December 19, 2007 A "little" would be just enough to relieve the heart pain. I don't think I'm in danger at all. I know its probably bad for me and hence, I only do this once or two nights a week. Trouble is, the other nights are kinda hard, and I do tend to end up making useless phone calls. I also make it a point to turn my phones off and put them somewhere out of the way when i do. That's a HUGE red flag to me. What do you consider a "little?" You won't say. And please trust me. I'm not judging you.
Author OverNow Posted December 21, 2007 Author Posted December 21, 2007 isn't that a contradiction? i have to agree with touche on this one. if you're asking, it means you're justifying to yourself, or to someone who questions your recent behaviour. I mean, it would be difficult to fall asleep quickly without it, as I've always had a history of difficulty with sleep during times of stress. But the sleep I get would be lighter than the sleep I get during stress-free times. Hopefully that makes sense..>_< It might sound like that I'm trying to justify my "behaviour." I haven't done it since I posted and don't intend to. I don't have any urges to either. I actually did want to hear some opinions and thoughts on this. I guess you'll just have to trust me..=\ A "little" would be two standard drinks.
Touche Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 I mean, it would be difficult to fall asleep quickly without it, as I've always had a history of difficulty with sleep during times of stress. But the sleep I get would be lighter than the sleep I get during stress-free times. Hopefully that makes sense..>_< It might sound like that I'm trying to justify my "behaviour." I haven't done it since I posted and don't intend to. I don't have any urges to either. I actually did want to hear some opinions and thoughts on this. I guess you'll just have to trust me..=\ A "little" would be two standard drinks. So you haven't had a drink in 4 days and when you do drink you only have two at one time? Ok, then. If that's really the case, then, I don't see the problem. But I'm still wondering why you're asking. Because normally, if you have to ask, then there is a problem.
Nemo Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 So you haven't had a drink in 4 days and That's some willpower. To last that long, I mean. Unless it was a protracted blackout. I know that when I wake up from blacking out, I really need a stiff drink. Or three.
Touche Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 That's some willpower. To last that long, I mean. Unless it was a protracted blackout. I know that when I wake up from blacking out, I really need a stiff drink. Or three. Oh shut the eff up, you! How ignorant. (Glad to see your ass back though:love:)
Nemo Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 Oh shut the eff up, you! How ignorant. (Glad to see your ass back though:love:) That reminds me - mood swings are common. Just ride them out.
oppath Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 If I ever endure a painful breakup again, I'm going OFF ALCOHOL for 2 months. It was responsible for some long and mean emails I sent her -- to be expected when her friends take me drinking and then tell me "so yeah, her ex boyfriend proposed to her. She told us to promise not to tell you" -- and in general, enhanced depression. I didn't use it as a crutch so to speak, but when I was drinking with my buddies, I drank hard. It made things worse. To help you sleep...try some chamomille tea instead. Alcohol can sometimes help you fall asleep but it does not help you sleep through the night. I doubt you will wake up well rested or enter REM sleep.
D-Lish Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 I too began to have some drinks by myself before bedtime following a break up and some other devastating news that left me feeling lonley and depressed. I have to tell you, that it became a habit- and the habit turned into a problem. My background? No abuse of alcohol in the past- never felt the need to have a drink besides weekend outings with my friends. Had never drank alone in my life. If you start- you may not be able to stop. It does feel good at first- and it does make the world a little happier and less complicated for the first 3 or 4 drinks..... not so much after that. If you need help sleeping- ask your doc for a perscription sleeping pill that is not addictive. That is what i do now. When I get the urge to drink alone at my computer- I take a sleeping pill and go to bed. You may think you can control it- maybe you can. It's dangerous to start though.
spookie Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 No one's gonna tell you that using alcohol to cope is the healthy way. But, substance abuse following a traumatic event is probably pretty common, and most people seem to end up ok. Personally, I prefer marijuana to self-medicate with when I'm alone and alcohol when I'm around other people.
Nemo Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 using alcohol to cope is the healthy way. I agree. Alcohol is an all-natural product, with a proven history of making people happy. Sure, there may be some nasty side-effects, but let's avoid the temptation of throwing the baby out with the bathwater.
Touche Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 I requested marijuana as a stocking stuffer!
Nemo Posted December 24, 2007 Posted December 24, 2007 I requested marijuana as a stocking stuffer! Another much-underrated, all-natural product. With an growing list of potential health benefits, published in leading medical journals. OK - maybe just the ones with flagging subscription revenues. Once again, it is important to keep things in perspective. Sure, marijuana might rearrange some of your neurons, but in rare cases this may turn out to be an improvement.
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